Topic : 08/03 Caught in the Act

A few days ago Oprah showcased a woman who was attacked by a huge bear and one could literally hear her screams.  Kendra has the terror and horror of someone who is being attacked by a huge animal and lives with this every second of her life.

I sometimes find people who perceive the world in such a way they believe they aren't developing reasonably have extreme anxiety and then want to reach out and 'grab' whatever is available to them because at their base is that bear that is attacking them and they cannot survive unless they remove the bear. 

If you live in the beauty of your own life and accept your life you will find greater happiness.

I feel meditations are helpful.  In this case your mother had issues and was not able to parent you to see the beauty in your life and the truth that you have goodness and strength in your soul.  Find a beautiful flower, tree,  or whatever you see as beauty and hold that thought in your mind, then remind yourself that you too are beautiful.  Feel your beauty deep within your solar plexus (your gut) and feel this light up your entire body.  Think to yourself I am beautiful.  That is my truth.

There are times we encounter people or situations along the way that leave us feeling like we are simply not enough.  If one does this type of meditation every day this becomes a strong pattern in our lives so that when people or situations make us unhappy we've established our own pattern and can immediately envision our meditation and put that feeling into our mind.

Life is a process.  People can and do heal the pain from their childhood and forgive themselves for actions they regret.  A forgiveness and nourturing  meditation comes to mind.  See your life, both as you were yesterday, are today, and will be tomorrow, See the sense of fulfillment and completion you have at the end of this life.  See yourself making mistakes along the way and realize that everyone else is too.  End by feeling love, awareness and the strong sense of acceptance and forgiveness that allows you to accept, care for, and protect yourself.

First I'll be perfectly frank and say that I think these pageants are dumb.

Second, if a girl enters, she knows the rules.

So, she has to play by them, and that's that.

We watch, read and write so much about the roles of men and women when we should be focused on the way people treat people.  You needn't single out one gender when speaking about issues such as infidelity.  While I concede that there are clear and obvious differences, I also believe there is a huge amount of common ground.  No decent, caring person is going to cheat.  Period. 

Your point about women having been treated unfairly is not just valid, it is a crucial factor for our understanding if we are to become the best society possible.  Unlike some men, I think that the recognition of the true value of women is to my advantage.  Why call my wife my partner if I'm unwilling to let her be a true partner?

So, I define the "role of a woman" to be one of making herself the fullest and most complete person she can and then sharing that with a family if she chooses, or the world, or both.

Perhaps the Trump Organization and the Pageant have been unfair to you.  I think that they were not.  I saw the show and I do not remember ever hearing you say that you were sorry for your prior actions.  The attitude displayed was not one of defiance, but it was not one of remorse either.  What I heard was more of an attitude that I did what I did and I can't change that.  What I did was not a big deal and I should not be held accountable for it.  They are just pictures.  It was an isolated incident.  Never once did I hear you say you were sorry for your actions or that you made a stupid mistake, and wish you could take it back.  Perhaps it was this very same attitude that caused the pageant to strip you of your title.  You are a beautiful woman, but you don't need this attitude.  And I agree with Dr. Phil, though he did not directly say it, your wardrobe of the day did not speak of remorse.  It was pretty and classy, but it spoke of 'For Sale', not of 'I am a classy person and am here in a remorseful attitude and seek redemption for my past actions, and vow to overcome the past and set a course for future success'.  I do wish you luck.  And, as to not being a role model, forget the escape attempt, we all are, whether we like it or not.  We cannot escape our actions or words, so we need to take responsibility for them past, present and future.  Set yourself on a pedestal, no one else will.