I am So frustrated with her and her out bursts, it is unreal. The person she hurts Physically in these rages is our son. Emotionally the children, ages 7,6, and 29 months.
Background her mother was and is an alcoholic, she beat just about every man she lived with, including daughter in laws dad. She would go out to bars at night leaving the kids (4) at home, with an older sister. The older sister is a crack user, just got out of jail few months ago. She has 4 children too. She got her kids back got a job was clean and one month later is on the streets using again. They have only seen her a few times on the streets. There are warrants out for her. Her brother just got out of prison for assault, was arrest three days ago for assault on his uncle, also with kidnapping his child's mother to get her out of a bad situation. Every member of that family has either been in jail, going to jail, alcoholic's or drug users. The younger sister is like my daughter in law, angry at everyone for unknown reasons. Our Granddaughter is afraid of her. When she was little this woman would call her a little pussy for crying. Our grandchildren are the only ones who are not bi-racial and have 2 parents.
Our son and his wife have used drugs, and we sent them for counseling, through church and one on one professional counseling. It went well until it was time to go as a couple then she decided they didn't need it and quit. Over and over she did this. She has been to inpatient treatment. He has been in jail for domestic violence, that she started and he didn't want the kids to see their mom in jail so he always took the blame. Bleeding and hurt he went 2 or 3 times in her place. How do i know she did this. She would call me at all hours to tell me I did it again, I called the Police I hope your happy. I asked what he had done, was usually the same, HE WON'T Leave me the F* alone. I asked what did you do? I hit him or scratched him, threw something at him. He retaliated 2 times in 8 yrs. Gave her a black eye when she pick up a small end table he built and threw it at his head, busting his head open behind his ear, my husband saw this. She took a belt to his back once hitting him with the buckle, he grabbed it and swung back, hit her calf. Three days later some of her family showed up threatening to kill him for hitting her with a belt. He called the police after the threat, and he went to jail cause she had a bruise on her leg. He didn't show them his back.
She has busted 2 huge fish tanks,one was hit with a pipe of some kind the other a mug was thrown through it, flooding the living room and ruining furniture and clothing. (nasty house keeper) Kicked holes in wall's, busted dishes, or anything my son has had or liked. Bust a fireman's prayer plaque, wooden fire truck, because she could. He was a volunteer firefighter in the other state.
I have told her so many times she needs help. She goes to the Doctor ( com care ) and she tells them she is depressed. I have mentioned Bi-Polar and her family says only crazy people are bi-polar. She has never once told a Dr about her rage and violence. When they moved OUT the first time at our insistence, I told her living in an apartment if the neighbors hear you screaming and throwing things you will be evicted or have the police called. Yup it happened about a month later. She scratched the side of his face then ran off. Neighbors called and they took pictures of his face and put a warrant out for her. She turned her self in, I was in TX visiting at the time. None of her family had money to bail her out, so yea Dang it we did. Went to court but son never came so it was drop and she was sent to anger management. He has been there too. When he went to jail for her.
Our son is not an angel by any means, he has had his bad times to. Drugs, dumb kid stuff growing up. Was on probation as a young teen for vandalism. But he never saw anger in our home, nor fighting, we didn't drink and run around. They were what people called Pew babies, raised in church and cut their teeth on the pews.
He was molested when we moved to another state for job transfer, by his best friends future brother in law. Got him drunk at 15 and took advantage of him. He never told us until years later. But he shared this with his wife. Guess what she calls him when she gets in a rage? F* Fagot.
I have told her I would help and talk to them both anytime they needed help. I have gone over at 2 in the morning to talk to her, calm her down. I have bent over backwards to get her to see the things she is doing.
It has gotten to the point at times I am a F* bitch if I answer the phone, or come running or take her side. Most of the time she calls she is screaming and crying blubbering so loud I can't understand what she is saying so i say OK let me talk to him. He is usually very calm and tells me what happened. They had a really big argument one day I was not at home. When I did get home I have 5 messages from her first one said she needed to talk to me. Second said OK I guess you think you can ignore me. Third one, I really need to talk pick up the F*n phone. OK Bitch go ahead be mean to me. Fourth one was something along the lines of I'm calling the cops,
Fifth one I kicked the fag out of the house enjoy your time with your son and by the way you won't be seeing the gr kids .. your F*n bitch. I had our Pastor listen to them.
