Topic : 04/12 Twin Tug of War

There is no conceivable way to explain the physical pain and emotional distress of Hyperemesis.  As a three time sufferer of HG (daugthers age 7, 2 and one on the way) it takes everything I have to function daily.  I have been hospitalized and continue to receive IV and medicinal treatment during my current pregnancy (17 weeks).  Taking care of my family, going to work, and living a normal life is completely out of the range of possibility.  I am super supported by my husband, our parents, neighbors and church friends, yet even they can not offer me what I crave -- a few hours to just feel normal, to eat a small meal without it coming back up, to help my daughter get dressed for school, to work a normal day without someone telling me how horrible/tired/pale I look.  And, while laying on the bathroom floor nearly unconcious before the last hospital trip, I prayed to please just let it end or let me die or let something put me out of this misery.

The impact this has on our family is enormous.  My 2 year old announces to everyone she sees "mommy sick" and my 7 year old has had a noticeable change in behavior and school performance over the past 10 weeks.  My husband is at his last nerve, trying to go to work, be helpful at home, take care of the girls, manage the numerous phone calls with the insurance carrier, and support me and my needs.

The only good thing that comes out of this, from my two prior experiences, is that eventually the baby has to exit and will hopefully be as delightful and lovely as my two "big" girls are today.

Yes... thank goodness there is an end to HG eventually.

Keep that in mind. 

When I was on the bathroom floor and really sick, I used to visualize pushing my baby out and imagining how happy that moment would be. 

Try to visualize something like that when you feel at your worst.

I was in awe of the show.  It felt like some of my same words were coming out of the guests' mouths.  I too released my baby for adoption under duress and then endured a 2 year court battle to get her back.  Eventually I did win and was reunited with my daughter.   It was a painful experience.  This happened in state of Texas in 1984.  If my story can help in any way please contact me.  I hope this message is read by actual producers or Dr. Phil himself. 

Let me know if I can help.

I too suffer from this horrible disease!  I say I am basically "allergic to pregnancy"  right after the baby comes out I am back to my self.  I have 3 sons 14, 11, and 4...I desparately want another baby...maybe a GIRL!  But I fear what the sickness will do to my family...my husband has to take on everything and how will my children be able to "survive" months without their mother......I have been crying a lot reading all these stories...my story is the same...just the isolation and loss of sleep alone is something, but the constant nausea and total psychological effects of this ailment is devastating!

I could write on and on about my terrible months and months of horrow.....

I really appreciate Dr. Phil bringing HG to the masses.

Thank you!

Yehudis 

First, I agree wholeheartedly that this is a terribly sad, difficult situation.  None of us in the public know all the facts or all the details.  But I have to say that while maybe she should not get her kids back, maybe she should.  The main thing I wanted to say here is that I find it ill logic and really, utterly preposterous to say that she merely did not think about what problems could occur.  As someone who is suffering severely for the 3rd time with extreme hyperemesis, I find it laughably obvious that you have never suffered from this.  You really think that ANYONE would be able to consider having this disease if they had not had it?  It is so rare most people have never heard of it until they are diagnosed with it.  Also, I have a huge family, many of who live within minutes, and not one person who helps me, so it is simply stupid to imply that she or any mother has some magical waiting list of available babysitters.   My husband works most of the year out of the country, and we are happily married, but he is not here to help so even though we are married, how is that fact helping me any more than her, and yet you are so quick to stitch a scarlet letter onto her chest.  You obviously did not pay attention to the FACTS of the story, either.  If you had, you would realize that she was seriously screwed over by that man.  NOW that the children are two, I am not cerain what is truly best for them, but I do feel that given her condition (that you have no knowledge of) they should never have been snatched away from her.  No, she should NOT have kidnapped them, but those children were kidnapped twice.  --I am completely dumbfounded that you or anyone would ever tell Dr. Phil to stay out of it.  He is an expert and does nothing but help the world.  Would you still tell him to "leave it to the legal system" if this were one of the child molestation cases we have seen him bring to light?  Just because your personal, uneducated opinion is not HELPED by Dr. Phil telling the truth does not mean he should ignore it and leave this terrible disorder in the dark to the world.  Last, I have to say-- how DARE you assume you have any idea what this debilitating disease is like.  If someone has had cancer and you have not, you do not tell that person that you KNOW what they are going through and then pass judgements on them.  You have no earthly idea what HG is like, and you need to stop some of your criticisms long enough to be thankful that you had two normal pregnancies.