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“When I think I’ve seen it all, then I get a wake-up call,” Dr. Phil says of his guests who are involved in a very intense relationship. Jeffrey's obsession with his wife, Jennifer, has careened out of control during their 11-year marriage. He says he loves her so much he goes to extremes to watch her every move. He's tracked her with a GPS device, listened to her phone conversations, trapped her in their home and alienated her from her friends and family. But is there something more sinister Jeffrey's done that he's been hiding? Jennifer says she's ready to leave her controlling and jealous husband once and for all. Has she been up to no good, and is Jeffrey justified in his snooping? Jeffrey wants to save his marriage and family, but is Jennifer willing to stand by him? Dr. Phil unravels the jealously, lies and abuse to see if this marriage can be saved, or if it's really Jennifer who needs to be saved from Jeffrey. Talk about the show here.

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May 11, 2007, 1:15 pm PDT

04/26 Obsessive Love

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 How do you know that her husband won't hurt you.   If she has another man that is her business not ours to judge her.   So you think she is lying about what her husband did to her.   Her husband has no business spying on her she is her own person and she has the right to have her privacy and its just wrong to say she wants the attention.  She is there for help and I believe she has been abused emotionally and you need to stop judging her.  I saw yesterdays issue on the second half of them and he was lying to his teeth and making up what the producers suppose to have said to him and even the people where he was getting the help from.  He is a obsessive with his wife.  He has losted his control over her now and he will say anything to make us believe he is a victim.  I was treated just like that by second husband and he would call my job everyday and see when I was coming home.  Don't think he is a victim in all of this if you think that its not your job to convince the rest of the world or the people that watch Dr. Phil.  You can think that she is making thinks up a lot of people don't make things up.  You think its so easy to leave your husband or wife when they aren't stable to live without you.

 

If she has anothere man..GOOD FOR HER!!  You never know how hard it is to leave someone,especially if there are kids until you are in that situation.  This guy is crazy..how would you feel if your husband did this to you..not everyone shows emotion the same way.  Fear does not always equal tears!!
 
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May 11, 2007, 2:35 pm PDT

dr phil, i cannot believe you.

dear dr phil,

 

i  am watching your show now with jeffery running out on the show, jumping in numerous cabs and trying to control the show.  he is soooo running the show.  i cannot wait for the show to be over so dr phil can finally end jeffery and his wifes drama.  his wife is continuing on with this just because she LOVES the drama.  she should be on the show of DRAMA QUEENS and jeffery should just be arrested.  their kids should be taken from them and given to a couple who has wished for years to have a family of their own and that's it.  too many sick men out there are let off the hook to much and too many drama queens are given too much attention these days.  even on the show last night jeffery got upset over a phone message and i heard his wife on the phone to someone saying "how can i enjoy myself when my life is such a mess", so she is already making plans to live her life.  dont get  wrong, i think she should but dont make it out like life is so bad when all she has to do is leave jeff.  get this ove with once and for all please.  thank you.
 
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May 11, 2007, 3:09 pm PDT

Start a new life and don't look back, Jennifer

I find it hard to believe what lengths Jeffery has gone with his obsession. I keep thinking about the movie, "Sleeping with the enemy." I don't think Jeffrey will get better, but Jennifer needs therapy only to learn how to be strong and handle her life in the future. I wish you only the best for you and your kids.
 
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May 11, 2007, 9:22 pm PDT

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I fully agree with you.  I can't believe Dr. Phil hasn't made her own up to the things that she is doing or has done to provoke some of that behavior.  Granted he is completely overboard but she isn't perfect and she needs to stop acting as though she doesn't understand why he is so untrusting of her.  She isn't very trustworty.  If the tables were turned I think it would be a totally different situation. 

GLAD TO SEE THAT I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE THINKING THIS.

