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Created on : Friday, February 23, 2007, 02:18:10 pm

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(Original Air Date: 03/02/07) Do you live on the edge without thinking about the consequences? Dr. Phil's first guest made headlines across America. Crowned Miss Nevada in October 2006, Katie Rees was dethroned two months later when pictures of her in compromising positions surfaced. Why does she say her punishment was unfair? Then, David admits that he used to sneak out of the house in the middle of the night to have sex with another woman while his wife, Sara, slept. He got away with it for a while, until Sara woke up and went knocking on the other woman's door, catching David with his pants down. Should Sara give David another chance, or is David not ready to make a change? Dr. Phil has some tough questions for him. And, Kendra, 26, has been shoplifting since she was 9 years old. She's been to jail once and is currently on probation, but says she just can't stop stealing. You won't believe who taught her how to do this! Dr. Phil has a strong warning for this mother of three. Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

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shifftysgirl

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March 16, 2007, 8:52 pm PDT

why,why,why

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people who cheat are weak and need self-help programs but the ones who allow it are even more in of help.unless you like that and enjoy knowing your significant othe doing these things.most don`t.move on.go to a wedding,bring home a piece of wedding cake and place under your pillow and you will dream of your future husband. try that one.

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March 20, 2007, 12:12 pm PDT

Forgiveness/Just men?

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I think this comment is sad. It shows me that you have probably never been in a situation like this before and if you have you have not found peace due to your unforgiveness. I don't think one can every forget but forgiveness is always possible and forgiving does not promote this sort of behavior from men.

I agree that forgiveness is our own key to happiness. However, I dare say that so many who've responded to this subject forget that women cheat too!

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March 26, 2007, 9:06 pm PDT

03/02 Caught in the Act

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Yes, I debated that very issue with my ex. after his 3rd affair, and no he didn't get it in the least. We have been divored for 5 years now, and about 6 months ago I got a very long email from him telling me how sorry he was for all the hurt, he caused me. I think he does understand alittle better, But not enough to have a face to face with me! I also would find it hard to go on Dr.Phil and air my laundry, but I sure wish that he had been on tv 20 years ago, I probably would have ended it alot sooner.

all you people who have been quote cheated on need to move on!! life isn`t always fair.the people who have hurt you are loving the fact that , that they got the best of you and you are still talking about it .yeah, having someone you love have sex with someone else is really really bad, but moving on is better. you know,try to pray for that person.acceptance is forgiveness.let it go and be a better person.all these cheaters are wining if you let them that wat they did ruined your life.put your thoughts into something that will work for you.

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March 31, 2007, 9:54 am PDT

I've cheated too

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I agree that forgiveness is our own key to happiness. However, I dare say that so many who've responded to this subject forget that women cheat too!

I have cheated several different times. I've never been couhgt, but it still haunts me that I made such a big mistake. I think it was six different guys and too many time to count. When I found out that I was pregnant, I told my husband that it might not be his. He was very upset(of course). The other men made me feel beatiful, wanted. They made me feel things my husband didn't. When the baby was born we did not do a dna test. My husband refused it. I guess he really didn't want to know. The baby looks exactly like my husband, but we still don't know, or ever will. I still get the urge to cheat, but I look at my family and think that they are more important. Since I was practicaly a virgin when I met my husband, I'm still curious about other guys. I am young still, and just wondering what else I can get.

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June 1, 2007, 12:01 am PDT

The Do'h! Award

Cheating is a deal-breaker! (and I'm not writing about porn or looking at others with lust--I mean real sex!) If you forgive this behavior, you're sending a message--"Hey, I'm upset--but after you're done banging that person, I'll be here to give you hell for a few days--But I'm still here! Yaaaa-aaay!"

Real peace is saying "goodbye" to trash. Who needs it? I've dumped chicks for a lot less--why would I put up with this? It's nonsense.

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July 28, 2007, 9:12 am PDT

08/03 Caught in the Act

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people who cheat are weak and need self-help programs but the ones who allow it are even more in of help.unless you like that and enjoy knowing your significant othe doing these things.most dont.move on.go to a wedding,bring home a piece of wedding cake and place under your pillow and you will dream of your future husband. try that one.

