Topic : 07/06 “Call it Off!”

okie as for jessica and matt,well lemmi tell you jessica ive been with a man who was so into drugs and he tryed so hard to change but he never did!thank god my folks also told me that he wasnt right for me because he is nothen but a loser now and im better off,u need to work on urself then working with him!he will never help you,all he will do is bring you down and deep down u may feel as if he's giveing you the confidence you feel that you need,well ur wrong hes maken it worse,ur only with him cuz u feel like u cant find anyone else!

Now as for the other story,okie listen im 20 going on 21 years old and my b/f is 34years old,i do not think age matters at all,now is she useing him,maybe!and them getten married only after 2 weeks being together okie thats not right,but i have a child with my b/f and have been with him for nearly 2 years and no marrage has not yet come up but do hope it does someday!i do love him and i know he loves me back!look at the world,their's so many people out their who has a major age difference and that does not matter but u do need ot live with that person for a long while to see what their true colors are untill then yea it may seem like a fiary tail but its not and it it is hard but seriously stop demeaning the people who are 10 years or 5 years or anything like that!its cruel and you dont know what the relationship is about!i may be 20 but i have lived a life thats been rough and i do know wats out their and i know im mature and out of me being with him,im happy with a gorious little girl!!!!and i am in love!!!!!!!

You are SO wrong. If you want the young man to "be who he is" than he needs to stay away from the 30 year old until he grows up...at least lives a little...job, apt, driver's license, etc. She went from her home to his parent's home. She's unemployed and looking for a fast marriage, companionship and help with two young children. He's so IMMATURE...and perhaps slow. This is not a case of people trying to prevent something good or different. It's the case of people trying to save this young man from himself!!! When you love someone (or at least care about their well-being), that is what one SHOULD do. Sorry, but Dr. Phil knows what he's doing with this one!

As for the drug addict (beautiful woman), she is too close to addiction to make good choices. Dr. Phil's advice on staying apart for awhile while getting treatment is right on target. And if the boyfriend indeed LOVES her, he will want to do this for her. If they are meant to be, they will be!!!

You have just validated the very reason why a man (or woman) of 34 should NOT be with a 20yo. I had a rough life as well...and now I know that at 20, I didn't even know how to wipe my butt. (I'm speaking figuratively, in case you're wondering) You've a LONG way to go, and my money says that in another ten years from now,  you'll have another child by someone else. Just a hunch.......

Dr.Phil,

     I was 39 and my husband was 19 when we married. My son was 18 and my daughter was 13. We have been married 22 years and have a very good marriage.This was my third marriage my other two husbands beat on me and ran around on me. We don't argue if we have a disagreement we say what we have to say and leave it at that. I don't think age makes a difference when you love someone ,love has no age difference.We have never separated and we are devoted to each other.

                                                                                                 Happily Married to a youger man,

                                                                                                 Ann

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