Jeffrey was nuts for taking the path he chose. I'd consider his behavior more self destructive than repentant. He knew what his wife was up to and knew that this was a lost cause. But his mind isn't right and his fears, knowing they were true, led him to the wild behavior of spy-works and desperation.
Some of the things he did are no different than a private investigator. But some of the things he did, such as wanting to write a bad check, were flat out stupid. When a man (or woman) wants to harm himself for the love of a cold man or woman, he's wasting his or her time and money. His cause was already lost when she cheated on him. He just made her winnings even more. Wow! 50% percent of his business? Must be nice to sleep with other men and get paid for it. A man cheats, they say, "Take every thing he's got!" But if a woman cheats, she still gets everything he's got!
Jeffrey, I don't know if you'll ever read this but I hope you've learned your lesson. I won't bother to point out the mistakes you made, as I'm sure you are quite aware of them. No one is perfect and we all make mistakes. Give it some time and your wounds will heal. Only this time, don’t be in such a rush to marry the first girl you find attractive. But then after paying her bills, you may not be able to afford another woman.
Jennifer, my best wishes to you and your children. I know you are right in fearing Jeffrey's behavior, and your divorce is the right thing. Dr. Phil was wise in telling you not to show emotional stress or tears because that’s what Jeffrey did on the show and he was chastised for it; you'd be considered just a crazy as he is. Remember what Dr. Phil did to Jeffrey when he cried? He didn't want anyone to start pointing fingers at him. Remember the pain you felt when you were away from home and cried because you wanted to go home? That's what Jeffrey wanted.....he just wanted to go home. And several months in a crazy house is not home, and trust me, it doesn’t work and will be in your record for a long time. They basically teach you how to cope with stress and endure the hardships you're going to face. Basically they teach you how to accept getting screwed.
One last thing Jeffrey. You beat yourself...just remember that. You wasted too much emotion and time trying to save what was already lost. Remember from it...be careful in your next relationship. And study your lovers before you choose to marry them. Don't worry about Jennifer or what she's doing because you already know what she's doing; you can’t do anything about it. You just need to accept it, but believe me, there is light at the end of the tunnel. Mother always told me, “What comes around, goes around!” and hopefully Jennifer doesn’t meet a man (or men) that did what she did. If so, she’ll find out the pain involved. My best wishes to you both.
Now to the rest. Speaking from experience here, a person who's fearful of their spouse killing them are very testy when it comes to meeting another person. Two of my friends (female) about 10 years ago suffered abuse from their husbands.....physical abuse. After they got a divorce, they refused to date men for quite some time. Jennifer was out partying as if nothing ever happened. She did not portray a woman who was badly abused. She portrayed a woman who just wanted off the roller coaster and was desperate to get it. She ignored him emotionally and created the right circumstances for his emotional outburst. I’m not saying it was her fault he acted that way, as he was probably like that from the beginning. But I am saying it’s still wrong to tune someone out for years, not sharing affection as expected from a husband and wife. If Jeffrey was crazy from the beginning, she should have left him. If Jeffrey caught her cheating the first time, he should have left her. But the damage is done and Jeffrey is totally screwed in this deal. My concerns are for the kids. She'll meat someone and they'll have to put up with a step-father they'll probably never respect. Or have to endure years of many men in their house, and believe me…that sucks! My mother did that when she was younger, and my brother and I didn’t like it. My father was killed in Vietnam, and my step-father was killed likewise. It’s lonely growing up without a father. Therefore, I hope the children can find peace and happiness and most importantly, not forget about their father. I’m certain some of these single gals on here who call men “donors” would love to see nothing more than for a father to lose contact with his kids. Don’t forget your father, and don’t hate your mother, dear children.
The incredible drama continues involving Jeffrey, an obsessive husband who won’t let go of his wife, Jennifer. After the last show, Jeffrey is on his way back to the treatment facility, when his anger gets the best of him, and he jumps out of the car and goes on the run. He finally calls his therapist from a taxi cab, but soon after is on the loose again. After four hours and a frenzy of phone calls with Dr. Phil show producers, see what Jeffrey demands. With the stress and pressure getting the best of her, Jennifer sits down with Dr. Phil to discuss their next step. In a hurried panic, Jennifer heads home and is shocked by what she finds when she walks in the front door. She takes her kids and flees to her mother’s house. Even though she’s in a safe place, why does she say she still lives in fear? Then, Jennifer’s attorney files papers and meets Jeffrey in front of a judge. Will Jeffrey be able to comply with the judge's orders? And, Jeffrey resumes talk with the Dr. Phil staff. What is he asking for? Jeffrey’s behavior continues to shock and mystify Jennifer and leaves her with only one choice. Share your thoughts, join the discussion.
