Topic : 05/11 Obsessive Love: On the Run

Jenifer got pregnant and married after 2 months of dating ?

Could it be that at 19 years old she found a 30 year old SUGAR DADDY?

Jenifer...a mother of 3,  leaves her husband home babysitting while she goes out clubbing  

I would love to hook Jenifer up to a lie detector and ask about her affairs, that would be a great Dr Phil 1 hour show !

I read alot of post that say her affairs have nothing to do with it, but I think her affairs drove her husband into his bizarre controlling behavior.

I am shocked at dr. phil.... he usually see's both sides of the story, but for some reason he has blinders on and only see's her side.

DR: PHIL: JENIFER'S ACTIONS CAUSED THIS PROBLEM !!!

Desperate controlling people will do desperate things to enable their need to control others.  Without that control, desperate controlling people feel lost and inadequate.  The best thing for Jeffrey is to seek and commit to counseling through Creative Care and stay with it until he LEARNS how to function on his own as his own person and not use others to fill the void. 

Regardless if he is a hacker or not, they very likely share passwords or had shared passwords in the early stages of their marriage.  He would know everything about her since he has persistently and consistently created analysises of his wife throughout the marriage.  For her to throw him a curve ball at this stage of the game where he would not know or have an idea of what she would use as a password, she would have to literally become another person.  This isn't going to happen folks. 

Somehow I doubt seriously Jeffrey was a hacker, I think it is more he just knew Jennifer completely and used that information against her.

Nice comments Mike.  I am thankful not many people UNDERSTAND individuals like Jeffrey to be able to judge them accurately.  It is a painful, agonizing road I would not encourage others to fully comprehend on their own.  It is good to be aware that some individuals suffer from a mental condition much like Jeffreys, so we cannot become attached to them in our search for marital bliss.

This has been a good segment by the Dr. Phil show to enlighten individuals about our world.  I trust many people will learn what it is they need to, in order, to assist them in leading healthy, non-judgemental, caring, and fulfilling lives.

I hope Jeffrey will be able to commit to a successful inpatient care facility where he can receive the help he needs to overcome this narcissistic need to control others who are in his life.  To some, it is merely a re-training their thinking patterns from the abusive world they grew up in, to functioning in a normal, fully functional world.  With successful care, he will walk freely among us and we will never know that he was once this controlling, narcissistic junky;  but, rather, a caring and loving humanitarian.

I do NOT condone Jeffery's unskilfull behavior.  Jennifer, on the other hand was portrayed through all of this as "Saint Jennifer" the innocent victim.  I ain't buying it.  Dr. Phil should have spent more time exposing her actions...that may have significantly contributed to this situation.

Jeffery is way over the edge. 

Some spouses enjoy keeping their partners "off balance".  In a loving, trusting, respectful relationship you do not taunt your partner.  I would not care if my wife had a MY SPACE site as long as she did not "make herself available" to others.  I would be upset if she (my wife) locked me out of her site...and would not divulge the contents.  This would keep my "un-centered" and off balance.  I would not do that to her.

The photo of her snuggled in a new strangers shoulder, is a symptom of what "abuse" Jeffery himself was subject to.  That photo did not look innocent.  If my wife was taking photos like this with guys she knew only 5 minutes, I would question ALL of her actions.

I have enough self esteem that I would not stand in front of the *** kicking machine, but would leave.  Jeffery wanted a relationship with a woman,the mother of his kids, who probably could (or would) not emotionally reciprocate with him.  His methodology for dealing with her was and is very skewwed and unskilfull.

Dr. Phil, I wish you had taken her to task.  Yes, Jeffery is a basket case.......the story has two sides and you portrayed only one side.....is it for ratings.....sensationalism......making Jeffery look like a nut case.......would that have been diminished if it had been shown there were valid reasons that helped push him over the edge?

This show upset me a great deal. Almost as much as the show titled "A Mothers Rage".

Jeffrey is obviously mentally ill, and that;s an understatement.

I have a few questions though. Why didn't Jennifer change her phone number? It's fairly simple to do. Or turn her cell phone off? And Dr. Phil, this guy really creeped me out, so I can imagine how afraid Jen is of him.

Where is all the help you promised her? Letting your staff try to track him down, etc.

Put that woman and her children in a safe house, not her mothers, which is the first place he would look.

I expect to see the entire family's name in the paper any day now. jeffrey will end up killing them, then committing suicide. I have seen it too much.

Please have an update, I'm not the only one that is worried about Jen.