Topic : 05/11 Obsessive Love: On the Run

I watched the whole series on this Jeff and Jen thing.

Jeff had some issues, but mainly he was trying to do whatever needed to keep things tiogether.( his methods were wrong but reasons were right)

He knew from day 1 that she was a cheater and if he dropped his gaurd she'd be gone.

He loved his kids and his wife and he was willing to do whatever it took to keep them together.

Once trust is gone it's over. He tried to use information to substitue trust. It won't work.

Trust is everything!

Why was he chased  back home. He had shown no signs of aggression and gave no reason to feel he was dangerous. He never once threatened his wife or kids. He should have been given money to go back home and allowed to live his life. He had done nothing illegal and just wanted to go home after being lied to by the show and the people at the treatment center.

I believe that 100%

Why was she chosen to be able to take the kids and or keep the house over him. Because he was male.

He had every right to be back at his home with his family. She had no more rights to those kids than he did.

It makes me sick to see that instead of helping this family heal, they were ripped apart by (uncaring)doctors and lawyers.

He knew if he let go they would rip his family apart and he was proved right.

I think she is a selfish woman.

She got what she wanted all along! to be rid of her husband and to have evidence against him for the divorce.

She never had any intention of working through anything!

My heart goes out to this Man. He felt trapped. he knew what was coming and  he was kept away while his wife was taken to parties and introduced to new men.(who does that)

Then to add insult to injury, it was posted for all the world to see. Why would any wife who ever cared about her husband allow herself to be cuddling up to another man while all this was going on.

Its rediculous.

Her actions are not that of a wife who loved her husband(ever) and was in a bad situation.

I think shes a bad person and she needs to grow up!

I also feel he has just as much right to his house and kids as she does.

Cage anyone as he was and they will act the way he did.

I feel bad for him and I am disapointed in Dr Phil for allowing this to happen to someone who came to him for help.

Dr. Phil there are a lot men out in the world like Jeffery.  What is so ironic, I live with one. He  watched the show and wasn't  able to see he has the same characterics of Jeffery.  Before the show aired, I informed my live in lover of this same behavior. He very jealous and controling.  He constant;ly acussed me of cheating and saying that ex-boyfriend is calling me.  When we go out to a restaturant and he only want my eyes on him when I'm not eating my food. But, he looks and flirts with every woman he sees. Lord forbid if a guy speak to me , he will swear I'm having sex with the guy. It doesn't matter if the guy has a woman with him.  He accused me of  every man that may look or speak to me. He doesn' think my uncles or male cousins should come around unless he is present. On the other hand he has been present and accuse me of some of my male relatives. When he is upset he is calling me names such as: Bit__,,whore and etc.. 

What stop him from the name calling so far, what name he called me I would reply' "your mama and your sisters.  This is out of character for me, that said a silent pray and ask God to forgive me. An older woman told me to reply to him that and he would stop the name calling. Women is constantly calling him and he leave home and says he going over his mother or I be right back. Each time this occur one particular woman call him once he return. He exclaim she is fat and crazy. Yet, he doesn't want any male calling or visiting me unless they are my brothers.  If I go to the store accussed me of dating the employees.  There is a lot of Jeffery out there,.

I have been told by others that I'm married to a controlling husband.  However, I never took it seriously until I saw this show.  My husband is not anywhere near the point of Jeffrey, thank God.  He is not jealous and doesn't spy on me.  However, he does have total economic control, and makes all important decisions for the both of us.  I have very few relationships w/ friends anymore and little contact with my own family.  He hates my family, dislikes my friends, and outside interests.  I don't work and keep a clean house, but it's never good enough.  Anytime I embark on a new project within the house or discuss taking up something out of the house, he discourages me criticizes.  If I cook, he complains about the meal costing too much or making too much of a mess in the kitchen, or complains about the actual meal himself.  If I don't cook, he complains.  When I clean, it's not good enough.  I have hopes and dreams, most of which he's convinced me are not realistic.  He is not a bad man, but I'm finding it difficult to discuss my hopes and dreams with him b/c they're always squashed.  It's as if I have very little say in my entire life.  I want to stay married, and thought maybe someone here can give some sound advice.  I don't know what to do.

I hope and pray that Jennifer is able to find happiness and have a normal life and not have to look over her shoulder anymore.