Topic : 04/27 Obsessive Love: The Drama Continues

it is without doubt that this marriage no longer has a foundation of trust...and, hence the relationship will fail.  it's unfortunate the obsessive component is involved...i see this to be very dangerous for jennifer.

i can't see this ending up in any other way than divorce.  the marriage relationship is a 50::50 chance no matter what...this one didn't work.

I am honestly disgusted that in this day and age so many still see it as partly her fault. There are so many of us living with abuses daily that never speak up for ourselves. Many wonder why we stay and say that we are partly to blame for doing so. Well I would say that with what I have read on this board that the proof of why is here. Many do not believe that things are as bad as we say so therefore do not understand. This tells us that something is terribly wrong with us and not the person that is actually abusing us.

I have lived in a very verbally, financialy, sexualy abusive relationship for over 36 years. I never understood that these things were abusive because I was brought up to believe that once I married that my husband would love and respect me. If he did not then it was my own fault and I would need to change me to make things better. For 36 years I have heard my husband constantly tell me that everything I did was wrong and that everything was my fault. Many of us women are brought up to be nurturing human beings so therefore we try to nurture and to do whatever it takes to make our partners happy even though it means that we may be unhappy.

Jeff is a very sick man like so many others out there. He likely cannot be helped but Jen can and the kids. If she stays with this man then she is teaching her kids to be like him (controlling) or like her (putting up with anything). I know this from experience as well.

I then see people on here speaking about her cheating. I guess I must have missed something on the show because at no time did I hear her say that she had cheated. I heard Jeff say that he suspected her of cheating. She did state that yes she had male friends and that she and one of her work friends did pick up a male "friend" on the way to the club or bar. I see nothing wrong in this. So what if she did this.  This in no way means that she has cheated on Jeff. Going out to enjoy an evening with her friends is also something that I see nothing wrong with. If it is a loving caring relationship then Jeff should feel safe that Jen would do nothing wrong. However the relationship is all about his control of his wife. How many of you go out once in while with a friend? I have not been permitted to for many years. My husband years ago also stated that he felt I was cheating when I went out with a girlfriend. I can with all honesty say that I have never and would never cheat on him. He cannot say the same. I do think that those that are so obsessive with the idea that their partners are cheating on them may just be the ones that are doing so themselves. In most cases that is the case. That makes me wonder if Jeff is cheating on Jen.

She needs to get out quickly and get safe. She needs to find help for herself and the children so that she can find some peace and happiness in her life and not a false one that has her sitting with a smile that may not be real at all because she is slowly dieing inside.

Does he love her? Is he capable of loving anyone? Does he realize how abnormal he is?

I would be so afraid of him, I don't think I could even sleep in the same house!

This guy is out of control and needs some serious help.  I cringe when I hear and think about the things that he does.  I feel so sorry for his wife and wish I could offer her help to escape this psychopath.  Although I've never been in an abusive relationship, this relationship clearly has all the signs of an abuser with homocidal tendencies.  I worry and fear for her life as I think he will truly try and harm her should she finally be able to escape.  I think, money or no money, she should run to a women's shelter and seek help.  Run for your life.  Dr. Phil,,,for heaven's sake, give her some of your hard earned money to get outta hell!!! 

Praying in Portland....

It's in my opinion that this case can go into a spiral of aresonic...

Dr.Phil, feel free to reach me on this one, I have no problem trying to lend a helping hand, it's obvious a few are needed here indeed.

My boyfriend and I watched the show today, and we both couldn't stand the smug look on his bald creepy head!!! ( not that all bald heads are creepy ).

This is the most obvious situation, this woman needs help leaving this man!! I would be scared to leave too!! Who knows what he will do next. It is so disturbing to think a person can be like this, and even more disturbing to know that someone has to live with a person like that.

She can come and hide out with me in Canada. I am so involved in this story and to see what Dr. Phil has in store for him. I really hope Dr. Phil does something to help her get out. I am so looking forward to seeing him squirm tomorrow. Don't tell my boss, I'm leaving work early...Cough Cough.