I DO NOT WISH ANYTHING BAD ON HER OR THOSE CHILDREN.  MY FIRST IMPULSE WOULD BE MY CHILDREN IF JEFFREY WERE MY HUSBAND. I WOULD BE CRYING ( REAL TEARS ) AND ALSO SHOWING HOW STRONG I AM TOO.  SHE IS MAKING SOME VERY BAD IMPULSE DECISIONS IN MY OPINION. I CAN ONLY HOPE THAT IT'S BECAUSE IF YOU'VE NEVER BEEN IN THE SITUATION YOU DON'T REALLY KNOW HOW YOU WILL ACT.  SO MAYBE THAT'S WHAT WE ARE SEEING.  BUT

AS I WATCHED IT YESTERDAY, AND TODAY. I THOUGHT ...AND LATER YELLED AT THE TELEVISION....LOL

THE WOMAN WITH BOTH OF THE HUSBANDS ( X AND CURRENT) LOOKED A LITTLE TOO WILLING TO BE IN THAT SITUATION...BUT NOW I LOOK AT TODAYS SHOW AND I THINK THAT THE TWO HUSBAND LADY HIDES IT A WHOLE HECK OF A LOT BETTER THAN TODAYS SITUATION....( FORGIVE ME   I ONLY REMEBER JEFFREYS NAME)

I PRAY FOR HER AND HER CHILDREN, BUT SHE IS DEFINETLY NOT DOING WHAT I ASSUME SOMEONE IN HER SITUATION WOULD BE DOING...I HOPE DR PHIL AND HIS STAFF SEE THAT AND ADDRESS IT AS WELL.
 
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May 11, 2007, 9:32 pm PDT

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     JENNIFER, after watching this afternoons show, I have to applaud your decision to extract yourself & your children from this unhappy and potentially DANGEROUS relationship. Although  I'm SURE you realize the gravity of the situation, I hope you will continue to take every precaution to safeguard yourself and your children.

     Like most viewers, I am not a psychological know-it-all (although I did stay @ a Holiday Inn Express last night - LOL), but I find it HARD to allow Jeff the excuse of mental illness as the root of his abhorrent behavior. For instance, my dad would blame alcohol as the reason he beat my mother - for 20 years! She stayed in the marriage out of fear. As a husband I cannot fathom pulling ANY of the crap Jeff has pulled on you - unacceptable! Go and lead a better life, be happy! "Carpe diem, quam minimum credula postero"

-S&B  

GOOD ONE

STAYED AT A HOLIDAY INN EXP....

BUT ON A SERIOUS NOTE

DO YOU SEE ANYTHING IN JENNIFER THAT MAKES YOU FEEL LIKE SHE ISN'T BEING TRUTHFUL AND MAYBE INSTIGATING SOME PROBLEMS?

I DON'T FEEL LIKE SHE OR THE CHILDREN ARE SAFE BY ANY MEANS   BUT I DO FEEL LIKE SHE HAS ISSUES THAT SHE NEEDS TO HANDLE BEFORE THEY CAN HEAL.
 
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May 12, 2007, 9:02 am PDT

Courage

      I couldn't believe any woman in this country could live like that. It is amazing how someone can put you down so long you start to believe that you have no way out and have to take it. I am was very happy to hear that Jeffrey was in jail and I hope he stays there for a long time. I don't think any amount of therepy will help this man who obviously doesn't want the help. My prayers are with the family for happiness for their future! Raleigh, NC
 
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May 12, 2007, 7:05 pm PDT

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      I couldn't believe any woman in this country could live like that. It is amazing how someone can put you down so long you start to believe that you have no way out and have to take it. I am was very happy to hear that Jeffrey was in jail and I hope he stays there for a long time. I don't think any amount of therepy will help this man who obviously doesn't want the help. My prayers are with the family for happiness for their future! Raleigh, NC

 Put her down? He's had her on a pedestal. Anything she wanted, she got. Even after the series, she's getting what she wants. I won't argue the fact that Jeff is 2 shy of a dozen, but she played him and all of us. How many thousands of women out there are in an extremely violent relationship? How many could use the help more than poor Jen? If she had grown up and stopped acting like a hormone imbalanced teen, Jeff would have tired with all the spying. If you don't get any email, you'll stop checking it everyday. Soon, you'll forget you have an email address. Save the pity for a woman that really deserves it. Greg
 
