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Topic : 05/07 A Dr. Phil Family on Fire: House Intervention, Part 2

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Created on : Friday, May 04, 2007, 12:02:43 pm
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Dr. Phil continues his work with The Dr. Phil Family. Gene and Myra’s marriage has become a war zone, with ugly fights involving name-calling, spitting and throwing objects. Their children were caught in the middle and wrote to Dr. Phil for a family intervention. To find out if their broken marriage has a chance and to heal the resentment between all the family members, they move into The Dr. Phil House. First, Dr. Phil arranges for Myra to meet Lee, a pregnant self-proclaimed mistress in a long-term relationship with a married man. Will hearing another perspective help Myra let go of her anger and bitterness over Gene’s adulterous past? Next, since Gene admits he treats women like sexual objects, Dr. Phil wants to set him straight. Three successful women arrive at the house, determined to change Gene’s views about the opposite sex. After listening to them speak, Gene breaks down and says he wants to become a better husband. But do the ladies think he’s sincere? Gene and Myra’s three adult children, Melissa, Edwin and Eugene, join them in the house. After trying to have secret conversations off camera, Melissa gets a wake-up call when Dr. Phil knocks on the door. Then, in an exercise designed to get to the root of their resentments for each other, each family member takes a turn in the “hot seat” while the others open up about what they hate about them. Guess which person can’t take the criticism and wants to leave, then talk about the show here.

Find out what happened on the show.

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May 28, 2007, 12:23 am CDT

05/07 A Dr. Phil Family on Fire: House Intervention, Part 2

People should really invest in a good thesaurus and dictionary and discover the wonder of words not in the Fu, Sh, Bi and Ba sections.  So many new words to find will give them less time off having affairs, make them less rude and save the people at the Dr Phil show from getting RSI from having to use the *beep* sound effect button so much.  I could do ads for dictionaries don't you think? 
 
May 28, 2007, 1:21 pm CDT

WHAT IS REALLY GOING ON HERE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

DR. PHIL

CAN YOU PLEASE ASK MELISSA IS THERE SOMETHING GOING ON WITH HER BOYFRIEND AND HER BROTHER. BECAUSE DURING THE SHOW  RANDY  WAS SITTING THERE WITH HIS ARM AROUND  HER BROTHER AND IT SEEM LIKE THEM TWO MIGHT HAVE SOME UNDERCOVER LOVING GOING ON THAT NO ONE HAS NOTICE OR KNOW ABOUT. SHE MIGHT NEED TO CHECK IN TO THAT IT LOOKS SUSPICIOUS.

 
May 29, 2007, 12:05 am CDT

bless u back

Quote From: rebecca407

Im not sure if the Dr Phil Family will read this, but I hope they do. I want you guys to know that you shouldn't be too hard on yourselves or embarrassed by certain things. Lots of families have issues, make wrong decisions, and live in low class neighborhoods. I want the dad to know that even though you have made some bad choices by your words and actions, I can tell you are good man and you have a good soul. I don't think your tears were fake when those ladies were talking you. I think they were sincere. Men aren't able to express themselves as easy as women and it really upsets me that when they do finally break down and cry they are accused of doing it for show. I think the cheating was wrong, but I do feel u regret it, I can tell u love your wife. Lots of men in America cheat and most do it b/c they don't feel loved, valued, or respecting anymore. My message to the youngest son is try not to be ashamed of your home, even it it has roaches. Some people don't even have a roof over their heads. I grew up in a low income home w/roaches too, but now that I'm older I see that my parents tried their best with what they had. Your parents love u and thats what counts. Everyone needs to try to keep the house clean and clutter free and have it sprayed monthly. I don't think the mom should be hard on the oldest son, you should build your children up not tear them down. They will have enough people in the world tearing them down, they should be able to come to the parents for support and encouragement. My final words are don't listen to negative comments people post about u or say to u in the street, only God can judge u. You took a step to improve your family and thats a lot more than what most people would do. Stick together because family is most important and all that we really have in this world. May God heal your home and bless u all.
nice to read a sincere, non-critical, understanding and inspirational post for my family. this is edwin the oldest son of myra and gene. stuff gets hard adn all families have their issues. granted some are worse than others but u keep on truckin. i guess i'm sayin thanks for caring and not judgin. bless u.
 
May 31, 2007, 6:54 am CDT

What were you thinking Doc?

I only saw the one part of the series so I do not know the whole story but I think you missed the mark a bit Doc on Melissa. I am 47 over weight and with a child with Aspergers Syndrome, and I can relate to her on so many levels it is not even funny. At 30 I gave birth when my son was born and it has be an emotional drain on my since, I cannot imagine the strain it would be on a 17 year old.

 

Her boyfriend seems to be as useless as my ex husband was in taking care of a child with special needs, leaving 100% of the strain of taking care of the child on her. She is not lazy…she is exhausted. She eats for the same reason I ate…boredom and depression. It was not fair saying if you do not take care of your self who will take care of your child. Odds are like me, she does not have the finical resources to take care of herself, by saying that you just put even more guilt on her. All my financial resources go to taking care of my son, physically and emotionally. Financially and emotionally, there is nothing left.

 

I spent years wishing I would not wake up in the mornings because I was so burned out by everything that I had been going through. The only thing keeping me from killing myself was the thought of inflicting my son’s problems on someone else. I hate to think of it as inflicting him on anyone because he is a sweet funny kid that I love very much but to be realistic he takes all the emotional strength I have to deal with him. He was not diagnosed until he was 9 years old; at 6 he wanted to kill himself because everyone at school keep telling him he was a bad kid, his dad didn’t help matters much either putting even more stress on me. Her self-esteem is probably in the gutter about now I know mine was. She at least had her child diagnosed early so there is hope for her baby and she will not have to go through as mental torment as I did.

