Topic : 04/27 Obsessive Love: The Drama Continues

This man is MY husband. I understand where this woman is in her head. I too had an affair after three years of marriage. At that point my husband had moved me 100 miles away from all family and friends. Had already sold my car, so I was stuck in a rural area with four children and no transportation. He wouldn't let me work . He chased away every damn friend i have ever had.He was crazy and when I reached out for help via family they would all tell me he is just immature. He will grow up. I believed my family and thought I was nuts. I wound up having an emotional affair with a man I went to high school with. It was like a starving dog being handed a can of dog food. He was a man that was kind to me...

My husband found out and that is when the lock down begun. It has gone on for six years now. He doesn't track my every movement, but he does break into my email accounts. He has broken into my cell phone bill. He has ruined me financially. He has sex with me while I'm asleep. I wake up and he is on top of me. If I say no, he just keeps going. Then he tells me on a daily basis how I make him feel unwanted. He tells my children all the time that "Mommy is crazy". He thinks I want to screw all of my friends husbands as well as my daughter's second grade male teacher. I cringe whenever a man talks to me. I just want them to stop.  I now am working as a waitress and at night instead of being home with the kids he comes up and sits at my work , watching me..

Whenever I have tried to leave he gets worse and I cave in. I did have him out of the house about four years ago. However, he would tell the kids when he dropped them off. "I want to come home, but Mommy won't let me" or " I'm so sad and I've been out drinking and now I'm driving. If I die it's all her fault". The kids ADORE him...  I have no idea why as all he does is let them down and play with them mentally.

 I feel it's easier to live in this hell than to deal with the hell I have to deal with once I leave. I know it will get worse and I'm so afraid of that with no $$$, no support from family. He saw the preview of the Dr. Phil show last week and I have been living in hell for the past week all because of it.

I feel sad that you have such a closed mind. I wonder are you married?

Yes, my first thought was don't leave him...KILL HIM!!!!

Our country is full of people who believe in divorce as a cure. It should be a last resort!

In sickness and in health.....he is sick!

For better or worse.....this is worse!

In good times and bad times...this is bad!

I have been married 4 times. Had a smart one, a dumb one, a mean one and a nice one. But, I never filed for divorce....they did.

How brave and desperate Jennifer and Jeffrey are to reach out for help.

Great post, but I doubt they are actors.

I think he wrote the show thinking Dr. Phil would side with him.

But instead he came off very creepy....admitted that whenever she tried to leave him, he got her pregnant because "it always worked before."

I laughed at the end when he said sadly to her "I'm going to have to stay in CA." If it was me, I would have been high-5ing Dr. Phil and thanking the entire audience like Miss America.

I see no love or sympathy in her expressions for Jeff, she hasn't loved him in years...you can tell.

I don't think Jeffrey will change, he's too far gone and his obsession will continue after a few months of being back in the same house.  I say this because, unfortunately, Dr. Phil gave Jenn the assurance that she's done nothing wrong here....but yet she has.  She's had mulitple affairs during the marriage, sends sexy pictures of herself to men on my space (I didn't hear her deny that, did you?), she picked up a man and took him to a bar with her - she admitted that.  Did this assist and add to his craziness...I vote YES!   

GET OUT Jenn, move on, grow up, and don't cheat on your future partner.  She does need to own up to that part of the destruction she's assisted in creating in her marriage.  I think Jenn is a good person, her reaching for Jeffrey's arm and asking if he was okay before a commercial break shows her compassion toward her prison warden.  She needs alot of therapy too.  My point here, don't let Jenn snow us all.  She's made some questionable desicions to assist in Jeffrey's treatment of her.  She's the one who had the affairs, posted sexy pictures and picks up male friends to go out with.....   I've heard Dr. Phil rake folks over the coals for being unfaithful and needing to own up to their part in the destruction.  I know he didn't on this show because that was not the topic, but I hope he adds some blame to her before we hear the end of this.