Topic : 05/11 Obsessive Love: On the Run

What scary shows. What a sick, dangerous, man!

With that said, I do believe Jennifer is STUCK AT AGE 19. Some of her behaviors (adultry years ago, MySpace account when she knows he's a hacker, etc) show that she does not think clearly. Much of that can probably be attributed to living with her controlling husband. And personally, I don't think she ever had a chance to grow up...marriage young, baby fast, controlling husband, etc... This has caused her to make some lousy choices that flame the fire of her crazy husband.

These people are DANGEROUS as a couple. She and those precious children could end up dead. The house is not worth it, but the woman probably has NOTHING....nothing in her name, no real friends, scared family members, etc. I just hope Dr. Phil and the courts can get her and the kids away from him w/o him knowing where she lives....until he gets well (providing he EVER gets well, which is doubtful). The man is so ill !!! I truly fear for Jennifer and the children!!

This man's behavior is unbeleiveable,it seems that being in custody of the authorities is right where he belongs.Hopefully the next step is to revoke this man's parental rights as he is a danger to his family and himself.Hopefully Jennifer can relocate far away from this man and start a new life.How she put up with this for so long is questionable but she obviously reached her breaking point.She certainly deserves better.

Jeffrey is more than a sicko. In my opinion, he IS dangerous.

As for Jennifer, one has to wonder why she never took measures to protect herself and the kids---phone number changes, postings on the internet, etc. Perhaps she likes her husband's obsessiveness?  But, I'm also sure part of the reason she's put up with him is financial..............

Someone must help this woman protect herself and her kids----or she'll be the next brutal headline!

You are correct but Jennifer cant be without a man for a year.  She is too involved in the myspace chatting, emailing and partying lifestyle.   This seems to be a major factor in the destruction of their marriage and a real cause of Jeffreys anxieties but is not being addressed at all or being taken seriously.  

Jennifer may pick a guy who has his own myspace chats and emails with many cute young girls.  When Jennifer finds strange womans phone numbers, then maybe she will realize what Jeffrey is going through.  

She may have gotten away with all that deceptive behavior with Jeffrey, but not all guys will put up with it.

Non-physical abuse is the same as Verbal Abuse and when someone lives around an abusive individual then they suffer from the affects of Verbal Abuse which can be manifested in their own lives down the road.  It may not rear it's ugly head when they are young, but when they are out of the home where the abuse occurred, living their own lives, it will show up as they interact with other people, peers, co-workers, and especially individuals who have authority over them.  I strongly encourage the wife and children to seek good counseling now; in order, to teach and create a better, more satisfying life in their future.

As for the wife - Jennifer? It is best as a person who has exited an abusive lifestyle to heal first internally preferably before involving herself in a relationship with another man.  Some excellent reading I would suggest are "Boundaries: How to Say No, How to Say Yes" by John Townsend & Henry Cloud and "The Verbal Abusive Relationship" by Patricia Evans.  They are both very enlightening books and very much helpful I have found in stages of my own recovery.  If Jennifer were to jump into another relationship prior to healing, she will unfortunately find she attracts the same sort of controlling, abusive junky whom Dr. Phil has been helping her to get away from.  She needs to understand herself first as a person, make friends with herself, understand why she involved herself with her husband in the first place, and then move on.  Goodluck Jennifer.  Those of us who have lived through this and have successfully overcame it, we encourage you on your road to a successful and free lifestyle from abuse!