Topic : 05/11 Obsessive Love: On the Run

I wanted to ask Dr. Phil????   when Jeffrey was "suppose" to be getting treatment, WHY WAS JENNIFER EVEN ACCEPTING CALLS FROM HIM????  I feel if this is his addition, he should have been monitored and not been able to tap into her emails, or have ANY CONTACT WITH HER WHATSOEVER!!!!  Why was that allowed and WHY did Jennifer even pick up the phone when he obsessively and abusively was calling that night??????

jody

I wanted to ask Dr. Phil????   when Jeffrey was "suppose" to be getting treatment, WHY WAS JENNIFER EVEN ACCEPTING CALLS FROM HIM????  I feel if this is his addition, he should have been monitored and not been able to tap into her emails, or have ANY CONTACT WITH HER WHATSOEVER!!!!  Why was that allowed and WHY did Jennifer even pick up the phone when he obsessively and abusively was calling that night??????

jody

A restraining order isn't worth the piece of paper it's written on, if the cops won't do their job to protect women like Jennifer. One October 15, 2000, a friend of mine was shot twice in the head and killed instantly by her abusive ex boyfriend. They had been living together for some time and after she got tired of the abuse, she told him to move out. Because of the laws of the state, he was entitled to have 2 weeks to move out of HER HOUSE. She took her 3 children and moved in with her sister and during the following week, he stalked her at work, at home, everywhere. She got a restraining order against him and the night she was killed, she had come home and her brother told her that the monster had been in the yard earlier that night and the police were called. The police came and the officer looked around the yard with his flashlight, and told her that she'd be fine. My friend begged him not to go because she knew her ex would be back. About 10 minutes after the cop left, the gutless coward ran out of the dark, shot her twice and then shot at her sister, but missed. He is now in prison for life, after a long,emotional, gutwrenching trial.

Jeffrey needs to be locked up and throw away the key. He is unstable, creepy and evil. He will not stop until he kills Jennifer because if he cannot have her, he doesn't want anyone else to either.

Really! He doesn't need to be in a theraputic facility, he needs to be in a full fledged asylum. The man is just plain unstable.

Put him in a straight-jacket and lock him in a padded room! He's out of control!

I am reminded of a show I saw in the aftermath of the VT massacre about kids who turn to eratically violent behavior and the things they have in common. One symptom was they all cut themselves off from the world mentally and emotionally and create their own worlds inside their head.

That sort of isolationist mentality can apply to a lot of people who exhibit criminal behavior and I certainly think this is applicable with Jeremy. He has sunk into his own little world of anxiety and control. In his world everything is under his power and everything is out to get him and his. He has sat there, fermenting in this personal universe for so long that if anything disrupts it, if he is out of that comfort zone for even a moment, as we have seen, he looses it.

Dr. Phil has been trying to reach him, everyone has, but it seems like he is just to far off, he has been possessed by this anxiety for too long, for just words to have any effect.

I pity him.

I really do.

He is not in control of himself. He is incapable, in the state he's in now, of acheiving personal happieness because he is in such a dark place.

Maybe he is beyond help, I don't know, I certainly hope not.

But one thing is for sure, and has been made very clear in the four episodes this couple has been on here, there is nothing Jennifer can do to help him. She will not be doing anyone any favors by staying with him.

I'd say Dr. Phil had best put Jennifer in a Victim's Protection Program to get out of this marriage because you are playing with fire in dealing with this psycho husband!  I know your ratings are high watching this, but please, please protect this woman.  No matter what mistakes she's made, she never did anything to deserve what she's endured with this man.  Her next biggest challenge after the divorce is keeping the children safe if he gets even supervised visitation.  Running out of the taxi cab - lock this guy up until he's had enough psychiatric help to determine his status.   This is a frightening story and I certainly pray she leaves him and stays safe and possibly can find some happiness in her life.

I APPLAUD JENNIFER FOR GOING FORWARD TO MOVE ON WITH HER LIFE AND TAKING THE STEPS  NECESSARY TO PROTECT HER AND HER CHILDREN TO GET A DIVORCE!!!!!   IT DOES TAKE ALOT OF COURAGE TO DO THAT.....IT TAKES AWHILE FOR US TO BE FREE FROM THAT SICKNESS ( AS I STAYED IN AN EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE MARRIAGE ALSO - BEEN FREE FROM IT FOR 16 YRS!!!!!!)   WITH ALOT OF GREAT SUPPORT, COUNSELING, ALANON AND SUPPORTIVE FRIENDS, I AM FREE TODAY AND IT FEELS GREAT!!!!!    

JENNIFER, KEEP PUTTING ONE FOOT IN FRONT OF THE OTHER.....SURROUND YOURSELF WITH A GREAT SUPPORT SYSTEM AND YOU WILL BE FREE ALSO!!!!   DO NOT GIVE HIM "ANY" POWER OVER YOU....GOD IS IN CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE, NOT JEFFREY!!!!

JODY - FT WORTH TEXAS