This is a monthly occurrence! Like other posters have said it can be a look, word or gesture and she is off on a tangent. Our son has scars on his face, hands, arms, back from her violence towards him.
He has left before for 6 to 8 months was getting a divorce. He stayed several different places, he had to cause she would find out where he was call and threaten to do this or that, call the people names etc.. She taunts him, then begs him to come back. He adores his children and sees what her out bursts are doing to them daily. Our grand daughter was doing so well in school, she is second grader. Our oldest gr son is quiet and will not look you in the eye, he will not read out loud in school or look at the teacher. Our son has talked to both of their teachers and found out the days she blows up at home are the days the kids bring home bad work sheets or get in trouble at school. Littlest guy is just a sweetheart and doesn't understand. Son had his arm busted in two places on the job couple of years ago. He does siding and Carpentry. Was at the elbow, he was hit with a 6 ft. metal level, by the boss's son when our son told him he was doing crack on the job. Two weeks ago daughter in law threw a plate and hit him on the same elbow and busted it open. Has more tingling in the arm again. He told her IF you TOUCH me one more time I am going to lay you out. We gave him a digital cam for Christmas, it is locked in a safe, with pictures of his arm and leg she decided to punch last week, because they had just moved into another house and was doing some painting and fix ups. A friend called wanted her to take her to see her husband in prison. He told the friend he was sorry but they just had to much to do that day. Which she agreed was right. but got mad few minutes later, slapped him then Punched him on the soft side of his knee.
Why doesn't he leave? the kids and no where to go. We told him they can never come back here again. They lived here with us 3 yrs. NO MORE.
I can't have the turmoil in our home anymore. AND that Worst part is All of us just Tiptoe around her. Cause she acts like nothing is wrong and everything is just peachy after a couple of days. Our eldest son would like to put her away. I have never hit anyone in anger ever. Paddled our kids when they needed it. Never in anger. But with her I want to slap the crap out of her every time I see a new scar or scratch on him or hear her calling me a F*N bitch for not helping like I promised. When she gets mad at him she takes alot of her verbal anger out on me. Or see my gr children run and hide when she goes ape. This woman is 28 yrs old, our son is 30. My biggest fear is one of two things will happen.
She will hurt him so bad he could die or He will hurt her and go to prison for ever. It's a different tale almost daily. I am 56 yrs old my hubby wants to retire in a few years, or we would take our gr kids away and never have them see the rage they live with daily.
Miracles happen and I believe in the power of Prayer. Right now my prayer is for strength to endure until change comes. Another holiday is coming and I knoww it will be ruined in one form or another.
Please forgive my rambling on and on. It has helped very much to put this in here. I have journals of just about everything.
God be with each one, and Bless you for your patience with my novel.
Nanakib
(Original Air Date: 04/06/07) Do you know a happy person who, if crossed, will explode in an instant with uncontrollable rage? Intermittent Explosive Disorder may explain why Dr. Phil's guests suddenly lose their temper, break things and even hurt other people. Carrie lives with constant uncertainty. She says her husband, Bob, can be totally calm one minute and be fist-fighting the next. He yells and curses at her, flips off other drivers and hit another man so hard it knocked his eye out; an act of violence that landed him in prison. Where does Bob's anger come from? After Dr. Phil shows Carrie and Bob a video of a previous guest, will Carrie decide to leave the anger prison she's been living in? Then, Traci says her 17-year-old daughter, Melinda, is tearing their family apart. In a matter of seconds, she can go from being a loving daughter and sibling, to throwing blenders and threatening her sister's life, for no apparent reason. Melinda says she's so full of anger that when she gets upset, she feels like she's going to explode. Do her mother and sister deserve the treatment they're getting, or is there something much deeper underlying Melinda's rage? Tell us what you think!
