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(Original Air Date: 5/1/07) Have you ever wanted to shout out at a wedding when you heard, “Speak now or forever hold your peace”? Dr. Phil’s guests are at war and want their loved ones to think twice before walking down the aisle. Jessica says her parents, Ellen and Bruce, refuse to accept her boyfriend, Matt. The couple says Matt is a manipulative drug addict with a criminal past who has physically abused their daughter. Matt vows that he’s reformed and wants to make a fresh start. Should Jessica end her relationship, or should her parents butt out? Then, Jerry is 19 and about to say “I do” to his 30-year-old fiancée, Jessica. His siblings say Jessica is an opportunist looking for a father for her two small children. Jerry’s older brother, Jason, says Jerry is just confused, and he thinks Jessica seduced him. Jerry’s siblings also question Jessica’s fidelity, because they say she once flirted with Jerry’s older brothers. If Jerry is about to make the biggest mistake of his life, will he get a wake-up call before the wedding? Talk about the show here.

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July 6, 2007, 6:18 pm PDT

07/06 “Call it Off!”

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Dr.Phil,

     I was 39 and my husband was 19 when we married. My son was 18 and my daughter was 13. We have been married 22 years and have a very good marriage.This was my third marriage my other two husbands beat on me and ran around on me. We don't argue if we have a disagreement we say what we have to say and leave it at that. I don't think age makes a difference when you love someone ,love has no age difference.We have never separated and we are devoted to each other.

                                                                                                 Happily Married to a youger man,

                                                                                                 Ann

Emotionally healthy 39 year old women don't marry 19 year old boys.  I am glad you feel you  are happily married, but I feel pretty confident in saying your marriage is not 100% healthy.
 
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July 6, 2007, 6:35 pm PDT

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Emotionally healthy 39 year old women don't marry 19 year old boys.  I am glad you feel you  are happily married, but I feel pretty confident in saying your marriage is not 100% healthy.
Though to be fair, we are all a litte dysfunctional - no marriage is perfect.
 
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July 6, 2007, 6:51 pm PDT

call them both off

 i think both relationships should be called off..
the 30 eyar old and the 19 year old is a joke.. personally...
that "BOY" isn't mature enough to make decisions like that,, I noticed when he was sitting there, that he was fiidgity, twitching his foot,, he looked like a 10 year old.. seeing her kiss him was disturbing.. she looks like a pedafile.. i dont think age should matter, but not when one is so young, when he hasnt even had a life..If they go threw with it, i know he will regret, and leave.
but then that woman wasn't the pretty thing, i think she's just settling with the first thing that gives her enough attention,and he's giving her the attenton because he dont know any better
 
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July 6, 2007, 6:51 pm PDT

What is your back ground?

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Emotionally healthy 39 year old women don't marry 19 year old boys.  I am glad you feel you  are happily married, but I feel pretty confident in saying your marriage is not 100% healthy.
Are you qualified to make a statement to that?  I wonder?????????????
 
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July 6, 2007, 6:51 pm PDT

why do u hafta judge?

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You have just validated the very reason why a man (or woman) of 34 should NOT be with a 20yo. I had a rough life as well...and now I know that at 20, I didn't even know how to wipe my butt. (I'm speaking figuratively, in case you're wondering) You've a LONG way to go, and my money says that in another ten years from now,  you'll have another child by someone else. Just a hunch.......

u dont know me or can u judge me!she is my second child for ur info and my first one past away thank you very much!!!!!so no im the type that just goes around and sleep with whoever i think im in love with!i am in love and thats it!!!yes i do want one more child but im talken a few years down the road!and im hopeing it is with the same man!i cant say ill know for sure cuz i cant read the future but anything can happen!so just stop juding me!!!
 
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July 6, 2007, 7:23 pm PDT

In Your Defense

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u dont know me or can u judge me!she is my second child for ur info and my first one past away thank you very much!!!!!so no im the type that just goes around and sleep with whoever i think im in love with!i am in love and thats it!!!yes i do want one more child but im talken a few years down the road!and im hopeing it is with the same man!i cant say ill know for sure cuz i cant read the future but anything can happen!so just stop juding me!!!

I posted a reply in your defense but it didn't show up on the message board yet but others i have written after that did. A little strange.  I got your back and I definitely think she has issues of her own.  This person has no right to judge or criticize you!!!!!!!!!! Try not to let it bother you too much okay Hun. 

 

Rebecca

 

P.s. It will show up in red almost everything I type I do in red to make a very obvious statement.
 
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July 6, 2007, 7:27 pm PDT

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u dont know me or can u judge me!she is my second child for ur info and my first one past away thank you very much!!!!!so no im the type that just goes around and sleep with whoever i think im in love with!i am in love and thats it!!!yes i do want one more child but im talken a few years down the road!and im hopeing it is with the same man!i cant say ill know for sure cuz i cant read the future but anything can happen!so just stop juding me!!!

I posted a message on your behalf don't let people liek that take down okay Hun.  Best of luck

 

P.s. It will show up in red so I could make a very clear point to this person that she obviously has problems of her own especially if she's commenting on the things in your life and judging you.   Who does she think she is????????????????

 

Rebecca
 
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July 6, 2007, 8:04 pm PDT

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u dont know me or can u judge me!she is my second child for ur info and my first one past away thank you very much!!!!!so no im the type that just goes around and sleep with whoever i think im in love with!i am in love and thats it!!!yes i do want one more child but im talken a few years down the road!and im hopeing it is with the same man!i cant say ill know for sure cuz i cant read the future but anything can happen!so just stop juding me!!!
I'm not making any judgments. Your post speaks for itself. WHY so defensive? And why do "other" posters feel the need to jump to your defense? If you're as mature as you say you are, you don't need someone else defending you. I won't validate the post by describing my life, or anything about it. I never said that you sleep with "whoever" you're in love with. That's YOU judging what *I* say. But what's good for some isn't good for all, right? Talk to me in 29 years from now. There ARE some advantages of age, believe it or not. Good luck to you.....
 
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July 6, 2007, 9:33 pm PDT

"Call It Off!"

Jessica 30 and Jerry 19 are out of their minds.  When I was 19 when I got married, but my husband and I did everthing we could before we got married to help us.  We had counseling through our church, personal counseling to make sure that we were able to handle our own emotions, we had our budget set up, we were truly in love because we did everthing we could first.  Jessica needs to pull her head out, she knows better.  It shows how much they truly love each other when they won't take advantage of what Dr. Phil offered, and postpone the wedding.  Like Dr. Phil said, "If you really love each other after two weeks, you'll still love each other after two months."

 

 

Jessica, pull your head out and do what's best for Jerry.  You're 30, you know better!!!!
 
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July 6, 2007, 9:36 pm PDT

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Dr.Phil,

     I was 39 and my husband was 19 when we married. My son was 18 and my daughter was 13. We have been married 22 years and have a very good marriage.This was my third marriage my other two husbands beat on me and ran around on me. We don't argue if we have a disagreement we say what we have to say and leave it at that. I don't think age makes a difference when you love someone ,love has no age difference.We have never separated and we are devoted to each other.

                                                                                                 Happily Married to a youger man,

                                                                                                 Ann

I don't think the age difference is the biggest problem.  I don't have a problem with large age differences, but you have to look at the people.  Jerry is not prepared to take care of two children.  No license, no job, that's not a good marriage.  He needs to get on his feet first.
 
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