Topic : 05/11 Obsessive Love: On the Run

He won't change. I've experienced the same kind of abuse for over 20 years and I can say that no matter how much he says he wants to get better, it isn't sincere. I'm glad to see that she is getting the help she needs. I wish there was help for me, but I'm so far in to it at this point in my life that I have way too much fear and I'm basically numb. I cry inside every day. I know I should call the 1-800-799-SAFE number and make a plan to get out, but I ask myself which is the less of two evils....living with a total whack job or living in poverty since I don't have a job and doubt I could hold a job down at this point since he's totally messed my mind up to a point that I have a really really hard time dealing with even the smallest amount of stress. I just shut down and can sleep for days and wish I could fall asleep forever and never wake up. People don't realize how this sort of psychological/verbal/emotional/financial abuse can be just as bad as physical if not worse. I wish he would hit me or do something physical so I could call the police on him and have him locked up like he should be...but he learned many years ago that he better not touch me. (He used to be physically abusive and I never reported it but I told a friend who ended up telling my Dad about it and I'm pretty sure my Dad had a good talk with him at the time. I'm not sure though. I just know that it stopped....but then turned to really bad verbal abuse and major controlling behavior).

Anyways, this Jeff guy totally reminds me of my husband in many ways. It's wonderful that Jennifer is getting out. I wish I could too. I wish noone had to put up with abuse in any form. One thing she has that I don't is a support system. I'm totally isolated from the world and he has everyone fooled (who doesn't live with him)....with exception of my Dad and brother...but I won't go to them for help. They have their own lives to deal with. I've went to my dad before and he recommended that I go to a shelter and I refuse to live in total poverty because of my husband's behavior. He should be forced to leave. If only he would just hit me so I could get a restraining order and have him removed from the house....but even then, I wouldn't be able to pay the bills. I think my only hope is to pray that I don't live much longer, so I can have peace once and for all....but I won't commit suicide and let him laugh over my grave. I just hope for a terminal illness or something....or for him to have a heart attack and die (since he has "high blood pressure" due to all of his whacked ways and probably because he puts so much energy forth in acting one way in front of others and being a total ass behind closed doors). I've been tempted at times to just walk around the house with a baseball bat to intimidate him for once! But, if I did that, he would accuse me of being abusive or twist things around. In the back of my mind I'm just wishing I could go back in time and never have met him or got involved with him, but that's not possible. Well, I guess I'll stop venting. Doesn't change anything so it isn't even worth doing.

rphenix,
I am with you and your husband on this. I myself  am concerned about Jennifer and her children. When Dr Phil aired that show I had flash backs of my ex marriage. My ex-husband was a mental and physical abuser.  My ex wasn't quite that bad but bad enough.  I picture Jeffery of a man that would say if I can't have her then nobody will.
I hope Dr. Phil will convince Jen too get out. It might have to go as far as going underground and change her and her children identity. Because I really feel he will kill her.

I think Jefrey needs to be locked uo in an insane asylum and never let out.

GOD forbid he is ever ablr tokeep doing this to his wife or be able to  do this to anyone else.

As I watched the Show today and observed the look in this persons eyes,  It ran a chill down my spine.  He knows very well what he is doing to his wife.  And they showed him on a video tape how upset he was making her, and that empowered him even more.  He likes the fear causes her.  That is how he manipulates her.  This pleased him.  The only time she will truly Win is when he will no longer bring her to tears with his voice or threats or comands.

I think she can keep herself Safe from him,  It is the children I am concerned about.  The law will insist that the children be allowed to see their Father,  And He knows how much the children mean to her.  I really believe This man will run with those Children, or he will harm the Children to hurt her.  He is just that demented.  There have been so many sick Fathers that have harmed their Children just to get even with their Mother.  I really hope that the legal system considers this mans mental state before forcing her to give the children to him unsupervised.  Actually,  This man really needs to be commited.  I am not sure he is safe to be out in public.  He is disolusioned.

I didn't realized you lived with them and knew this for a fact.....oh brother....