Topic : 05/11 Obsessive Love: On the Run

 

 

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Dr.Phil,Jeffery was beyond frightening!Please keep us posted on Jennifers developement and what happened to Jefferey after his court proceeding...This show was truly compelling television!

Mike, 

 

I have just read your messaged and it really scared me.   Are you people professionals.  Are you taking it upon yourselfs to treat others.   What if someone is taking your advise, instead of going to a professional, and kills themselfs  I can read the excitement in you and other messages.

Be very, very careful in what you do. 

is to provide information and support. 

 

No fear-mongering, victim blaming or shaming.  All tactics of abusers.  Supporting the targeted individual and not enabling the abuser.  There has been WAY too much of that here on these show boards.

 

Hotline phone numbers, lists of books and websites for the purpose of education and giving women (for the most part) a place to share their experiences.  Not one of us who is interested in participating in such a forum would ever be so arrogant as to believe that we have all the answers nor would we suggest that a person not turn to the professionals for the guidance they might need.  Those of us who are involved in the genesis of this board are survivors of or witnesses to abuse.

 

Your caution, sir, is misdirected as has been the greatest majority of your posts.  I am sorry you have failed to understand.

 

peace

 

 

 

 

TO:  Adamtk and Dorie,

 

Thanks for your post. I believe my opinion to your message is irelevant .  Just like to say it is nice to have people on this site who come to rational conclusions.  Hope you will stay and contrubute to this site. There have been others here who have left due to some on this site who choose to belittle those with another opinion.

TO:  My2centsworth

 

Thanks for your message . I have just gotten around to reading it.  I took the compassion you felt in your message to show you have understanding for the need of all no matter of the situation.  You are a very rare and must be a wonderful person who can forgive.

 

You will find that because your opinion doesn't fall in line with some on this site you will be attacked.

 

What is confussion that those on this site are trying to form something to help people also show they have no compassion for some.  A person can not help without compassion in their heart.

jennifer you did not give jeff  a reson to trust you from day one .your myspace post is not right of a mother of 3  and a wife.you cheated on him you brok that trust for him .you and only you can fix it .the 3 kids need a mother and a father!!!.jeff falt  laft  out hive your Life  .he lived on the outside looking in.you did not lat him in the more he as you to open  up  the more you pust him out .you did not fix the trust.ther is no 18 day fix all .HE NEED YOU TO BELIVE IN HIM AND YOU DID NOT YOU TAKED  FORM HIM THE ONE THING HE LOVE  YOU NAD THE KIDS!!!!!!.HE asd  DR.PHIL and YOU for help and it got him LOCKUP for asing for HELP.this man is now  with out a loved one.YOU CAN FIX HIM AND ONLY YOU CAN FIXS HIM AND HIS KIDS.

TO:  Dorie 2

 

Thanks for your post. I found your experience very interesting.  It dosen't matter if I agree or not.  It is refreshing to hear a different side of this situation.  Isn't that what rational people desire - both sides of the story.

 

Good luck, you will need it when your post is read here by those with a closed, one track mind.

 

Best wishes  Also, sorry your pardor was subjected to this type of abuse.  (Women are capable of abusing men.

 

Thanks

 

 

We hear many times of these deranged parents killing the kids, because they can't keep hold of the mother  (It usually is the man that does it).

When my daughter was a teen, she had an obsessive boyfriend, who was controlling just like this husband.  He threatened to kill her, her family and the dog when she broke up with him.  For months afterward, he would have friends call her, and neighbors that he knew, to spy on her.  The only way she could get away from him was to go into the Army, and after she got out (many years ago), she lived on the east coast (we are on the west coast).  He was still trying to contact her.

Years later, he came to my husband's place of business, and asked for forgiveness.  He had married someone else, and said he realized what a jerk he was, and asked for our forgiveness.  He invited us to his home, about 8 miles from where we live/lived, to see his wife, and two daughters, and that he really had moved on.

Then we kept getting emails from him, telling us that we were like the ideal parents to him, and he wanted to stay in our lives.  It has been a year now, since his last contact, and he has finally given up on us.

That was our only experience with an obsessive person, but it wasn't a pleasant one. 

I hope Jennifer and the kids will be kept safe.