Topic : 08/09 Overweight and Forgotten

i would like to add that I am disabled,. and most people that become disabled gain alot of weight due to the fact of injury and non-movement,.. it jus goes hand n hand... luckily, I was in college for Psyc and know ALOT about the internal workings; mental, spiritual, emotional and physical---they all go together.. cannot have one w/out the other.

i am near 7-8 years disabled (complete body; head injuries/back/neck. ect..) gained 40 pounds in the FIRST year,.. and had a wake-up call even then!..  so I haven't gained ONE POUND since!.. so, yes.. I know that it CAN be done, in some circumstances. For myself i made a personal choice as well as had a CareGiver that wouldn't buy me any icecream, pop, candybars, COFFEE DRINKS!... MMMMmmmmmmmm... OMG I am sooooooo dying!...  ok ok ok... lol..  he done good,.. and unlike the one *n*.. her bf is an ass.. (can i say that here???).. My CareGiver is sooooo incredible,..  he has kept me in line with myself, according to my OWN standards,.. not his. i was a body builder prior to disability,. so I already had it in me. It is called PERSONAL POWER... some have it,.. some don't.

i was abused from the day i was born,.. seriously- put into ovens as a baby,.. bit from head to toe, yes, as a baby... beaten and neglected by babysitters as a child.. molested by my fav uncle at 7.. I could go on and on... through the teen years... then i married an abuser, at 16.. and was abused in every way possible for yet another 15 years. HE, my EX-HUSBAND,.. is one of the sources of my disabilities,... I divorced him and had a few years to pick myself up from that. And in 2000, as soon as I started college,.. my body gave up. as well as everyone in my life,... I have noone- 'cept my CareGiver, now.

i HATE my life, myself, my ex and whiners..... hate em. I hate people that are sooo close-minded and live in the past,. the ol' days...  people like my own mom disgust me.. i STILL sit out by my window at night and stare into the sky and ask God when,.... why,... mostly when,.. when will it go away,. the pain;... when will i get better,... when will i find love,... when, when when.. OMG!!!  drives me nuts. i don'tneed to hear anyones comments about this and that,.. been there, done it. even though i am only 37,... i am VERY spiritual and try to stay grounded,. but when u keep getting abused, whether it's by your mom, uncle, bestfriend, boyfriend, husband and everyone else in the world like your doctors, hospitals, medicaid/fia, lawyers...  UGHHHH...

I'm done ranting,...  this show jus really got to me today. All i do everyday is watch tv and be on the net and after so many years one can understand why i am the way i am!

sorry, i jus need some real help

"Once upon a time there was a girl who weighed 200+ pounds.  Her boyfriend, a miserably scrawny little pole, made fun of her and put her down constantly.  Well, those insults just helped that poor "would be beautiful if only she was skinny" girl decide to lose weight...just for him because let's face it, he deserves a skinny girl on his arm, he's such a prince!  She called out to her fairy godmother who supplied her with magic pills and told her to walk around the block a couple of times.  Two weeks later, * POOF* the girl was a lovely ninety pounds.  Yeah sure, the bones of her skeleton were sticking out and her organs were failing, but at least her jacka$$ of a boyfriend had a skinny girl on her arm and all those judgemental hypocrites in the world didn't have to see a fat woman anymore!  And they all lived happily ever after until the girl OD'ed on magic pills and died at 60 pounds!  The end."

You've got to be kidding me!  Do you people hear yourselves?  Do you THINK for one second that fat or obese people WANT to be fat or obese?  That's like saying a black person wants to be on welfare or a hispanic person wants to work in a field until the day they die.  You'd NEVER say that, and you should watch what you say about the overweight!  What a horrible stereotype you've put on these people who need your encouragement, not your hatred!  Grow up and get out of kindergarten, why don't you?  If it were that easy, don't you think there would be a bunch of skinny people running around the world instead of an obese epidemic running rampant throughout this country? 

Look at it this way.  We chunky monkeys give you skinny so-and-so's (I got another word for you, but it would never clear the boards!) someone to make your low self esteem feel better because you can make fun of them!  I wish I could bonk you on the head with a magic wand so you have to be obese for JUST ONE DAY!  You'd lose that sorry attitude quick, fast and in a hurry, I guarantee you!

I was very frustrated with this show...frustrated to the point that I registered to DrPhil.com to complain.  Although I don't approve of the husband abusing Lorna, she needs to get a grip and stop blaming her family for not giving her husband a break.  Why doesn't she seek help for herself so he can get a break.  She is lucky he has stayed as long as he has.  I grew up with an alcoholic mother and there were several times I was abusive with her because I was trapped living with her and the rage needed to be released.

If I were the husband I would get out and force her to take action for herself.  I am tired of morbidly obese people claiming disability and doing nothing about it.  They are not victims, the people forced to nurse them day and night are.

I am a big girl, really.  I have a large bone structure and I wouldn't be petite even if I was very thin.  Now...........my ex boyfriend never could accept me like I was.  Like Christian he was constantly on my butt everyday which only made me feel worse.

When I met the man I MARRIED he accepted me from day one.  He loved me exactly like I was when we met.  The irony of the situation is that I have lost more weight and become far more healthier while being married with my husband than I ever did with my POS ex boyfriend.  Encouragement and Praise go so much farther than ridicule and abuse

Just for the record I am not nor was I ever morbidly obese I am 5'9 and currently weigh 180lbs.

I think ppl who aren't overweight don't realize one of the biggest reasons ppl are overweight is bc they think something is inherently wrong with that as a person. They get made fun of, criticized etc. So they think they are bad ppl. It wouldn't matter if they lost weight bc they still would be that bad person.

I think one of the keys to weight loss is first accepting yourself and loving yourself unconditionally. But unfortunately it's not allowed in this society. We're not allowed to love ourselves bc we are fat. Society tells us everyday that we are not ok the way we are.

Look at the commercials on tv today. For example, Nutrisystem has a grandmother who dropped from a size 10 to a size 2?! Grandmas aren't supposed to be a size 2. (Maybe some who are petite) but not everyone!!! It personally makes me sick to see that they are promoting this. They are basically telling us a size 10 is NOT ok and that we should aspire to being a size 2. We all have different natural weights for us ranging from zero to size 20. I certainly don't advocate morbid obesity but we need to just advocate loving ourselves. If we love ourselves we won't be so quick to put more food in our mouths.