Topic : 05/11 Obsessive Love: On the Run

Yep, this monster feeds himself. For all of those who are blaming Jennifer or Dr. Phil, REMEMBER that JEFFREY was the one who sent the letter. He basically told on himself--and I'm glad he did. He was insane enough to think that Dr. Phil would back him up! Thanks, Dr. Phil, for helping Jennifer & her kids. And I agree with others that Jeffrey should only have SUPERVISED visits with his children--and that should be quite awhile before he even sees them! They need to be protected from him! Just as Jennifer needs to be.

I don't think a lot of people understand (since they've never been through it) how much Jeffrey had done to control Jennifer's life--and that gets to a person. Sometimes a woman doesn't know what to do or how to get out of that kind of life. Like Jennifer said, if she ever tried to leave him, he would just go into overdrive crazy! She was scared to leave him--scared that he would kill her or kidnap the kids. And rightly so! It's not as simple as some people want to make it sound..."Oh, just leave him...get outta there." Easy to say when you're not in the situation. I don't think her infidelity made him crazy--I think it was always there & he would've done the same thing even if she'd never had an affair. He's insane! He's too mentally unstable to even know what the normal thing to do is. I hope he's still in jail.

I'll be anxiously awaiting an update to this story. I'm glad Jeffrey's outrageous & unacceptable--and inexcusable!--behavior has been shown to the world, so people will know that he's dangerous. What kind of weirdo takes underwear?? Ewww! Creepy! Jeffrey makes my skin crawl. Hang in there, Jennifer! Take care of yourself & your kids! {{{hug}}} You're in my prayers...I'm even praying that somehow God will get a message through to Jeffrey that he needs to somehow find his way back to sane (if that's possible).

Joy

P.S. Jennifer, I'm on myspace too...contact me if you just need someone to listen. {{{hug}}} I've not been through that, but I know it has to be so hard. Email me at joyjoybinks43@yahoo. com (just take out the space before "com") if you want to. God bless you & keep you & your kids. I'll pray that somehow God will work a miracle to help Jeffrey stop being so obsessive & insane, but I'm SO glad you & your kids are away from him!

Well I think once Jennifer is settled she needs to get therapy for herself and her kids...I know she just went to a meet and greet and took pictures but I hope she takes it very slow and be very careful who she gets involved with. I think she needs to be on her own for a while and not look for someone to take care of her. I hope she is able to change the thought pattern that attracted a Jeffrey into her life.

Jennifer needs to stand on her own with support from family and go through therapy because I feel she is looking for someone to lean on and she has the kids to consider. I wish her the best of luck.

Run girl, run the other way as fast as you can.  Your husband scares me for you.  I don't trust him at all.  I wish you luck, love and blessings to get you through this horrible situation you are currently in.

Your situation reminded me of a prose I wrote a couple years back that ended up in the women's shelter here in my home town. 

May I share it with you.   And please anyone out there you may use the use my worked but please do include my name as it is copywrited. 

Your Love is a Lie

You say you love me.  But each and every time you hit me tells me that’s a lie.  You bring me flowers.  The life in those flowers dies, just like my love for you, with each slap, kick or punch.  Why do I stay?  “Sorry,” you say, “it won’t happened again,” and it doesn’t, until the next time.

You say you love me.  Really, is it because I have yet to call the cops and have you arrested, or is it because, I hide the bruises and make excuses.

You say that you love me.  If only I didn't make you mad.  If only I did everything single thing exactly the way you think I should, then as you put it, you wouldn’t have to straighten me out.  I didn’t realize that everything I do or say is so completely wrong.  What are the odds of that?

You say you love me.  Tell me, are bitch and whore terms of endearment.  How could you possibly love someone you hate so much, someone who according to you can’t say or do anything right.

You say you love me.  That you are the only friend I have.  Well, I have no friends left, they got tired of seeing the truth and putting up with my denial.  And you, you are not my friend.

You say that you love me.  Well guess what, I love me, and I am going to be my own best friend.

I have left you and I am never coming back.  You are going to do what you’re going to do, but nothing you say or do will change my mind.  You say that you love me.  Liar.

Abuse only stops when you don’t allow it to happen any more.  If you leave, it will end.  Sometimes it takes a while for thing to settle down, but eventually it will end.  If you stay it will never end.  Chose to love yourself enough to make the right decision, you deserve better.

by Eileen Beaton  all right reserved 2007

I am praying for you, your child and your safety.  May God bless you and keep you always. 

It is because this type of behaviour is PREVALENT in our society.. that this show was aired. It is not to exploit anyone.. it is to make people aware that so many women are abused & no-one knows it. No-one knew I was being abused & my soon-to-b-x also accused me of affairs (HE was the one cheating, not me) & since he came off as a really nice guy, many sided with him.

I for one am GLAD that Dr Phil had the courage to air a show to bring more attention/awareness to this epidemic. If it helps ONE woman get enough strength/courage to leave an abusive relationship, it is well worth it.

Finding another man would be the worst thing that woman could do!  She would end up with the same type personality because she has not gotten help for herself after that nut job!

And, if I had to live in a shoe box I would never place myself, and least of all my children, in that type of situation again.  The children have sustained trama, as well!  They would be first and foremost.