Topic : 05/11 Obsessive Love: On the Run

Quote From: maggie25454

I am disabled from domestic violence and my abused has been traced back to when I was in my mothers womb.  I did not intenally enter any of my 3 marriages knowing they were abusive, I was just trying to gain acceptance of my mother.  Yes, they are cookie cutter of my mother.  Oh well, I know her trama and understood very well her fear, anxiety,  and her need for a few moments of smiles.  The head of Probation wanted me to change my identity fearing my safety for the rest of my life.  Only those of us who have been in that situation and have an understanding of ourselves today will ever have an understanding of the reasons we stay in these abusive relationships.  Instead of casting blame, you might consider going to a domestic violence support group to increase your insight on the matter.  Then possibly compassion will follow.  We only remain ignorant as long as we choose to be.  Who knows, the insight gained may change your life or save someone elses.  I'm sure Dr. Phil will ensure she and her children receive all the necessary counseling to assist them during this difficult time.  If I would have been allowed to watch TV, I would have probably contacted his show.  I was just trying to stay alive one more day.  I now attend IUPUI and my gpa is 3.9...so my exhusband did not break all of me, just left me crippled.  I will get a cane.

Quote From: gwarrior6

I thought the reason for her "smiling" was that she FINALLY found the help to deal with this psycho.  That can give you a lot of confidence.  Maybe she was anxious, being filmed can make you nervous.  You can't tell someone's personality just by expressions.  Remember, JEFF was the one who wrote to Dr. Phil trying to fix HER.  This was the one chance she had to actually get away from him. 

I always hate hearing when people want to blame the victim for the assailant's outrageous behavior.  You don't blame a victim for a murderer's actions and you don't blame a woman if she's raped even if she's supposedly "asking for it" whatever the heck that's supposed to mean.  No one desserves this treatment, I don't care if she was contributing to it or not. 

Quote From: momonshore

Having watched both episodes I honed in on 'body language' and the lack of this man being able to even look at Dr. Phil when responding but instead closed his eyes to speak.   He certainly seems to tell ALL about his weird behaviour and obsessiveness towards his wife but I can't believe he'll change in so little time.  He is in the true sense of the word a STALKER! Do "stalkers" ever get well?  I realize Dr. Phil gave him a chance for the sake of their children and that is what seems to be necessary because afterall, he is their father but I worry about their safety too.  We read about fathers killing their children .  This show has really sent a chill up my spine.    I was completely exhausted after watching both episodes and hoping that Jennifer takes the kids and GOES!    Please help her and their kids!  She's got to get out and fast.  But where can she hide?  It seems like such an endless journey with this nut lurking around every corner. 

Quote From: 2nephi

I thought the help he was getting was doing to do some good but he is hiding something more deep down inside that he can control and doesn't want the clinic to know at all.  somehow for the clinic dr. to help him he has to get at that deep dark why??   there is a reason he is sooooo afraid and so obessive and now to be in jail.  I after I seen the show now,  I think it is a good thing jennifer is getting a divorce from jeff as she doesn't need this but the girls need their dad in their lives after he gets more help and he sees them with supervised visits.   Because of his stablity right now supervised visits is all that can be handled and only when a dr. says its ok though.  why put the kids thru more harm than necessary.  as least when the dr. says its ok. for visits and a supervised visit then ok.

 

But in the future how would Jeff handle another wife??  would he do this to another woman??  he needs long treatments as does the jennifer and the girls since they was they put thru it also.  Running from the dr.phil show like that when he was going back to the clinic doesn't put him into a bright spotlight at all.  he has alot of work to do to get his act together even just for himself.

 

2Nephi

Quote From: cashmere5678

You raised many of the same questions I was asking as I watched the show.  Why were the children with a babysitter as the drama was unfolding?  Why did Jen go home alone? Why were the police not notified in hometown in Virginia and get those kids to safety? And I did raise the question to my husband about her driving to Iowa with her children after no sleep.  Couldn't someone have sprung for plane tickets?

 

While I believe that Jeffery is a whack job, I wonder why he took off for a couple of days to go to California and be with friends if he was so obsessed with Jennifer?  I think that Jeffery played well for the camera. How much of his behavior was "acting" to an audience of 10 million!  I wonder if he ever thought he would end up in jail when he first wrote the letter to Dr. Phil!!!!!

 

Jeffery kept saying over and over that his marriage was "until death do us part".  I think that was a message to Jen that he is planning on killing her.  I had a neighbor some 15 years ago who behaved much like Jeffery and you know what--he did kill his wife.  He is now serving a life sentence with no chance of parole.

Quote From: sabrinaspell12

Not that what he is doing is right. it's not, but she shouldn't of cheated on him in the first place. when she made the decision to sleep with someone else she should of left than. sounds like the foolishness didn't start til she had the affairs. she also needs to get real. it takes two to make it or break it.