Topic : 04/04 Did He or Didn't He?

Please, try to be more empathetic. If you were falsely accused of something so vile, you'd be having a "pity party" too...

i am outraged, to the thought of making this man something that he is not...god forbid that i am wrong..the two women on the show distoyed this mans life without any prof...i believe that child malesters or rapest need to go to jail...but this inocent(as we know it) man needs a chance to at life...and now he is put out to the world that he is a malester...and the two women are just sitting there as if they are so high and mighting and dr.phil had no comments about them...same on you dr.phil...i always believed that you are there for the little people...

 

p.s. love your show(just not this one)

 

signed---outraged

As with any case of abuse or sex offenses, there is no proof when there is no actual physical evidence.  The same is true for women who have been raped or sexually harassed.  People take sides and form opinions of the accused and the accusers.  It is extremely sad and painful to witness.  The reality is that the victim in all of this, regardless of Steven's guilt, is the child.  Without a doubt, the adults are discussing this, debating it, and arguing about this topic in front of her.  Whether or not she was touched inappropriately should not have any bearing on her getting help (a.k.a. therapy).  She is permanently marked now by her family's behavior around this entire incident.  Every event, every relationship, and every emotion is going to be filtered by this circumstance.  I can appreciate the desire to protect this child, but how we handle a crisis and how we respond to a moment will always influence the future.  Whether she was hurt or not, she, and the whole family needs to get therapy to deal with this entire circumstance.  If they continue down the path that they are taking, their actions will cloud their reasons...their persecution will overshadow the safety and well-being of the child.    

as a mother of an innocent chiild that has been accused i hope that we can prove our innocence and i feel for your brother and your family! stay strong and the childs mother and grandmother need their heads examined along with the child should still be incounceling, as should my step daughter but according to her mother it just made the behavior worse! go figure!

I am concerned with the outcome of today's show.  I think that much of the show was spent discussing Steven, Jr. and not the child.  Gut feelings can be wrong and I feel that Pam & Tashika were sent home with no direction.  I'd never before felt frustrated or disappointed after watching a Dr. Phil show, but today was a first.  It really bothered me the way Dr. Phil kept referring to Pam & Tashika as "these two".  I felt he somewhat shifted his view during the show and it became about healing a father / son relationIationship - instead of pursuing truth to the disturbing allegations brought forth.  I know the polygraph test was inconclusive but there MUST be a way to uncover the truth.  I even thought they should seek out a clairvoyant.  Anything.  Something.  This situation is unfortunate and painful not only for Steven, Jr. and Julia, but for the entire family.  I feel Pam & Tashika need to continue their quest for the truth somehow and I would be very pleased if Dr. Phil would help them.

I watched todays show and am not sure if the guy is being truthful. Previous accusations make me concerned and the particulars of what the child said are pretty strange to be made up. However, I noticed the guy had some sort of neurological tick (his head/neck tick).  If my child or nephews ever accused anyone of this sick behavior, I would follow up to the fullest extent and even if it could not be proven, I would never leave this person ALONE with any child ever!!!!

 I am not saying that I think Steven did it.  There is no way of us knowing that.  But I do think that everyone should be worrying about the child a whole lot more and about Steven a whole lot less.  As someone who molested starting at the age of 4, I would be extremely upset if I told my mother that I was molested and named the person and then people did not believe me.  I never told anyone what happened to me until I was in my teens so if the accusations are true I applaud the child for telling.  I think Dr. Phil should have asked about more information about how and why the child named Steven as the molester.

I hate to be a picky person..but why can there only be one victim here? I think there are MANY "true" victims in this story.

A "clairvoyant" is even LESS scientifically reliable than a polygraph (as in not at all scientifically reliable) it wouldn't prove anything.

Hi Tiffany, I have never signed up for a message board or responded to anything in my life before and I am an "old doll" of 45, but I just wanted to tell you from the bottom of my heart that your brother should stand tall and proud, he was a real true man on todays show.  That took alot of courage and guts.  I was sad to hear what your dad said to him to make him feel he had to do the show but gheesh if it helps at all now he is in many of out prayers that he gets this behind him and becomes even stronger for it.  May these terrible people who would accuse him of such a thing without any proof or real facts one day realize the great harm they have done to your brother.  My heart cries for him as it was so obvious how much he is suffering and may you all request from the Dr. Phil show that he gets any additional help he may need to put this behind him.  You are a great sister and what a team you make.  Your dad should be ashamed of himself for a number of reasons.  I will continue to keep you all in my prayers and asks others to pray for you as well.  Please tell Steven that he did himself PROUD today and he was the first and best person I have ever saw represent himself.  Hats off to him.  Hugs too!  God Bless you all and I hope you lead happy and healthy lives and maybe one day your Dad will get a brain and come find some smart decent lady like myself instead of a lady who wants to drag a deadend tale on for years and years!!!  What goes around comes around Tiffany, hang strong with your brother and his girlfriend and enjoy that new baby that will bring much happiness and love into your lives. Hugs Tiffany