Topic : 03/09 Dominating Spouses

Quote From: jande34808

This is my husband's view of marraige. Own nothing together.He refused to put up his credit to purchase a car with me  Don't answer your wife when she asks a question. Have no goals.  Call her names.Yell at her when she gets upset. Talk on the phone  in low voice and don't answer your wife when she asks who it was.Take away purchases and give them to someone else if she asks where he went. Comes home from work and tells his wife that he is sooo close to a woman at work. It is supposed to be ok in his culture. Yea,right. Tells his wife that his grown  children come first. And he will take second job in order to support them. I only get one check a month from him due to a deal I made at the beginning of the marraige.  Drive crazy if she asks a question in the car to the point where she is flung all over the car and hurt. If I mention another person's name in a conversation he will call that person and asked what his wife was saying about him.Withhold affection for days after a disagreement.Get mad at restuarants if he does not agree with my conservation.Get mad to the point where his veins are sticking out,(rages) I can get over things in 5 minutes.Threatens not to sign divorce papers unless I go for citizenship interview later this month.Goes where he wants when he wants,and comes back when he wants. Has moved in and out at least 20 times in the past 5 yrs. He gossips worse than any woman I have ever met..I could go on and on .......... How can I go to citizenship interview when we own nothing together? .They look for bank accounts,credit cards,loans,auto titles,etc.etc. I am not going to lie for him.And you cannot lie anyway. It is either black and white or it is not proof Two pastors have explained to him how to treat his wife but he does not seem to get the message.Sorry if this last part is off topic. But these types of men are either mentally ill or have arrested development or they do not care.My husband is like living with a 16 y/o. I never know what he is going to do or say next.

Quote From: afraid

hears you one mamawolf, this is one of my favorites, she be a white snow wolf.

Quote From: julie1418

Responsible women use birth control.

 

And what do responsible men do?

Quote From: prekteacher20

i think he is tring to push me away because he does not know how to handle someone who loves him in return.  He is always telling me that he he had it rough growing up.  His ex-wife cheated on him as for my ex cheated on me.  I think he trully loves me but doesn't know what to do  With the things that have happened to me in the past I will definintly wait and make sure this is the right one

Quote From: misshottemper

I am a very controlling wife, sometimed down right mean. I think I do it because I get away with it and he says nothing to defend himself.

Quote From: penny_lady

What is your "reward" for doing this to your husband? You love him, so why would you be mean to him? What are you getting out of it?