Topic : 04/26 Obsessive Love

I am very concerned with her and the children's safety.  This type of behaviour seems to me to be "all or nothing".  People like him would kill so no one else could have her.

 

Her behaviour isn't a shining one either..an affair..well that only added fuel to his "fire".

 

I will be watching and see what advise or help you can get them.

 I have only one comment and this man is hurting and I am glad that they are seeking help. Both of them need help with obession She maked excuses for not getting out but she needs to get help for herself as well. This obession has them both wond real tight. This obession has caused so much hurt its become unforgiveable. One point he should never blame her for his problems. She should have left along time ago. This guy could go overboard anytime now. It is scarey. There is no excuse for subjecting their children to this behavior. Its not normal. Hope all will come to a happy ending and maybe with your help Dr Phil they will get it. They both need so much threapy. And at least they are getting it. Sincerely Lauri

Dr. Phil,

 

This situation is so deteriorated I think she needs to put lots of physical distance between herself and the husband.  Then a retraining order for her safety and a secure location where he cannot find her. I believe he is EXTREMELY dangerous to his wife.

 

 

I truly believe she needs to get out of this marrige. It's not only unhealthy for her but it is unhealthy for the children. Children like sponges take everything in, if this is all they know it will be repeated. I strongly believe he could harm or even kill her or the children because he is such a desperate man. As for her I think she has wanted out of the marrige most likely for 8 yrs when she cheated. My opinion but I think any happily married man or woman would never have a my - space account. This is inviting all preditors into your life. HELLO.... I would obviously be looking for someone if I had my sexiest pictures ALONE plastered on my space. This is asking for trouble.... She could hook up with someone FREAKIER than her husband.

Please get out of this relationship as fast as you can. I am telling you this because I experienced the same type of "obsessive love" that you are going thru right now. My boyfriend was very obsessive with me to the point that he not only stopped me from socializing with friends, but family also. If a male cousin would speak to me while we were at my parents home, once we got back to our place all hell would break loose. I had numerous shoulder and back surgeries due to work related injuries and he would inflict pain to these areas when he felt that I was getting out of control. He would examine my private parts to see if I was sleeping with someone else. He would lock me in the house so that I couldn't go anywhere while he wasn't there, even going as far to taking my keys away so that I couldn't make it to my job. If he felt I was what I was wearing was too revealing, he would literally rip the clothes off of me. Sure he would apologize after each episode with candy, flowers, messages, etc., but it would only last as long as he felt it needed to to get back into my good grace, then it would start all over again. It finally came to the point that I couldn't take it anymore and when I decided to leave him, he beat me unconscious. When I came too, I was locked in the house and my face and head were so swollen they were twice the normal size. What he didn't know was that I had a best friend who had a key to my place and when I new he wasn't there, I called her to come over. Once she saw how badly beaten I was, she let out the most blood curdling scream that I had ever heard. But you know what, that was a wake up call for me. I knew then that if I didn't get out of this relationship either he or myself would end up dead. I did call the police on him and he did go to jail, but for only 3 months! But within that time I was able to move without him knowing were I lived and my job had information on him so that if he did come to my place of employment he would be arrested on the spot. It took me some time to get back on my feet, but with the love and support of my family I was able to succeed. I know it may be harder for you because you have children with him (lucky for me we were able to conceive - A Blessing from GOD!), but I am sure you can make it. There are a lot of social services out there for people like us. I am sure your family wouldn't mind helping you out until you are able to help support you and your children on your own. Do whatever it takes to get away, because at the rate he is going, either you him or the entire family may end of dead.

 

  I think he actually feels justified in what he's doing, maybe he contacted the Dr. Phil show because he wanted reassurance that what he is doing is "normal" and "okay" ... maybe he just wanted an audience, in some sick twisted way wanted too show the world look I "own"   my wife Jennifer she's  my possession....... He is one very sick individual, Jennifer needs too take her kids and get as far away from his as possible.....

 

It seems too me it's very scary just how easy it is for one human being too control another.......and the fact that it probably goes on allot more then we all think, is that inself even scarier!

I cannot believe that another monster exists.  Todays show  will probably make my nightmares return!  I was married to what I thought was my knight in shining armor back in 1997.  I was treated like a queen for several years prior to the vows.  Shortly after that legal paper was signed things started going downhill.  I was his 'property', his puppet and his excuse.  It started as verbal abuse and escalated into physical abuse.  The last five years of the 'marriage' I was kicked out at least twice a year with the clothes on my back and 200+ miles away from my loving family.  I was confused as to what I had done to make him treat me like that. I was always showered with gifts after each incident too.  All of the accusations on the show today were exactly what I went through.  I used to be attractive but the stress now shows.  I had NEVER even thought of straying but was constantly accused of it.  It became apparent that he did not know what love was.  Love is patient, love is kind.  Love is not abuse.  Why did I go back time and time again?  He was very good at malipulation and made me feel sorry for him!

I finally got a divorce after 5 years of  turmoil and now that chapter is over.   BUT I am constantly looking over my shoulder as he is just like Jeffery.  I will always be on guard because I feel he will never stop trying to hurt me and my family.

You have to make up your mind girl.  He will not change and he is teaching your precious children how NOT to love someone.  Children learn how they live.  Please break the cycle.  Save yourself and your children.  YOU ARE WORTH IT!!

 

This guy needs some serious help and she needs to GET OUT NOW!  Does he think that even if she agrees to stay w/him that he can make her love him.  This guy just doesn't understand what love is! How can he love her when he can't trust her.  I fear for the kids.  What is he going to do when his kids start going out and partying when they get older.  I fear that he may molest the children if he can't get it from his wife.  He is creepy and seriously needs to be in lockup. How could she ever respect him and trust him. He continues to say the same thing! "It's 100% wrong and I know that, BUT" The only thing BUT does is erase everything he just said!  Dr. Phil, PLEASE HELP THIS GIRL! 

ARE YOU JEFFERY  BY CHANCE? SURE AS HELL SOUNDS LIKE SOMETHING HE MAY POST, ANY ONE OF US WATCHING THE SHOW COULD NOT KNOW ALL THIS AT THIS TIME, HOW ARE YOU SO SURE SHE CAUSED ALL THIS TO HAPPEN?