Topic : 04/27 Obsessive Love: The Drama Continues

and the safety of her children. I hope Dr. Phil is also providing her with some sort of physical protection and legal council.

 

I'm very happy that Dr. Phil has offered her so much support because she doesn't have any one to support her. Her husband has isolated her from everyone which is horrible. I hope that she doesn't go back to him after all of this is over. She and her children don't deserve it and he certainly doesn't deserve such a beautiful person.

Can't help relating to the lack of attention given to warning signs of the V/Tech murderer.  And, this guy is loaded with warning signs..sounds like Scott...monotone, expressionless, unremorseful...sociopathic ?

 

Our opinion he his a bomb waiting to go off.

 

 

my co-worker was in a similar situation. When she did finally leave with her son, the court ordered visitation. He shot his son in the head in front of her killing him instantly. he then killed himself. Until you've really known someone like her, and been to her son's funeral, have compassion and stop judging her.

Personally,

 

This is a very complicated issue!!  Now, as I heard Dr. Phil state, "There is no provocation for this type of behavior!"  Actually, from everything that has ocurred, there is definitely provocation.  This woman (and I am a woman) created this monster.  At first, when I heard the preview of the show, I was like, "Wow!  What in the world?"  But after watching the show, this man is just as much a victim as the woman is!  Everyone was booing him, but when her infidelity was mentioned, no one booed her!!  Marriage is something so sacred, and it should not be taken lightly.  Apparently, when this man married her, he thought of her as his queen, and in his words, "his everything".  To have caught her cheating on him TWICE, he truly lost it.  Don't get me wrong, I sympathize with both of them.  However, any ADULT knows that for every cause, there is an effect.  The man simply did not know what (or how) to do anything regarding his wife's infidelities.  Cutting off sex?!  In a regular relationship is one thing, but in a marriage?!!  That doesn't make any sense.  Since he caught her cheating (and to have driven back home on a 16 hour drive and then FINDING ANOTHER MAN IN HIS HOME), she created what I call a MONSTER.  That's partially the reason why he is acting the way he is.  He's probably thinking to himself, that if she isn't making love to me, then who is she making love to?  So, in order to see his wife's body, he's going to some extreme methods to see her body like turning the heat up, and taking pictures of her in the nude while she's in the shower, because she doesn't allow him to view her any other way!!  Seriously, think about it, when she's doing the things she's doing to him, what should he do?  He isn't physically abusing her, because he says he doesn't want to hurt her.  This man LOVES this woman, and he really doesn't know what to do. 

 

She needs to be held accountable for her part in this.  If she wanted to remain single, then she shouldn't have gotten married.  Her behavior from the beginning of their marriage is that of a single woman.  She doesn't have enough RESPECT for herself, her husband, her children, and lastly, her marriage! 

 

I don't know if counseling can help, but ANYTHING is possible through Christ Jesus!  And to be honest, I know that is what it's going to take for their marriage to survive. 

 

Yes he has control issues and he truly LOVES hard.  But can any of you put yourself in his shoes?  Not to judge any one of them, but no one can say anything until they have walked in this man's shoes.  I'm not defending him, I understand that he is wrong for his behaviors, but as I said earlier, for every cause there is an effect!! 

 

Hopefully, (and I trust that) Dr. Phil will not allow this woman to continue to be the only victim here, because there is two victims here.  Remember HE WROTE TO DR. PHIL, not her.  The man wants/needs help, and although he saught help 4 times before, her infidelities continues. 

 

He doesn't want to lose her, and I feel sorry for them and the children, because this can cause an even further issue IF they don't get the help the need.

 

 

 

 

I am convinced that this man has OCD problems. He drove his fear to reality. His fear; she would leave him. Wonder about his childhood history??

 

It appears that OCD  is causing his mind to go round and round and round. I believe he deceptively allowed open marriage/encouraged her to participate in the taking of naked pictures/nudity behaviors SO that he could make his fears become a reality.

 

God forbid if he were to find out that his fears were unfounded - his mind would STOP going round and round and round. This would surely would be a horrible event! One that could end lives.

Jennifer, please take Dr.Phil's help. Get the therapy get help for the kids and take the fiancial help and go to your parents town....I'm sure the kids grandparents would love to catch up on their lives..as well as yours . You are going to need a lot of help... when you leave the emotional baggage will crash... and you will feel emotionally and physically drained.... so TAKE THE HELP AND GET ON WITH YOUR OWN LIFE.....

GOOD LUCK

I fear even tho Dr.Phil is going to help her the husband will do something like try to murder her and himself,the man is way sick in the head and knows no boundries,he needs to be put in a mental facility for his insane actions and not let out until she and the 3 children have relocated to another state,even country for that matter.

(because she doesn't have any one to support her)   

oooohhhhhhhhhh pahleeeeeeeasseeeeeeeeeee

I agree with you all the way. It is NOT just him whom is in need of SERIOUS Therapy, so is she. I gree that he has NO right to behave the way that he has with her and I also think that because SHE has CHEATED on him TWICE, being married and having a "MY SPace" Account telling other guys their butts are cute is no way for a Married woman to behave. I watched her face, and she tried to squeeze a tear out on numerous times and FINALY, One did fall. I do not think that she is this "INNOCENT" Victim as some posters are trying to portray her to be, regardless if she is a "Wh#re", it is not his place to torment her on a daily basis, he know what he married when he married her. Her Not speaking to her MOM because of him, not letting the kids see their grandparents, because of him according to her, is total B.S. She found time to cheat twice, advertise nude photos over the web, and meet a guy whom she met over the net for drinks, with him acting Nutso, but could Not find time to keep a relationship with her MOM, Noooooo, not buying that one. These 2 need help and fast. I have SYMPATHY for the KIDS, and only those poor KIDS!