Quote From: stormyfunDr. Phil,
Today's show finally made me sign up to have my say.
Why in the world would women marry men like these?
The 1st couple had a good chance of working out their mirror problem by buying a makeup mirror with lights around it. A great place for her to do her makeup.
The 2nd couple's problem - Dr. Phil, You did not even hit on the problem. You seemed to agree with him that she was right.
She is the wage earner. Attempting to bring more money into the home. He is the homemaker. He wants her to help out in the house! Is he Kidding!!! She is already wage earner and doing everything outside, repairs and yard work etc. And now he wants her to help in the house too. And to his expectations, not hers. If you don't like the way others do the job, do it yourself. If he wants to be a clean freak, let him. Doesn't mean that she is suppose to be one. It's not her nature. She is more than busy with her head of the house role and everything else she does - because he can't or just doesn't want to. I think he just doesn't want to. And still he complains.
There is no reason he could not put away her clothes. I have always put my husband's clothes away when I was not working and sometimes when I do. Makes sense to me - finish the job. For heaven sakes, he is a very spoiled person. You seem to agree more with him than her. She was the one with the problem - not him. He has life very good.
I am a female in my 50's. I have been 17 years married - 2 sons, 5 years single, married 19 years. I have been lucky enough to be a homemaker. And I have been the head of the house and the homemaker for 5 years. Homemaking is alot of work. Going out to work is a lot harder. And very stressful bringing in the money needed to run the house.
And this guy complains she is not doing enough??!! He doesn't even help her in the yard. I have always done that. Very unhappy that she is not the clean freak he is!! Grow up and starting helping her!!
Marriage is suppose to be a partnership. This guy is not pulling his share of the load.
I am married to a man that is a very clean nick. In my opinion I am more down the center of the road. We agree to be different. He didn't marry me to be a clean nick. I have to say he tried to change me and I couldn't change and I tried. Upset my whole day.
I sure there is tons more I want to share. Best to stop here.
Stormy
Actually, I know German, and he works, outside of the home, he brings home a paycheck.
I think if he takes the time to sort the clothes, wash the clothes, and fold the clothes, the least she could do is put them away. If German were a female friend, who worked outside of the home, drove the kids to all their activites, cooked and cleaned,did all these things for her spouse and family, and after 4 days of having to look at the clothes, I would understand if my female friend got frustrated. I'd let her know that throwing the clothes into the yard was a bit dramatic...but I would still empathize. Even if my hypothetical female friend didn't work outside of the home, I still wouldn't call her spoiled for wanting a little help. No one enters a marriage expecting to be a maid, female OR male.
German is a good guy. A really good guy. His wife knew what his personality was like when she married him. If she's not happy with how the workflow is...address THAT. Work on THAT. I think it sucks that when a guy finally STEPS up and cooks and cleans and runs the kids here and there AND STILL WORKS he's considered "Girly"...
And what is that supposed to mean anyway?
I rather like being a girl.
Marie
(Original Air Date: 05/18/07) Many women dream of finding the perfect man -- one who's attractive, romantic, intelligent and even in touch with his feminine side. But what happens when he spends more time at the mirror than you do and pampers himself with manicures, facials and even carries a purse? Abbie says her husband, A.J., is high maintenance and takes forever getting ready in the bathroom because he’s tweezing, waxing, moisturizing and putting on makeup! A.J. is a self-proclaimed metrosexual and admits to giving his wife unwanted beauty tips. Abbie says A.J.'s flamboyant behavior takes a toll on their marriage. She wants him to act more manly, but is she sabotaging his manhood? And, Joleen says her husband, German, prefers to do the cooking and cleaning, but leaves all the man's work for her. She says she's forced to clean gutters, chop wood and make hauls to the dump! German says he does all the housework, and it drives him crazy when his wife unwinds with a beer instead of helping him with the chores. Joleen's father and brother say she used to be the princess of the family, but now German wears the tiara! Can this couple find a middle ground? Share your thoughts here.
