Topic : 08/21 Anatomy of Abuse

What I am reading is, that in essence you agree that the kids are priority number one, and that was my point.  I didn't mean for the mother to lose her children, just for her to be told that she, in fact, is also in violation and needs to do her share.  One of the purposes of the restraining order is for the parents to no longer be able to victimize their kids by making them witness the abuse.  I have been in that situation and I know the scenario from my own experience, but when I was in the abusive marriage, I was unable to understand the magnitude of the impact it had on the children.  I was told that if I allow the abuser back it could mean that I lose my children. That was the wake-up call I needed to comply. 

I would imagine the kids know about the restraining order,  and what is it teaching them, when parents blatantly disregard the order. 

I have great empathy for the mom and her situation, but understanding that she might not be able or willing to do the right thing for the kids. 

I would like to see the mom find her self-worth so she will be able to live in peace and not put herself or the children into the path of an abusive person.  I pray for the entire family to get the help they need to have a safe haven for the kids and parents to come home to.

This situation of yours calls for help.

You've got to get some help in sorting thru whats going on, you are being abused in many ways just from your couple of posts here.

Sexual abuse is a violation of you.

If you don't understand the danger he is about to put you in.

All the more reason for you to reach out and get help.

I've offered several resources and I do sincerely hope that you will use them to get yourself some guidance and help.

Your husband is NOT looking out for your best interest.   Nor your children's, or your family as a whole.

Why are you allowing him to abuse and exploit you with pictures, and posting them on line.

START TAKING CONTROL OVER YOUR SITUATION AND MOST OF ALL OVER YOUR OWN BODY .

None of this is a game, that he's up to !!!!    Not a game, he is abusing you BIG TIME.

I'll see you on the abuse message board if you want additional resources or help.   This message board here will die down after a while and no one will be posting here.

Your husband is also telling alot of lies that abusers tell their women.

Sounds like your minimizing the situation and justifying in your mind some of what you want to believe is going on.

You might not like questions from people, but unless they ask them of you.....YOU will not get the impact of the abuse that you are experiencing.

He is emotionally abusing you also.....verbal........sexual abuse, and its about to get worse. 

What comes next ?

Don't underestimate YOUR ABUSER, AND WHY HE WANTS YOU TO DO PERVERTED THINGS, THERE IS A CLEAR LINE OF ABUSE, SEX AND VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN. 

Don't underestimate your abuser's sexual wants and perversions, you are not clearly seeing what he will do down the road.

Obviously you believe him, so that says to me that he's already abused you enough, emotionally and verbally that you've been groomed, programmed, and brainwashed into going along to get along.......that all needs to be undone.

Seek the resources that are there in your community.

Seek out resources on SEXUAL, EMOTIONAL, AND VERBAL ABUSE.

Seek out people who can give you a check and balance system to help undo some of his brainwashing.

oh, he is hitting you already, in more ways than you realize, not with his hands, body or feet, but he's HITTING YOU BIG TIME.

I am concerned for your safety and you should be too.

HOW IS IT THAT HE IS ABLE TO PRESSURE YOU INTO DOING THESE THINGS ANYWAY ?

Ignoring you is also a form of abuse.

Are you manipulated in that way ?

Take care of YOURSELF AND THOSE CHILDREN.

I'll see you on the ABUSE MESSAGE BOARD.

Weekends are usually quiet over there but some one will post to you, sooner or later.   

Call your local Domestic Abuse hot line and discuss this stuff.

You need to hear someone "outside his world."      The world he's dragging you into.

He's got you doubting your own feelings and thoughts.

This is abuse all the way around.

Moderator .....

Could you please lift this post of mine here on this board and carry it over to the ABUSE MESSAGE BOARD.

I don't know how to do it with these boards.

Please and Thank You!