Topic : 05/11 Obsessive Love: On the Run

I had a hard time watching this whole series about Jeffrey and Jennifer.  Within the past six months I left my 2nd husband of 3 years.  My husband was very mentally abusive to me, keeping his thumb on me and my every actions, and creating double standards for our lives.  The past eight months of our marriage, I learned, while I was away at work, he was chatting online with other women.  These conversations were sexual in detail and he even claimed to be single.  I found out my husband had very explict sexual fantasies.  I logged into his messanger program one day when he was away and that's how I found everything out-by one of his "girls" messaging him (actually me).

My heart went out to Jennifer.  NO woman deserves to go through what she has gone through.  It's never easy to leave someone of that mental capacity because they drain us mentally to the point we feel we cannot survive without them.  I can't count how many times I've thought to myself "would life be better if I stayed?".  Ultimately the answer is NO.  It's never good especially of there are children involved.  My eight-year-old witnessed what I went through with my ex and no child should see these things.  No child should learn that this is how to treat their woman. 

Jennifer-I'm so glad Dr. Phil gave you the resources needed to get away from Jeffrey.  You are a wonderful mother and you will do what is right for your children.  I will continue to keep you in my thoughts and prayers.  Your children need you more now than ever!  Just remember-despite what is said to you or how you are made to feel-you are NOT alone.

I didn't understand all of that either, I thought a lot was left out.  Where was all the protection?  I know most women would not have any, but I thought Dr. PHil, et al, had it covered.  Maybe they decided to let her go in to calm him?  It's all strange, scary, & sad.............

Makes one grateful for one's ordinary, boring, dull life.  I'll take that any day...........

What a show the past 3 days have been.  Jeffrey gave me the chills.  You could actually see the wheels turning in that sick brain of his, trying to manipulate everyone he came into contact with.  I wish Jennifer and her family, all the best of luck in the world.  You deserve to be happy and live without FEAR..No one deserves what you have been thru.

There is only one thing I don't understand on the third episode!  After the show... was Jennifer just left on her own to go back home by herself. None of the Doctors or anyone from the show accompanied her to make sure she got home OK, especially after knowing that Jeffrey was headed for the airport?   It just didn't make sense to me that she would be left by herself to deal with the aftermath, especially when she got home and saw that he was already there.   

I am sooooo glad that Jeffrey is behind bars and awaiting trial.  I don't know how much they will be able to do to him on the Protective Order....but maybe a Judge will see thru him also and committ him to a Psychiatric Hospital where they can lock him up and throw away the key. 

God Bless you Jennifer.  May you never have to live another fearful day in your life.   I will often think about you, and how you are doing.   I hope that Dr. Phil will get back up with you real soon.

Jeffrey,  please for the sake of all that is good, please stop hurting yourself and your family.  I do not know what it will take for you to become whole and healthy minded person, but in the meantime I wish you would just leave Jen and the children alone.  Completely.  Until you become a trustworthy person do you trust yourself to not continue to do them harm?  Whether emotional harm or otherwise?

Jeffrey, your way of doing things is not working for you, maybe you have no choice but to listen to those who do know the right way of things.  Please try to do what at least they think is right, your judgement is distorted Jeffrey, please if you can acknowledge that perhaps you can move forward to something better in you life.  This world needs more winners, there are too many losers.   Your choice.   Are you a loser or a winner.  Perhaps you could turn this around and do some good for others like yourself, perhaps you could be an example that there is hope beyond hope. 

Good luck.  There is a higher power within you, listen to it, but first you must be open to it, and that won't happen with your mind full of obsessive thoughts and your body performing obsessive actions.