Topic : 04/26 Obsessive Love

I'm praying for you and Jennifer.  You need to get out of your situation.  There are Women Shelters in every state I know.  It's better to be broke and alive and start your life over because this relationship sounds like it's going to end terrible.

Please get out!

GMCValrie

That marriage has to end.  I could not believe what I was hearing.  She needs to take herself and the children and get out now!  Would her parents or other family members be able to put her and the kids up until she gets on her feet?  Because I know if this was my daughter or sister I would do anything to help her.  That man is just NUTS.  Nobody should be subjected to that kind of treatment.  I wish her all the best.

Dr. Phil you've got this one all wrong!!!!!  You're giving that wife all the sympathy and making her  quite the victim.  I don't think you've been watching her actions quite as closely as you've been watching and listening to him.  I'm no psychiatrist, but there's gotta be one of two things going on here...

If that would have been the man cheating in the beginning, going out to the bars with his friends, putting sexy pictures on the internet, and just plain driving his wife crazy ignoring her like she is him, but keeping in touch with his buddies, you would have called him a dog and told him to get back in touch with reality... be the married man he was, and start giving his wife the loving attention she needed.  Also, some of the kinky sex stuff they are into makes it impossible for one or both of the people in the relationship to feel secure.  You could see the smirk on her face when she was talking about being undressed when she woke up.  She wasn't scared or freaked out.  There's something else going on there... Plus, there's the pictures THEY showed to other men...

The other scenerio could be that this man has truly lost it as a result of this woman cheating on him.  How could you and four (?) other drs. possibly miss that, though.  If that is the case, and he is THAT sick, doing alll of these off of the wall things, it's strange that no one has admitted him anywhere to give him the extreme help that he needs.  You don't sit there and make fun of a sick man.  AND YOU DO NEED TO ACKNOWLEDGE HER ROLES IN THIS, TOO.  I didn't hear anything about what she did to reconcile after she cheated.  He should have left then.  He is not the only one at fault.  She talks about all these girlfriends and people she emails and goes out with.  You know she has someplace else to go if her life is so threatened.  Remember the kind of pictures she's not afraid to share with these people... if she's sending them THOSE kind of pictures, she's already quite intimate with them.

I agree that if they are staying in the relationship and don't get some extreme mental help, they have some kind of sick thing going on.  It's gonna destroy the children, though.  Please keep track of this family for a long time. 

we can come up with all these ridiculous excuses for her cheating & flirting behaviour. but it is still CHEATING! who in their right mind would cheat not once, but twice, and flirt around knowing that your partner is already paranoid, controlling & obsessive? in her case, to reach out, she should have shaved her head or something like that!

i'm sorry. i'm just not buying her story. no matter how i try to feel sorry for her, it just won't happen. i can understand it if her husband wasn't giving her enough attention, or was treating her like a slave, or wasn't appreciating her (he actually said she was a very good mother) or something. but i don't think that was the case here.

i really think that they are controlling each other in very different ways... he's controlling her by his obsessiveness, while she is manipulating him with her flirtatious behaviour. she knows her husband won't leave her that's why she has all the courage to do what she's doing.

i wonder what would happen if her husband left her... I think she'll miss the attention. because these "close guy friends" that she has right now won't be a bit interested in her anymore once she's single again. or they might just be interested in her for you know what.  

the husband should just let her go. let her be free & sleep around all she wants. he hasn't been successful in stopping her anyway. she can do whatever she wants when she wants. no gps tracking system or phone recorders stopped her from cheating! he is just wasting his time & energy with her. and Jennifer, you should LEAVE! don't wait until he kills you after finding out you cheated again!

people who have been in an abusive relationship react the way they do because they feel the same feelings they had while they were in that situation. but this case is different. they are both EQUALLY WRONG.

How sad is the reality that, that beautiful young woman feels that what she has is all she deserves.   I don't think that she is totally innocent either, but when you push someone as far as he has, they are going to snap.  She was probably so desperate for help that she compromised her own principles and values to try and be saved.

That man is the most insecure individual I have ever seen.  He's not fit to be anyone's husband.  He's not even man enough to say "I was wrong"!  He just keeps repeating the same stupid excuse that when he's "in the moment" he knows he's going to be "in trouble" but he doesn't care.  Talk about weasling your way out of doing the right thing!  Why doesn't he just keep saying "I don't know why I do it"......at least he wouldn't look like such an idiot!