Topic : 05/11 Obsessive Love: On the Run

First, I would like to state that  no one deserves to be treated in the way that jennifer is being treated.  However, this woman is not innocent.  Dr. phil has not once examined her part in all of this.  I know that if Dr. phil tries, it will seem as if he is trying to make an excuse for the husband's behavior.  It was stated that his behavior started before she cheated on him, and that may be the truth, but now I believe that for a long time this woman wanted to move on and now that she has help from the dr. phil show, she is taking full advantage of it.  Jeffrey stated that he discovered a voice message from a guy stating that he was thinking about jennifer and he assumes that she is in the shower so when she get the message for her to return it.  I think that once this woman cheated the first time, she continued to sneak around, and that is why he continues to monitor her.  She doesn't even have the decency to wait until they are separated before she begins to speak to other men,  It is clear that Jeffrey needs help.  However, I think that it is unfair for people to continue to label him as a nut and so forth.  I believe that this woman was too young when she got married and now she wants to have that excitement in her life that she didn't have then.  In conclusion, I hope that jeffrey receive that help that he needs so that he can move on with his life.

p.s.  and what kind of wife exposes herself on myspace in a bikini, doesn't she know that this would encourage him to continue his behavior, not that it is entirely her fault, but it goes to show that this woman is not entirely innocent in this whole thing.

 Dear Dr. Phil;

     I heard you say this was the worst case you have had on your program. Like you, I fear for Jennifer and I would not answer any of his phone calls. I would leave and take  the children with me. She needs a safe place and protection from this man. He totally scares me!!! I pray he gets help, but I fear he will never be able to live in this society. This guy is why we have mental institutions. He will hurt his wife. His children have already been exposed to his unexceptable behavior and they will have problems if they all don't get help.

     Please get the wife and children in a safe place. This man should  not even be let out. I am not a TV producer, but I think I would have done the second show in the treatment center and the wife and children should have been put in a safe place from day one. This whole mess is an unstable situation and all involved need to be kept safe. This could end up in a violent explosion and that too scares me. A home can be replaced, things can be replaced, but the life of any of them can not. Please help all of them and get that wife and children in a safe place where Jeffrey will never find them if he is ever let out into the general public.

Kateso1

Dr. Phil

I once heard you say and fairly recently also that people who get divorced for whatever reason, and then try  to put the relationship back together years later, stand an extremely low chance of success.  I made a huge mistake when I let my first husband go so easily, and now it's been 8 years apart, 4 divorced, and I am remarried to a  different man whom I fight with on a daily basis.  Nothing I do is ever good enough; always something wrong with it.  My first husband and I have been communicating again for the last 4 years; realizing that the fighting was getting us nowhere and it was hurting our 2 daughters (now 19 and 22).  I realize the  mistakes I made and I so much want to undo them and make things right again.  My eldest doesn't seem to care one way or the other, but my youngest would love nothing better than to see her family put back together.  Life with their stepfather has been anything but easy.  I don't know which way to turn anymore.   I literally have no family or friends to speak with, and I'm not exaggerating.  If you could drop me some words of wisdom I'd be much obliged, especially knowing how busy you are with a lot more important issues.

Audrey Veale

Dear Happiness, you know nothing about spousal abuse.  Jennifer married Jeffery when she was 19 years old and he was 30.  It is a slow process, and you are very ignorant to think she's at fault.  The subtle emotional abuse starts until she is trapped emotionally, financially, spiritually.  He has systematically broken her down throughout the years.  Plus, no matter what Jennifer did, it has nothing to do with his behavior.  He is obsessed and has major control issues.  My mother was abused for 12 years in her marriage to my father.  It isn't that simple, every time my mother tried to leave, he hunted us down.  My father attempted to kill my mother more times than I can count.  That was in the 60's into the 70's when there were no safe houses and it was ok to smack your wife around.  There are people today who still think it's ok.  You seem to think she likes it, and wants it and eggs it on, YOU ARE DEAD WRONG!.  You are lucky you found a good man, but please do not speak out on something you know nothing about!

Jennifer, my prayers are with you!  I hope you and your children keep safe and I hope you end up with a happy life, my mother did!  She's now married 21 years to a good, kind man.

Terri

It was to keep him there and co operative with the staff, at one point they sedated him, but sedatives don't work well on a person already wound up, and maybe in some way she thought she might be helping in his treatment (out there maybe, but possible ).

If she had changed all those things, he would've left too soon, and things would've been worse than ever for her, as an adult he has the RIGHT to leave, remember this treatment was voluntary on his part, and for him to STAY there was benificial to her as well, it gave her time to come up with a plan, so keeping him there was to everyone's advantage, not only his (though admittadly, it didn't do him much good).