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April 22, 2007, 10:27 am PDT
Your not alone!
Quote From: bigreddoneAs soon as I saw the trailer for this show, I called my daughter in and said, who does that remind you of? I am now a half a century, and I called it quits with my family. My sister has been labeled the "drama queen" and I had defended her several times. When I needed defending, she just jumped on the bandwagon. My family would rather believe someone else over their own relatives. I gave up trying to please them. Especially my mother. I've been beat down so much that I really don't have anything to do with people outside my kids. I have been picked apart so many times, I feel like the Scarecrow from the Wizard of Oz. They gossip behind my back, and when I find out, they deny it. I call them the coven. I have Bi-polar and have been treating it as well as I can, but what sends me in to a tailspin every time is talking to my family. I recently have had a run of problems because I have been sick, and I'm working on SSI, I'm losing everything I own, but according to them it is because I don't want to work. If I say I'm in pain, theirs is bigger. I broke my neck in an accident,according to them I did it to get attention. You see how it goes. I cut my sister off a month ago because her treatment of me was deplorable, she lied to me to get me to do something instead of telling me the truth, which would of made more sense. I'm the bad guy, thinking the truth was not as bad as making up some story to make it seem like a life or death situation. My illness is exasperated by stress, it causes more physical pain, and even caused me to get hives from one end of my body to the other. Instead of being sympothetic, she had a bigger story. I have too much going on with chapter 13's , foreclosures, HOA problems, and worrying where my family and I are going to live. My family has always been about them. Their problems are worse than anyone's just ask them. I am the bad one, not worth a thing. I should be lucky anyone pays attention to me. I can't do a thing right. No wonder I take medication for depression. If you ask them directly about any of this, especially my sister, she will deny everthing and point the finger at me. Every time we have a disagreement, she asks me if I've taken my medication. I learned from Dr. Phil to teach people how to treat you, sometimes you just have to walk away. Some people just don't want to learn. Today I got an e-mail from my drama queen, in it she asks me to pray for her dog. I haven't talked to her in a month, my health has been bad, and I have a hearing on Monday. My car is dying and I don't know if it will make it to the hearing, I have to take my kids with me, because I freak out when I drive. She told me a month ago she was too busy to help me, and that I could do a number of things to get there, and did I take my meds. She has spent thousands of dollars on this dog, without any regard for human beings, and even when her own family needs help, her problems are larger. If I died tomorrow, they would say nice things in front of others, but when they were alone, oh the stories they would tell. When you have a drama queen in the family, it affects the whole family. I need a lie detector and a drug test just to prove I'm being truthful. Dr. Phil would be the only one to see the truth, even then it wouldn't make any difference. I can't wait to see the show, maybe I can get some tips. Oh yeah, by the way pray for that stupid dog, he's really important. I dont have Bi-polar, but my oldest daughter does. I can relate so well how you feel in your family. I am adopted and white. My sister and brother were adopted in Alaska and are Athabascian Indian...which makes them darker. I don't care what I say or do, it is never good enough for them. I decided 3 years ago to call it quits. It wasn't good for my daughter or other children to see the favoritism, nor was it good for me emotionally. I would never measure up. What is so sad, is my dad is a Mormon bishop. Yep, talk about a hypocrite! He can counsel others well, and when it comes to his own family, allows the dysfunction...walk away, concentrate on your health and get your SSI. Remember, if you allow their behavior, accept the consquences of how it makes you feel. Get Dr. Phil's book--"Doing what works-Doing what Matters". It is excellent, and you will be surprised what you find out about yourself that allows others to take you down into that dark tunnel of depression....Best of Luck to you...
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(Original Air Date: 04/23/07) No matter how much we try to avoid it, conflict is a part of life. But what happens when an entire family points the finger at one person as the source of the chaos? Carrie’s family calls her a drama queen who tries to destroy their relationships. Her sister, Miranda, says Carrie called their mother trash and wants their father to divorce her. Her brother, Meikle, says Carrie is upset because she didn’t approve of his fiancée and now refuses to attend his wedding. Carrie admits that she can be attracted to conflict, but says she feels isolated by her family. Then, Carrie’s parents, LaRon and Susan, confront her about trying to break up their marriage. Carrie hasn’t spoken to her mom in over a month, and they face off onstage. Plus, Carrie reveals a shocking secret that she’s kept from her family for years. Share your thoughts, join the discussion.
