Topic : 08/13 The Dr. Phil House: Saving Grace

You and I are going through the same thing, it seems, and I appreciate your response.  I will most certainly be praying for you and your daughter. 

Each day, the pain is there for our kids, and it's so difficult to see them suffer emotionally and physically.  Their molesters have no hearts, feelings or emotions and might as well be dead, for inside them is absolutely nothing but meanness and the devil!  The only thought that makes me get through each day is the Truth they will face when they meet God!  Only He can pour vengenance upon their rotten and damned souls and the rotten and damned souls of Grace's grandfather and grandmother!  They will pay for ALL the pain they have inflicted and ALL the misery they have caused, and that is good enough for me!  And, we won't see them in Heaven! 

From the voice of a victim..........

I was regularly molested over an extended period of time by a close member of the family.  I can tell you honestly I don't give one crap about how the perpetrator, his wife and their son is feeling about the loss of "family".  For me, further contact would have been unimaginable.  Grace is very young and may not fully understand how she should feel.  She has been shocked into a world she should/does know nothing about.  She is likely being further assaulted by the questions of well meaning family,  friends,  doctors,  psycologists, lawyers, etc.   The fact that adults have turned this into a nationwide circus side show makes me physically ill.  For Grace, the full impact of the incident and the events surrounding it may not be felt for some time yet.  Only she will be able to decide if reuniting is ever possible. Until that day her parents must protect her and shield her.  Court order or not.  If her father cannot do that......shame on him.

  From what I saw of the show The child didn't say anything until bath time and the grandmother was in dis-belief  that her husband would do something like that. 

  We had one here two years ago that just now came to trial and the mother didn't report it she talked to the dad  later the next day and this wasn't someone they knew she saw it happen she was in dis-belief and he didn't get arrested for it.    If its really hard for some one you don't know and see.  What it would be like for someone you do know and don't see?

   In the show I heard  the parents talked to the grandparents and the child told the parents. I did not hear the part where the child came back to the house after she told her grandmother and the abuse continued under her grandmothers and parents knowlege.  As far as I know nothing happened to the child after she told the grandmother and the grandmother knew nothing of it before the child said anything. I just dont see where anyone would think it was her fault that her husband abused the granddaugher.

  Which passage is that " it would be better for someone to hang a rock around their necks and drown then to hurt an innocent child" I remember "thou shalt not kill." and besides the grandmother,  Todd doesn't seem to want to disolve ties with his father and wants to forgive him or why would they even be there.  Would you  tie one around his neck too?

So Grampa gets 8 months in jail..big deal, little Grace has to have those sick moments imbedded in her brain for the rest of her life...I WAS Grace at age 11 and let me tell you that I still have nightmares, and feel the physical pain...It takes a lot for me to be able to "shake" the emotional distress I feel when the moments decide to creep back. Which they did when I saw the preview for the show. I had a really hard time watching the show but being a mom now of two beautiful kids I made myself watch it even though I was sick to my stomach.

If I were Cat, I'd have a long hard chat with my husband who can cry for a molester but not for his own little girl who's world was shattered and her innocence was crushed. I trust no one when it comes to my kids, and I dont' think I ever will. I think that even though I'm very protective of my kids, I think being a survivor will help me be more alert to the signs. At least I hope so.