Topic : 08/03 Caught in the Act

Today is about  David, who cheats on his wife, Sarah.  Sarah said she woke up, David was gone, and she went to the house where he was at.  She said she wanted to tear the woman's hair out.  She said this woman needs to leave her husband alone.

HELLOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO  Wake up Sarah.  WAKE UP!!!!!  This woman didn't come to your home, hit him over the head, and drag him back to her house.  DAVID LEFT YOUR HOUSE AND WENT TO THE OTHER WOMAN'S HOUSE. 

So, let's keep this in perspective.  DAVID needs to leave the other woman alone.  DAVID needs to be married to you or get out.  DAVID needs to get up in the night, go to the bathroom, miss the bowl like most men do, THEN GET BACK IN BACK WITH HIS WIFE!!!!!

Your first line of defense (or offense) should not be directed at the woman whose house your husband went to.  Your first anger should be AT HIM!!!    Finish raking him over the coals - begin and end your anger with him.  Fight the 'other woman' when you wake up and find her in YOUR bed!!!

I couldn't help but be sadden while watching today's episode, knowing there would be other women out there hating on the young Ms. Nevada for her actions.  We spend thousands if not millions of dollars a year on medication and gym memberships and trips to the mall to make us feel better about ourselves and especially our bodies-  When here, we have a young women who is proud of how she looks, and able to admit she may have made bad choices.  We condone her, but have no problem defending a woman who chooses to stay with an unfaithful man, who we know has children-  We want to stop the cycle of men cheating and disrespecting women?  We stop saying it is okay for women to stay in unfaithful and unloving and unhealthy relationships because of kids-  Guess what?  I would rather my daughter learn acceptance and pride in her body, than that it is okay to accept an unfaithful partner, because she has kids.  We teach our kids through actions-  I heard Ms. Nevada apologize for her mistake, but not once heard the wife apologize for staying or for teaching her children that this behavior (cheating and ignoring) were acceptable. 

I would have worn the dress if I could!  And the sad thing is, we love to hate on each other don't we women?  She may chose to star in porn, and as long as there are weak women who stay in cheating relationships there will be men who purchase porn.  Let's stop hating and judging each other ladies and start building each other up and supporting each other.  It may be harder than hating on a young girl with a good body who we may envy-  but we all want the same things- to be successful, feel good about our bodies, our minds and be loved unconditionally even when we mess up.  God!  If what I did when I was 19 was blasted for everyone to see, I would hate to think how nasty you would judge me-- I admire her for going on the show, knowing how hateful and nasty women are to each other-  I am proud of her confidence of going on TV and sharing what she believed-  too many women don't have this confidence-  and it is because we beat each other down!  We are in this together and we have enough of the world against us to be against each other, regardless of what paths we take.

I think she is missing the point and needs to take a good look at herself.  Miss America is more than just a beauty pageant.  Miss America appeals to many young girls and if you portray yourself as a fornicator, liar, sexual philanderer and just plain full of yourself then maybe a porn star would be more her style.  She appears shallow shallow shallow to me and I am so Thankful she is not representing America and cannot influence our young girls.  I also think the so call second chance for the current Miss America has made the industry a complete joke.    What miss Rees did was morally wrong, its not just having fun.!!  Try having fun and holding on to your morals at the same time.

good luck,

jmho

Are you actually saying that men have a right to cheat on their wives.    What the hell do you mean by "he knows the role of women in modern society?"   Clarify that for me will ya.

If men have a right to sleep with other women before and during the marriage and it be "ok" in society, then women should have the right to do the same.      But no, if a woman sleep around she's a slut but a man is patted on the back and told "way to go"

If a man can't keep it in his pants (other than with his wife)  than he has no business getting married.  Stay single and sleep with whomever he wants.  

What about protection?  Doesn't this guy care about diseases? 

The role of women in modern society is to be a career-minded (yet loving) woman who can balance her family (if she has one) and work.    Women do not need a man to be her protector.  Women are not property.   Women have the right to be whatever she choses to be!

Women have minds and can do quite well without a man.     This is not the 1950's where women are pregnant all thru her life. (LOL)    Any man who thinks that they are superior or more important than women have another thing coming - they are not more important.  

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Anyone who can cheat twice (or more) on a spouse is a cruel, selfish, immature jerk. The person who continues to stay with this type of jerk should be ashamed of herself (or himself). You are simply a glutton for punishment...a self-imposed "victim." Only YOU can change your circumstance. Stand up and have some self-respect. Nobody will respect you if you don't even respect yourself!

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First, let me say I have a great deal of self-respect and many others respect me as well because I have worked hard and have overcome a terrible situation. The lady portrayed in the second segment did NOT catch her husband in the act, she caught him at another woman's house. That's not to say it wasn't obvious what had been going on, but there is a difference. I didn't catch my husband in the act, either. What I found were pictures and videos of him having sex with other women -- several other women -- both in one-on-one AND menage-a-trois scenarios. And I'm still with him over a year later. Why didn't I leave him? Because he expressed true remorse and a willingness to work very hard to change and I recognized that I was not blameless in the destruction of our marriage. I am blameless in his extramarital affairs, but not in creating the environment in which they became a viable option for him. 

We have BOTH worked very hard this past year, we have made our marriage our primary focus and we have both changed. I am absolutely certain he has not cheated on me since the day we agreed to rebuild our marriage. However, it would never have worked if he had not been genuinely remorseful and if he had not been willing to change some of his basic personality traits. I do not believe that the lawyer in this segment is genuinely remorseful or honestly willing to change. I hope his wife understands that, if he does not put 100% of his efforts into rebuilding their marriage and regaining her trust she MUST leave him or accept that he will never be the faithful, loving husband she deserves and the father their children deserve.

You have to wonder how she got as far as she did.  I thank heaven that someone pulled her "Trump" (all puns intended) card!  If Donald Trump didn't stop her, the whole world would have used her as a measure of our countries overall intelligence! 

As soon as I saw her, and I mean as soon as I turned the channel, I could not get pass the yellow spandex dress, ankle tie stillettos, and pole dancer eye makeup!  She looked exactly like the person she said she was not.  She was highly disappointing in her communication, appearance, sincerity...even her posture was WRONG, WRONG, WRONG!  Seriously, is this the type of person that we as Americans would like to represent us?  Not me!  I mean, come on, quoting Charles Barkley...what a Rhodes Scholar she is! 

Was her mother in the audience?  She should have waived her down in between commercial breaks, and coached her a bit...well, alot!  And, "if you got it, flaunt it?", that's really a justification for wearing club wear to a daytime talk show.  Did she think that we would miss her if she didn't pull out the yellow glove?  Did she know that she was the only guest on the stage, so there was no need to stand out?  Where oh where do we get these types of personalities?  She must be lobbying for the "silly spot" that Nicole Richie seems to be willingly giving up on the empty shell circuit!

She irritated me so much, that I could not even finish watching the show!  I was too busy praying for the light to go on in her head!  Hello.....is anybody in there?  She should just enjoy her 15 minutes, and fade into the happy space known as CLUELESS! 

Some people are beyond your help Dr. Phil!