Quote From: lidancer1How right you are! I am a woman who is divorced from a man because of the manipulative, controlling and undeniably criminal threats against me by my in-laws, to gain complete control over my life and the life of my child. I was to step completely out of the picture as the mother of my child, with my mother-in-law taking full charge.
My first clue was them adding an extention on their home complete with nursery, playroom and a bedroom for my husband. Bizarre? Not even close!
After the baby was born, she refused to visit becasue she wanted to see the baby without me being around. The baby was days old and I was nursing. This is when the major campaign began. I was told I "shouldn't be surprised when I was pulled over by the police and they found drugs in my car. I'd be locked up and then mother-in-law would have the baby" I reported this threat to the police to have it on file. Then I was told " not to be shocked when I came home from work and the baby was gone. They have enough money to see to it that I would never be able to find or see my child again." This family was clearly displaying severe anti-social personality disorders. I was on the recieving end of their ambient abuse. However, to the outside, they appeared to be the "loving, doting" grandparents that were being denied the joy of seeing their grandchild.
After these threats, I certainly, saw to it that my child was not around them without my supervision. Since that wasn't good enough from them, I stopped them from seeing the child. That's when they decided to incite the "Grandparents Rights thing".
You might ask, where was my husband during all this? He was too busy playing with and accepting the gifts he was being given my them including, a new sports car, clothing that would knock your eyes out, trips to exotic destinations, top of the line media toys and on and on.
Just before my husband was served with divorce papers, Mother-in-law died. As it turned out, she was messing around with a younger man who died of aids a few years before. Hmmm....
During the divorce process, my ex never spent time with his child ( I clocked his longest "visitation" at 17 minutes) and hasn't had any contact with her to this day. ( His choice) She is now 22, graduated college, is going on with her Masters degree, is happy, accomplished and extremely well-centered.
Certainly, my child was denied a relationship with her grandparents. But, the real tragedy is that her grandparents and her father were so disfunctional any chance of a relationship would have been extremely damaging.
If I had to do it over again, I would change nothing except the choice I made for a husband.
I haven't seen the whole show yet but am looking forward to it. My MIL also was very obsessed with my son when he was born. Same thing...didn't want me around. She only wanted her own time with him. It came to the point when I felt that he preferred her over me. I lived with it though b/c my husband tried to convince me that this was normal b/t grandparents and grandchildren. Besides the fact, my in-laws are very intimidating and use money to manipulate. I don't think anyone has ever stood up to my MIL even though she has been destructive in so many areas of her life.
A couple years went by and I had a second son. She didn't seem to have the same attachment to him. Actually, it seems like she didn't have any attachment to him. One day, I changed plans on my MIL by a few hours b/c I made plans. My MIL always had him (b/c she always requested and always got her way). She was so angry at me that she called DSS with total false accusations about me and my husband. Probably one of the worst days of my life. I asked the DSS worker to come into my home and talk to us about this so that we could get to the bottom of it. I was not going to have anybody accuse me of these things. Actually the opposite is true...I am one of those moms that gives her kids 10 chances before she raises her voice. My husband knew right away that this anonymous call was his mother b/c this is the type of behavior he grew up with. I wouldn't let me children see them for two years. Much time has passed and I thought that we were all healing and that I could let them in my children's life again because they were not giving up. I was allowing them to see the boys once every two weeks (even over night). They wanted more but we told them we had to take baby steps.
Last week my MIL wrote a letter to my husband saying that she heard that somebody else is looking after my children so much that they can't take care of their own family. This couldn't be more untrue. Nobody could ever say this about me. My boys would even know that. I just know now that she is not well and displays so many qualities of a sociopathic person. She loves destroying peoples lives. We are under attack b/c of her obsession with my 8 year old. I too was warned by a family member of hers to be sure to not have my in-laws as guardians o f my kids in my will (b/c that is what they asked of us) and to be sure to have an alarm on my house.
Yes, there are times that I should fear for my life and that is b/c she is not well. I know my husband worries too b/c he knows she has something up her sleeve right now. When we were dating he used to warn me about her ways but I was so caught up in the manipulation and fakenss that I never saw it until I was targeted.
Investigations, accusations, allegations -- Dr. Phil's guests are ex in-laws who are practically putting each other on trial. Cindy and Randy say their ex daughter-in-law, Michele, is an unfit mother, and their 8-year-old granddaughter is living in danger. Michele says Cindy and Randy make up sick accusations. Who's really telling the truth? Renowned attorney Lauren Lake weighs in on how the courts will judge their situation. When the bickering becomes heated between the couple and Michele, find out who storms offstage. Will Dr. Phil be able to settle this battle once and for all, and will Randy and Cindy be able to finally see their granddaughter? Talk about the show here.
