Quote From: carltoncI was just watching Dr.Phil earlier this evening about the explosive anger. It was heartbreaking to watch the show because I can relate to both of the guests, not quite as extreme as them. Still I wished i could have hugged them both. Both of those guests have become angry over the years because of past events. I can especially relate to the young girl. I have an older sister, and growing up I was like that young girl, trying to be an equal with my sister, or feeling less in her eyes just because of the friends she had that I didn't. The girl on the show felt less than others, and I felt the same way. As an adult I have had to overcome that, and my heart just broke for that girl. As an adult I still have some angry tendencies to the point where I want to scream or hit something. I have tendencies toward mood swings for no reason. I know people share their stories about getting mad and we can all laugh. But for these people and myself included it's scary when your moods change so quickly. For me I feel like when I get mad like I lose all control and usually my anger gets taken out on someone else and it has nothing to do with them. The feeling of losing control and hurting someone else whether physically, emotionally, or verbally is scary. Sometimes you can't even see your anger coming. At least that's how I feel sometimes. This show made me think about possibly seeking help for myself.
Hey there Carlton and anyone whom finds themselves reading this. I can relate to much of what you are saying although the FACTORS and TRIGGERS that set chaotic events in motion most likely differ. I have borderline personality disorder, GAD, and ptsd. These illnesses in my mind are all related to immense trauma I experienced in my life as a child and harbored with me and carried for year after year. My diagnosed illnesses IN MY OPINION were devoloped in my effort to cope with the sexual and physical abuse as well as abandonment issues.
Some came as I endured the trauma others surfaced as post effects. I was unable to recognize my "traits" and some really horrible "learned behavior. I walked around dwelling on what used to be. How It was'nt right , I got the raw deal. I was lucky enough to have a close friend I met help me to recognize that my behavior did contain patterns. That there were things that would upset me. That instead of immediately voicing it ..I would hold it in then blow up. Then there is the other side of things with the borderline, the mania, the questioning of who you are etc etc
I do not feel violent to the point I would touch another person or throw my belongings or hit a wall..I feel angry and tears fall. so I cannot speak about the anger issue except to say I have seen a lot of it as a kid and it solved very little. It is righteous to be angry but it is important to do something productive with the anger. If you haven't seeked help I would say "What do you have to lose?" It took me from age 16 when I ran away from a state run group home to the age of 25. 9 long years to go and talk to someone. To be willing to open up myself to the insight of others.
I still trance out , I still feel brief lapses where I am ready to go off the deep end but I have made good progress and hope to continue to do so. Whatever emotions we feel, we feel. We can even know why we feel them in your case a lot of it resorts to your sister. A lot of mine relates to many people. I came to see myself as others saw me and the important thing is to know you for who you are , to be true to who you are , and above all else lastly I must say this very hard lesson I have seen ring true.. People are just people, they are human , they will at one time or another most likely fail you in some way , expect to face letdowns , hope for the best, put your faith in The Lord and yourself and I believe we all have a particular business to be about here in the world.
What happens in our lives may not always be convienent but it can be insightful, I believe it is our "business" to never stop trying to change, impact the things around us which enflame our hearts wether the heart is enflamed by passion or pain. Anger can also be a great motivator.
Best of luck to You Carlton !
(Original Air Date: 04/06/07) Do you know a happy person who, if crossed, will explode in an instant with uncontrollable rage? Intermittent Explosive Disorder may explain why Dr. Phil's guests suddenly lose their temper, break things and even hurt other people. Carrie lives with constant uncertainty. She says her husband, Bob, can be totally calm one minute and be fist-fighting the next. He yells and curses at her, flips off other drivers and hit another man so hard it knocked his eye out; an act of violence that landed him in prison. Where does Bob's anger come from? After Dr. Phil shows Carrie and Bob a video of a previous guest, will Carrie decide to leave the anger prison she's been living in? Then, Traci says her 17-year-old daughter, Melinda, is tearing their family apart. In a matter of seconds, she can go from being a loving daughter and sibling, to throwing blenders and threatening her sister's life, for no apparent reason. Melinda says she's so full of anger that when she gets upset, she feels like she's going to explode. Do her mother and sister deserve the treatment they're getting, or is there something much deeper underlying Melinda's rage? Tell us what you think!
