Topic : 05/11 Obsessive Love: On the Run

You are SO right about the affair NOT causing this; the man is sick and dangerous. However, this 'act of self preservation" you state is not correct.

Affairs are ALWAYS wrong and ALWAYS incredibly selish. If her intent were "self preservation," it would make more sense to get away, not add fuel to the fire. And yes, I do have an "ounce of intelligence" (much more than that:).

Correct again....Jennifer is NOT to blame for this man's mental problems. It's sad that she were not wiser and stronger, but then again he picked her (at the young age of 19) becuase he wanted someone he could control.

My 1st husband was just like that untill he killed himself but I was afraid everytime he took the kids after I left him because it didnt stop.He would take them and then follow me to see if I was with someone else It hurts to get hit and have some one watching you all the time. He would call me from his cell and say look out you bedroom widow and he would be standing ther and that was 12 year of hell .  She needs to get away far away.

First, I would like to state that  no one deserves to be treated in the way that jennifer is being treated.  However, this woman is not innocent.  Dr. phil has not once examined her part in all of this.  I know that if Dr. phil tries, it will seem as if he is trying to make an excuse for the husband's behavior.  It was stated that his behavior started before she cheated on him, and that may be the truth, but now I believe that for a long time this woman wanted to move on and now that she has help from the dr. phil show, she is taking full advantage of it.  Jeffrey stated that he discovered a voice message from a guy stating that he was thinking about jennifer and he assumes that she is in the shower so when she get the message for her to return it.  I think that once this woman cheated the first time, she continued to sneak around, and that is why he continues to monitor her.  She doesn't even have the decency to wait until they are separated before she begins to speak to other men,  It is clear that Jeffrey needs help.  However, I think that it is unfair for people to continue to label him as a nut and so forth.  I believe that this woman was too young when she got married and now she wants to have that excitement in her life that she didn't have then.  In conclusion, I hope that jeffrey receive that help that he needs so that he can move on with his life.

p.s.  and what kind of wife exposes herself on myspace in a bikini, doesn't she know that this would encourage him to continue his behavior, not that it is entirely her fault, but it goes to show that this woman is not entirely innocent in this whole thing.

I find it very interesting that Jeff was the one who wrote the Dr Phil show asking for the help. So many people judge him. I think that is very very sad. We do not know all of the facts by watching the show. He also was quite forthcoming with all of the crap he was doing. He admits it all. He honestly said he would much rather be working in his job than being his own private dectective to watch his wife.

I think he really wanted to have a normal family life with his wife and kids. I think he really wanted Dr Phil to HELP HIM get exactly that. I think if Jeff had a normal life with his wife and kids he would be a good Father, a good husband, and a good provider. That came through in the first show.

I thought it was sad that there was no applause when he walked upon the stage this evening. He was still a guest on the show and has been willing to share his personal life with all of us.

You judgemental people make me sick.

Dr Phil's attorney for Jeffs wife also makes me sick. He was made out to be a good guy doing a really good thing.  NOT! 

Its sad that Jeff did'nt just hire CHEATERS to watch his wife. Then our media  brainwashed culture would not be able to judge him and call him nuts for trying to hang onto his wife and family.

What do you thing would happen if Jen just woke up one day and said. "I love my husband and will do anything to show him that I absolutely love him as my man and the father of my children and make him feel absolutely secure in our love and relationship"  AND backed it up with whatever the hell he needed to feel safe and secure in his relationship with her?

Her myspace page has a new entry telling everybody she is MARRIED and TOTALLY COMMITTED to her husband. and gets pictures like he posted of happy times with the WHOLE family.

What Jeff needs you bunch  of judgemental apes, is a woman who is not looking over his shoulder at other DUDES. Which, unfortunately, she is doing, probably because he married her

at such a young age 19 and now she is naturally curious about other men.

Jeff needs to realize that with his two kids he will always be in her life regardless. He also needs to shut the hell up about what he is thinking on the inside and stop sharing it with people who are only going to screw him over for it.

What he is feeling is totally natural for a man who is losing his wife to her wandering eye of 30 and married at 19.

Let her go dude, This aint workin!  I know you thing you discovered plutonium but there are other

beautiful women out there if she will not love you properly as you tried to love her before it all started to go sideways.

I dont think he will ever harm her because I believe he truely does love her more than he loves his own desire for her. Just one mans opinion. 

Best of luck Jeff, you have a difficult road ahead but you ARE QUITE INTELLIGENT. 

Put those smarts to work to improve your situation and life for you and everyone around you.

Definca

I find it very interesting that Jeff was the one who wrote the Dr Phil show asking for the help. So many people judge him. I think that is very very sad. We do not know all of the facts by watching the show. He also was quite forthcoming with all of the crap he was doing. He admits it all. He honestly said he would much rather be working in his job than being his own private dectective to watch his wife.

I think he really wanted to have a normal family life with his wife and kids. I think he really wanted Dr Phil to HELP HIM get exactly that. I think if Jeff had a normal life with his wife and kids he would be a good Father, a good husband, and a good provider. That came through in the first show.

I thought it was sad that there was no applause when he walked upon the stage this evening. He was still a guest on the show and has been willing to share his personal life with all of us.

You judgemental people make me sick.

Dr Phil's attorney for Jeffs wife also makes me sick. He was made out to be a good guy doing a really good thing.  NOT! 

Its sad that Jeff did'nt just hire CHEATERS to watch his wife. Then our media  brainwashed culture would not be able to judge him and call him nuts for trying to hang onto his wife and family.

What do you thing would happen if Jen just woke up one day and said. "I love my husband and will do anything to show him that I absolutely love him as my man and the father of my children and make him feel absolutely secure in our love and relationship"  AND backed it up with whatever the hell he needed to feel safe and secure in his relationship with her?

Her myspace page has a new entry telling everybody she is MARRIED and TOTALLY COMMITTED to her husband. and gets pictures like he posted of happy times with the WHOLE family.

What Jeff needs you bunch  of judgemental apes, is a woman who is not looking over his shoulder at other DUDES. Which, unfortunately, she is doing, probably because he married her

at such a young age 19 and now she is naturally curious about other men.

Jeff needs to realize that with his two kids he will always be in her life regardless. He also needs to shut the hell up about what he is thinking on the inside and stop sharing it with people who are only going to screw him over for it.

What he is feeling is totally natural for a man who is losing his wife to her wandering eye of 30 and married at 19.

Let her go dude, This aint workin!  I know you thing you discovered plutonium but there are other

beautiful women out there if she will not love you properly as you tried to love her before it all started to go sideways.

I dont think he will ever harm her because I believe he truely does love her more than he loves his own desire for her. Just one mans opinion. 

Best of luck Jeff, you have a difficult road ahead but you ARE QUITE INTELLIGENT. 

Put those smarts to work to improve your situation and life for you and everyone around you.

Definca