I watched the show on Thursday, May 10th and from what I saw I could only compare it to what I learned from a psych professor in college who had done much research on the rate of recitivism in federal inmates that had repeatedly committed serious relationship crimes. She refers to men like Jeffery as "Hollow Logs" They look good on the outside but have few redeemable qualities inside. This professor also made reference to men like Jeffery as "Relationship Terrorists" that care little about the impact they have on their families as long as thier primal needs are being met, and that they are in control of their situation.
It's about power over someone else and I suspect Jeffery, somewhere in his childhood or young adult life was rendered powerless by someone who abused him, and now he is practising what he learned, I think finding out why he is so terrified to be alone may answer some of the questions that I thought about while watching the show.
Regardless of what Jennifer has done to attempt to have some sort of love and acceptance, and normalcy in her life, gives him no right to do any of the inhumane things he has done to her in what appears to be nothing more than him practising ongoing relationship terrorism. This man needs serious help, and I think by law needs to be kept away from his family before he does something that can't be un-done, if that hasn't already taken place. It is obvious that he has no sense of what interdependence is, nor what a healthy relationship even looks like and until he has undergone intense psychotherapy should not be allowed to be in realationship with any woman or family.
This man appears to be so terrified of being alone that he will do whatever he thinks he has to, to keep his family together. Too many women historically have paid the ultimate price for loving men like this, please don't let this happen to his wife and family.
Jeffery also displays almost all co-dependant behaviors I have ever read or heard about, and I think even with professional help he needs to be isolated from society until his actions, not his words would indicate there has been some measure of change.
Trust is earned Jeffery, and just suspicion, not fact can destroy it. Everytime you open your mouth you create suspicion and until you can learn what truth looks like you need to stay away from your family.
You demonstrate some of the most deplorable behaviors I have seem in a long time and don't deserve in any measure to have someone as beautiful as her in your life.
Jeffery's admitting that he figured out how to beat the system while in treatment to get in contact with Jennifer just confirms the fact that he is not ready in any way to be anwhere near her or his family. He is dangerous and needs to be locked down so she can get away and re-start her life.
It is going to take years for her and the children to recover from what has happened and many of the long term ramifications won't be seen until after the children have grown up and had a chance to look back on thier past.
Please help her get as far away from him as possible, she has a right to an existance without having him anywhere near her and be sure he cannot find her as this man will do immeasurabel harm to get what he thinks he has a right to.
I think if you find a way to stop his mouth from working you may stand a fighting chance of getting his ears to work. Anyone who defends and justifies as much as he does cannot possibly hear anything that has been said to him as his mind is steaily having to come up with another excuse or lie for him to manipulate in a see through attempt to get what he wants.
He can't even comprehend "how's that workin for ya"?
Enuf said.
Best of Luck with this one. MHTII
The incredible drama continues involving Jeffrey, an obsessive husband who won’t let go of his wife, Jennifer. After the last show, Jeffrey is on his way back to the treatment facility, when his anger gets the best of him, and he jumps out of the car and goes on the run. He finally calls his therapist from a taxi cab, but soon after is on the loose again. After four hours and a frenzy of phone calls with Dr. Phil show producers, see what Jeffrey demands. With the stress and pressure getting the best of her, Jennifer sits down with Dr. Phil to discuss their next step. In a hurried panic, Jennifer heads home and is shocked by what she finds when she walks in the front door. She takes her kids and flees to her mother’s house. Even though she’s in a safe place, why does she say she still lives in fear? Then, Jennifer’s attorney files papers and meets Jeffrey in front of a judge. Will Jeffrey be able to comply with the judge's orders? And, Jeffrey resumes talk with the Dr. Phil staff. What is he asking for? Jeffrey’s behavior continues to shock and mystify Jennifer and leaves her with only one choice. Share your thoughts, join the discussion.
