Quote From: ohplease21Ok,
First of all to all of you who claim to have suffered from HG. IF it is SO awful (and maybe it is, I don't know) WHY ON EARTH would you keep getting pregnant after delivering a healthy baby? So many of these posts are "I had HG too, it is so awful, I had it with all 15 of my babies". Of course I am exagerating, but you get my point. It apparently wasn't bad enough to dissuade you from doing it again.
Second, Allison was not suffering from this disease any longer when she signed the papers....so HG can not be used as an excuse for giving her babies away. Did ANYONE ELSE on this board griping about the misery of HG place their babies for adoption? No? Didn't think so.
Third, she kidnapped the children 16 MONTHS later. So, you are going to tell me that HG made her do that too?
Fourth, for all of you spouting the children's "blood right" stay with Allison even though she is obviously unstable, the children were conceived with donor eggs and donor sperm. SO, if you want to look at it that way Allison is not their "parent" either. I wonder what the genetic parents would think of this situation if they knew. Who THEY would want raising these children.
Fifth, the adoptive parents are likely not going public because they have nothing to gain by doing so. They are fighting in a court of law, not the court of public opinion. They did nothing wrong, why should they have to go on national television and defend themselves?
Feel free to keep belly aching about how horrible this "disease" is, I am not saying it's not. My point is it must not be THAT bad or women would not go through another pg after suffering through it once. My personal opinion, surprise surprise, is that it is too bad they are only charging her with parental kidnapping. She should be in prison for life after what she did, but instead she will likely only serve 3 years. If she gets those children back, it will be a travesty.
Many women deeply love children and want to raise them. That's not a surprising idea, I'm sure. But women with HG are willing to sacrifice their own health to try to acheive something others truly take for granted: a living child. Only 2 out of 3 of us succeed? Yes, 1 in 3 of our children die in utero. Whether a family should continue to try carry to term with HG is not up to anyone else to decide. Just as it's no one's business whether you do or do not choose to have children.
And, by the way, I am one of the mothers with 15...I mean 5 children. But three of them died. So to get the ideal family of four with two healthy sons, I had to be pregnant five times. Were they all intentional pregnancies? No. Afterall, nearly half of all pregnancies are unplanned, and I am no different. The real difference with HGers is we are much less likely to get "caught." I am an anomaly in the HG crowd with my multiple unplanned pregnancies. Go ahead and say I'm stupid...I said it a lot of times hanging over the sink puking, and I said it a lot when picking up my daughter's ashes from the funeral home.
Your second point about Allison not suffering from HG when signing the papers is not completely accurate, though I can see how you would think a pregnancy complication would end with delivery of the baby. HG's impact is longer than many other complications as it takes a long time to replenish depleted nutrients and regain strength when muscle mass has atrophied to nothing. I am 16 months postpartum with my youngest living child and most recent case of HG. I am still being poked and prodded to figure out what is wrong; I continue to puke and be nauseous and have problems with neuropathy and pain. I guess you could say it's all in my head, but I'm quite certain the growth found on my liver post HG is not.
And, yes, I did want to place my oldest for adoption but was fortunate to have family screaming in my face I couldn't and making sure I didn't. Allison had the opposite in the friend that kept taking her to the attorney. She needed help, plain and simple, help with the children and followup medical care.
Your third point about the parental kidnapping. I have a different view and see that the kidnapping happened in that lawyers office when Allison was under duress and tortured (yes, to keep an exhausted mom of twins for 11 hours in an office, post csection and post hg is torture) until she signed documents when it was clear she was not well and needed help, not to have her children kidnapped.
I understand that you find HG confounding and women who continue to want more children despite this disease equally confounding. I am also confounded by both. It is a brave mother filled with a lot of love who enters into the clutches of HG intentionally and all so she can love a child. Maternal drive and mother love are strong things.
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Allison Quets made headlines around the world when she allegedly kidnapped her 17-month-old twins across the border into Canada this past Christmas. She had given them up for adoption, but did she do so under duress? She now says she suffered from a pregnancy disease called hyperemesis that left her malnourished and sleep deprived to the point of complete exhaustion. See an exclusive interview with Allison from behind bars where she awaits trial on two counts of international parental kidnapping, with a possible sentence of three years behind bars. Then, look inside the life of a woman who is only three-and-a-half months pregnant and so sick with hyperemesis she spends most of her day on the bathroom floor. Plus, find out what all women need to know about hyperemesis: How you get it, how to know you have it, and whether it could kill you or your unborn child. Join the discussion.
