Topic : 05/11 Obsessive Love: On the Run

Maybe, maybe not.

It's not totally unreasonable to want some kind of life if the man you're married to has made you a prisoner in your own house. Maybe the computer is the only way she can have a connection with anyone.

And what's up with all this talk about being hugged up on another man?

I can only inmagine that after years of being trapped and confined by jeffery, she's probably  feeling free for the first time in forever and she's going out and meeting people. Good for her! Her lonliness is something only those in her situation could imagine.

She's been telling him for years she wants out and he won't let her go. Anyone ever consider she was just doing what she thought would make him leave! Sure, it's not smart, but lets remember she was nineteen when she met him and he probably hadn't made it easy for her to mature emotionally past that point.

Think about it. Everything everyone is wondering why she would do, is stuff a nineteen year old girl would do to a boyfriend to piss him off. She may not even know she's doing it, she just knows she has to do something to keep this man from destroying who she is completely.

I'm sure she's made mistakes, we're all human.

But Jeffery is beyond that, and I don't think anyone can drive a man  to do the things he's done unless he's already emotionally unbalanced.

As I watched both installments of what I call "In Jeffrey's World" it was abundantly clear this really had nothing to do with Jennifer, although she was deeply victimized in all of this. It had everything to do with Jeffrey's delusions and his "15 minutes of fame" on television. Remember, he was the one that initially contacted the Dr. Phil Show. As things began to go awry, and Jeffrey's control was quickly diminishing, he found it increasingly harder to play along. He had no intention of completing rehab; he was simply going through the motions and stringing everyone along for as long as he could. It amazed me as he was walking on stage how he noticed no one applauded. Then as he was getting into the limo, he actually snapped his fingers and told someone to get his luggage! He was in love with the attention he was getting. And it didn't matter to him one bit how stupid or foolish it made him look. In his mind this was happening to him - he was the victim. And as long as he could maintain that delusion in his mind, it's everyone else's fault; he's not responsible for any of it. I think the thing that bothers me most is how long he was able to get away with his behavior, especially since there were trained specialists capable of giving this guy a 51/50, and at least locking him up for 72 hour observation. I'm glad that Jennifer can finally have the life she wants and deserves. I pray that one day she will be able to have someone in her life that thinks about her more than himself, but thinks about them more than her.

Jennifer, I recommend you don't put pictures on the internet of you and other men. You know they said he's dangerous.

Husband, if you are reading on this, why don't you just stay there in treatment until you get completely over this. Face it, you had a good chance here and you blew it by calling her, checking her computer and not completely submitting to your treatment - not doing what you were supposed to.

I know Jeffery is very sick and wrong in what he does but I do not agree with the therapy he got.

He is taken away from his wife and we all know he is addicted to her.  He can call her but cannot see her.  WHY let him call her?  Then they bring him to the show where she is and he thinks they are going to be able to see each other and talk.  But NO they cannot even see each other.  So he goes ballistic.  It doesn't take a counselor to know he would do that.  That is like letting a drug addict know the drug is in the next room but he can't even look at it.  Why have it in the next room?  Either have his wife in counseling with him or get her away from him completely but kinda there but not really there is stupid therapy.

Then he goes haywire which we could all predict and they show him running all around town.  The staff protects her until she gets on the plane back home but she arrives in the middle of the night and no one from the staff or the police is with her.  Jeffery is home before she is but she still goes into the house and tells him she is divorcing him, the very thing the counselors say might set him off to do something harmful to her.  Did he?  NOOO, she packs and takes the kids out of the house.  He lets her leave.  HUH?  What harm did he do to her?

I would be saying lock this guy up and throw away the key but what does Jen do while he is in therapy?  She posts a picture of her and a man that she says she just met five minutes ago on her MY SPACE page.  WHAT?  She is almost hugging the guy in the picture and Jeffery sees it.  Now we know he hacks into her MY SPACE page so is this the brightest thing to do?  Jeffery says she is having an affair with the man.  Crazy thinking, HUH?  But he isn't that stable right now so why in heaven's name provoke him with a picture?  Why in Heaven's name even have a MY SPACE page when you know your husband is sick right now and that page sets him off?  No one NEEDS a MY SPACE page.  Why have one when your husband is in therapy for jealousy?

To me this isn't supporting him to get better, this is provoking him to act out.  BUT maybe that is the idea.  If he acts REALLY crazy the judge has no recourse but to order him to stay away from her and the kids.  I don't know what the staff of this show is tying to do or what agenda they have but this just seems wrong to me.  I hope this man and his family can get the help they so desperately need.  I think this time Dr. Phil blew it big time.

The man is sick and needs help.  Now he is locked up so how did that help him or his family?  I am beginning to wonder about this show. 

 This woman is in a gut-wrenching situation.  I feel so bad for her and for her mother.   I can't imagine what it would be like to have my daughter  in the middle of something like this.  Bless Dr. Phil for helping her.  I don't know if I missed something in todays show or not.  Maybe someone can fill me in.  I remember Jennifer saying that her friend said she would keep the children safe until she got there.   Then it shows that they were in the house with him when she got home??  Another thing, how in the world was he able to get a plane ticket without ID??  I agree with one person's post that I would not want to live in that house.  Too many horrible memories.   I really worry about her because like she said, a piece of paper won't stop him from hurting her or the children.   I was disturbed by some of the posts in a sense blaming her (the victim!) for antagonizing him!  There might have been some decisions that she has made that may not have been in her best interest (the Myspace pictures), but give her a break!  If I were under that kind of stress, I would have probably gone crackers and been carted off to the luny bin.