 

Your comment about her house was not called for either. It is a symptom like everything else. She does not care about her house because she does not care about her life she has no life, she gives everything she has to her child and that good for nothing boyfriend of hers. The only thing she cares about is getting through another day of hell and trying to make a child that has no emotional connection with her, happy and healthy.

 

My son keeps asking me how I can stay so optimistic and I told him if I did not I would be worthless to everyone. Kids with Aspergers because of the treatment at school and by their peers are so negative that if I did not try to counter that negativity with positive thoughts and actions I would fall deeper into depression and not be able to get out of it. Negativity brings negative results; positive actions bring positive results…and positive voids negative every time well almost.  

 

The best thing I did was leave my husband, if you cannot be part of the solution do not be part of the problem. I was dealing with my son 24/7 365 day out of the year, I did not need his baggage to add to my burden like she doesn’t need her boyfriends baggage to be put on top of her already overloaded system. 

 

Doc you should be showing empathy not throwing guilt and making her feel even worse about herself.. She has enough of that already. She needs help in easing her burden not someone adding to it.

 
May 31, 2007, 8:36 am CDT

till death due us part........NOT

Quote From: lesdis5

Hey Dr. Phil

 

Even though we have not seen part one here in Norway yet, I am guessing who is leaving the house, and that is - Gene.

 

He seems to me to be like my ex husband - a psycopath. Withour empaty and responsabillity.

 

I through my husband out in the end. Did not see any reason why I should stay married to that son of a b...! The problem was that  by then was 3 months pregnant. That matter also explain this man. He was thrilled with me being pregnant (had been married for 9 months by then) but all of a sudden it seems without any warning - because we had many lovely years also, but one day he said: either I abort the child or he would divorce me.

 

I said: I divorce you! This he did not like at all. To punish me he punished my daughter for 20 years by refusing to see her, saying he did not have time. To much tennis-playing! And so on.

 

When he realised he was dying he got in touch with her, telling her that it was ME who kept her away form him!

 

That huge lie may have done something to our relationship, because today my daughter is being very unempathetic to me.

 

I love your shows, dr. Phil, I only wish you would focus on people with the above mentioned "personal disturbance".

 

Yours sincerely, Sidsel Dahl

The big problem with all these cheating husbands is they think it's not all that bad to cheat.  Well, after my husband cheated (escorted the mistress to have an abortion), we remained married another 20 years....happily.   It wasn't until his death that all those 'unfaithful episodes' surfaced.  I wondered for the next few years (and still).........if someone is going to come out of the blue to claim they are his children.  Perhaps I watch toooo much TV, but that doesn't change the situation...........I remain happily unmarried / widowed for 14 years.   Any advice?  Dare I mention any of this to my two grown boys??         Sincerely,  Just Me
 
June 5, 2007, 10:11 pm CDT

Boyfriend & Brother

Quote From: renee41

DR. PHIL

CAN YOU PLEASE ASK MELISSA IS THERE SOMETHING GOING ON WITH HER BOYFRIEND AND HER BROTHER. BECAUSE DURING THE SHOW  RANDY  WAS SITTING THERE WITH HIS ARM AROUND  HER BROTHER AND IT SEEM LIKE THEM TWO MIGHT HAVE SOME UNDERCOVER LOVING GOING ON THAT NO ONE HAS NOTICE OR KNOW ABOUT. SHE MIGHT NEED TO CHECK IN TO THAT IT LOOKS SUSPICIOUS.

I am glad someone mentioned this so I know it was not just me imagining things! Melissa's boyfriend Randy sat with his arm around her brother during the entire conversation and then when her brother was getting upset, Randy was consoling him. I could understand that behavior if it was from a loving father or his girlfriend but not this relationship.
 
June 6, 2007, 6:01 am CDT

Brother seems to be his boyfriend

Quote From: artistsd

I am glad someone mentioned this so I know it was not just me imagining things! Melissa's boyfriend Randy sat with his arm around her brother during the entire conversation and then when her brother was getting upset, Randy was consoling him. I could understand that behavior if it was from a loving father or his girlfriend but not this relationship.
Glad someone else noticed this. I feel this behavior was rather odd for the boyfriend, who does not seem to have a clue and needs to go. It's almost like he is holding on to the brother for fear of losing him instead of Melissa. If he were afraid of losing her, I would think he would have his arms around her instead of her brother. Sure, I can understand the comfort factor of a friend or family member, but this demonstration of affection ia husge red flag and I wished that it had been addressed. Actions speak more than words sometimes.
 
September 17, 2007, 9:56 am CDT

Freebies for the bad

Let me get this straight---if I am in a bad screaming situation, pregnant and lazy, everybody can't stand each other, I am rewarded with a free car and a chance for my son to become an actor.

Instead, I had the best marriage until my husband died a year ago,  have 3 successful children, grandkids and great-grandkids.

My husband spoiled me by working as much as he could and was a professional career person.  I had not been the one to have to drive anywhere as I has pretty much become homebound.  When he was hospitallized, I had to begin being independent.  Have made it a year, but I still miss him as if it were yesterday.  Each month has to be a struggle to make car payments, house payments, etc.  It won't be long now that alternative living will have to be found.

Maybe he wouldn't have been such a great husband, if he knew we could have gone on Dr.Phil screaming and hating and received a free car, and our daughter that had tried to be an actress, would have been given that chance.

People will continue to make the shows about disfunctional families since they are rewarded, while the "meek have to continue to inherit the earth", even though who wants it.  We need cars and material rewards to match the spiritual happiness we have had.

 
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