What are you talking about?

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July 28, 2007, 11:17 am PDT

Doctor Phil Show

Act Caught Doctor In Phil The. Here we go again. Last day of the week. See you next week. Sincerley Your. Russell Vlaanderen.-------------------------------------------------------------------------

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July 29, 2007, 12:00 am PDT

bouncing off the subject

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I don't understand how any woman with respect for herself, something all women should place first in their life, stay with a man who has cheated on her. My ex-husband was a (please excuse the expression) slut. He cheated on me the night before we got married, even, but I thought he'd stop when we were married...........NOT. I never caught him in the act but people constantly told me about him being with this person or that person. Funny how many men even, came to me and asked if I thought he would ever have sex with men. It caused me to wonder why they would ask, after a while I realized why. I gave him the benefit of the doubt for over ten years until one day he got drunk and broke down crying and told me everything, from the fact that he had sex with men, women, his neices, even got his own half sister pregnant. I should have left him much earlier in the marriage, it would have saved me a whole lot of money. I was his third wife, I heard he married again after me, and divorced again and married again. I don't mind that he and I are not together, I have my self-respect and my sanity. I have a great life that I've made for myself all on my own. I've been single now for over 20 years and am loving it. I've been retired since December 31, 2004, financially secure by my own efforts and life is a blast. I've worked hard to get to where I am now but my credit score, which I got to on my own, is a whopping 797! YAHOO. I'm free to do anything I want.

Forgive me, but I fail to see how posting your credit score is proof positive of having moved on from an obviously sex-addicted ex. Congrats and all of that jazz, but honestly, it is so very odd that you make that connection. It almost sounds like you decided that to obtain a high FICO, you sacrificed 20 years of your life and missed out on the fulfillment of a true, loving relationship with a better choice in partners.

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July 29, 2007, 9:48 am PDT

WHY IS IT ALWAYS ABOUT YOU???

If you are with in a relationship with someone, you expect the relationship to grow and deepen over time; you expect a heart connection to be made and maintained. You operate your life based on this expectation. When your partner in the relationship does not or cannot make an emotional connection, the relationship becomes very painful. Some of my favorite books that provide a great introduction and insight into personality types most capable of repeated infidelity are:

Why is it Always About You? The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism by Sandy Hotchkiss AND Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward

Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited by Sam Vaknin MAYBE The Professional Bachelors Dating Guide: How to Exploit Her Inner Psycho by Dr Brett Tate

Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery From Borderline Personality Disorder by Rachel Reiland OR Girl Interrupted by Susanna Kaysen OR The Angry Heart: Overcoming Borderline and Addictive Disorders by Joseph Santoro and Ronald Cohen

Healthy Boundaries Workbook: Using Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills to Set and Maintain Better Boundaries by Deborah Deiboldt Legge OR Overcoming Passive-Aggression by Tim Murphy and Loriann Oberlin

Healing Anxiety and Depression (7 types of anxiety and depression) by Daniel Amen and Lisa Routh OR Getting Help: The Complete and Authoritative Guide to Self-Assessment and Treatment of Mental Health Problems by Jeffrey Wood

How to Journal for Therapy:

http://arar.essortment.com/therapyjournali_repu.htm

Though harder to spot, emotional abuse is easier to deny. But just as physical abuse has signposts to mark its presence, emotional abuse, being a systematic attack on one's sense of self, has common traits. Physical abuse comes in degrees of severity - emotional abuse also runs the gamut of intensity and damage.

Hope it helps!

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August 1, 2007, 6:06 am PDT

???

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Forgive me, but I fail to see how posting your credit score is proof positive of having moved on from an obviously sex-addicted ex. Congrats and all of that jazz, but honestly, it is so very odd that you make that connection. It almost sounds like you decided that to obtain a high FICO, you sacrificed 20 years of your life and missed out on the fulfillment of a true, loving relationship with a better choice in partners.

I've seen numerous replies to people's comments that they have shared, that are a tad on the rude side? What is up with that? People are sharing their stories.. if you don't want to hear it or read it... SKIP IT! If you have honest advice for someone, give it.. but don't give it. If you don't understand why someone wrote what they did, big deal.

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