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May 13, 2007, 9:20 am PDT

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 Put her down? He's had her on a pedestal. Anything she wanted, she got. Even after the series, she's getting what she wants. I won't argue the fact that Jeff is 2 shy of a dozen, but she played him and all of us. How many thousands of women out there are in an extremely violent relationship? How many could use the help more than poor Jen? If she had grown up and stopped acting like a hormone imbalanced teen, Jeff would have tired with all the spying. If you don't get any email, you'll stop checking it everyday. Soon, you'll forget you have an email address. Save the pity for a woman that really deserves it. Greg
I will absolutely agree with you that she has made mistakes, but, really now, being in a prison is a LOT different than on a pedestal.
 
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May 13, 2007, 10:57 am PDT

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GLAD TO SEE THAT I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE THINKING THIS.

I DO NOT WISH ANYTHING BAD ON HER OR THOSE CHILDREN.  MY FIRST IMPULSE WOULD BE MY CHILDREN IF JEFFREY WERE MY HUSBAND. I WOULD BE CRYING ( REAL TEARS ) AND ALSO SHOWING HOW STRONG I AM TOO.  SHE IS MAKING SOME VERY BAD IMPULSE DECISIONS IN MY OPINION. I CAN ONLY HOPE THAT IT'S BECAUSE IF YOU'VE NEVER BEEN IN THE SITUATION YOU DON'T REALLY KNOW HOW YOU WILL ACT.  SO MAYBE THAT'S WHAT WE ARE SEEING.  BUT

AS I WATCHED IT YESTERDAY, AND TODAY. I THOUGHT ...AND LATER YELLED AT THE TELEVISION....LOL

THE WOMAN WITH BOTH OF THE HUSBANDS ( X AND CURRENT) LOOKED A LITTLE TOO WILLING TO BE IN THAT SITUATION...BUT NOW I LOOK AT TODAYS SHOW AND I THINK THAT THE TWO HUSBAND LADY HIDES IT A WHOLE HECK OF A LOT BETTER THAN TODAYS SITUATION....( FORGIVE ME   I ONLY REMEBER JEFFREYS NAME)

I PRAY FOR HER AND HER CHILDREN, BUT SHE IS DEFINETLY NOT DOING WHAT I ASSUME SOMEONE IN HER SITUATION WOULD BE DOING...I HOPE DR PHIL AND HIS STAFF SEE THAT AND ADDRESS IT AS WELL.

I think Jeffrey is a real mental case and that Jennifer is a real drama queen.  Also I am disappointed that Dr. Phil sent her back home without making sure the security he promised, was there.  Why didnt security go get the baby sitter and take her & the children out of there to a location that was safe, then have Jennifer join them there?  I feel Dr Phil compromised Jennifer for the sake of dragging out the show.  The lawyer who was to be on standby to file emergency protective orders if needed, went out of town, and Jennifer had to wait until his return in order to have him arrested.  While I think it was great that companies donated money to help Jennifer get on her feet, nothing was mentioned about helping her find employment so that she could support her family.  I am disappointment in Dr. Phil's handling of this situation on the last show.  As he often says to others-WHAT WERE YOU THINKING DR PHIL?   I hope there will be a followup to this story.
 
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May 16, 2007, 9:09 am PDT

Jeffrey had the chance

I am really concerned about Jennifer.  I HOPE that there is follow up.  Perhaps the attorney from her hometown will be able to help.  I was relieved to find out that Jeffrey was in jail.  If he doesn't change his ways, that is where he needs to stay!  He is one scary person.  Jeffrey sounds like the typical abuser.  I want Jennifer and her kids to stay safe.  I'm afraid that he will try to kill her.  That show scared the crap out of me!  I was so angry with him.  He had every opportunity to work on his problems.  He didn't take it!  I guess he just couldn't.  He needs some serious help.

Darla
 
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