Topic : Coping with Stress

You must have alot of anxiety to go along with that stress. kNow that somethings you cant change. and think right now of what blessings you have in your life.If you can do that. That has nothing to do with money or giving presents.  

Change what you can. ANd try doing it one step at a time. I think of a bible scripture that says Dont be anxious about anyting but keep on praying and it will be given to you. So pray for specific things that are troubling you or that you need. God will answer your prayers. Its not always the way that we want him to but he does. And like the bible says. He cares for you. Just like a father will give to his son if he keeps asking. God will do that same thing.If you keep asking he will hear your outcrys of pain and sorrow and needs. Hope that was helpful for you...  

Blaze  

I feel totaly stressed out.  I've been off work for 2weeks do to an illness that will be with the rest of my life.  I was suppose to be making alot of over time for Christmas, but instead we are trying to live on next to nothing.  I haven't even started to Christmas shop.  I really am not looking forward to the Holidays and everything that comes with it. I lost my mother this your  and now this.  i have to do something soon I have to daughters that are depnding on me.  Any suggestions? 

  

I lived years and years with stress - I don't remember never having it.  Then 2 years ago at the local Dr. Phil's WLC support group meeting, I met women who didn't live in a stress filled life style like me.  I realized after listening to them that something was totally wrong with me.    

  

I turned to Self Matters and read the entire book in 3 months.  Then I committed to adapting the techniques into my life by focusing on a goal that I've wanted to do for 40 years -- learn to sew.  I figure that I had written so many tapes that it would help me to practice what Dr. Phil wrote.  It wasn't easy cause LIFE always kept popping up.  However, I allowed myself to just focus.   

  

The focusing is the hardest part of getting out of a stressed filled life.  I kept having all the other things in my life WANTING TO BE WORKED ON!!  however, I put them aside.  You see, I realized that if I hadn't done them by now, then what was the rush now.   Cause if I didn't focus and just work on the SEWING, I was going to be in the same place as I was a year ago, a week ago.  I was just going around and around a circle. 

  

Sewing was an easy target cause I could actually figure out what I need to learn and what I did know.  Not like when I began to deal with handling the life events and people in my life. 

  

I went from a reactive life style (24/7 stress filled life style) to one of peace and calm.  Life still happens to me and always will. It's okay though, I'm learning to make decisions and acting on them (I've become proactive).  It took me 2 years to get to this place and I still have a lot of work to do yet.  

  

However, the best news is I've never known this peace or this calm in my life.  I know I can deal with everything and anything that pops up in my life.  If I don't have the proper tools or I make a mistake or two; that it's okay - I just pick myself up and make it a goal to learn to do better. 

  

I know it seems overwhelming; however, once you reached this place, you know that the hard part is over with.  I'm not a victim anymore.  I won't go back to being HER any more.  And the best thing!! 

  

My family and friends fought to keep me where I was (sabotage was hell!)  and yet, they are all in my life.  In fact, more family members are in my life now than ever before and because I have the tools to deal with them, I don't fix them anymore.  They are who they are and that's okay.   

Hello, 

  

Bless your heart.  I can see that you are doing your best to make life for your 2 boys and yourself.  I can only imagine how hard it is for you.  Just taking care of 2 kids is so difficult by itself.  And having to worry about financial things is unbearable.  I really hope that Dr. Phil and his Team will respond to your story and hopefully soon.  I reported your message to the staff, and I pray that it'll help.  For now keep on being strong and remember that there is always light at the end of the tunnel and all this struggle will be a thing of the pass.  I always keep in mind my favorite quote "Life always happens for a reason".  When I was a kid I always wonder why my mom goes through so much hardship.  She has always been a giving, loving, faithful person.   Now I can see that all that hardship made her a stronger woman she can ever be.  She is doing well now.  And like yourself all she wanted is home for all of us.  She got it, but she can tell you that it was very hard, long road she travelled, literally .  I will pray for you.... 

thank you again for your support

hello everyone not sure what to say just can't hardly bare with life right now very very stressed and not getting any better i am a single mother of two one 12yr old girl and one 14 yr old boy i don't have much family support hardly any actually the father is completely out of the picture now and for a very bad reason he is a sick in a bad way man he did something very bad to my daughter and it hasn't been easy for me to deal with i'm trying to be strong for her but it's hard also now my son has no father.  also i am very lonley and can't find a man that is any good then on top of it all i just quit my job my job required me to work out side but i have already went through the womanly change and i can't handle the cold weather and i tried to get them to let me have an inside job but they would not so after my feet froze and my hands were so cold they hurt i left i know that was stupid but i just couldn't tak e it and yes i dress for the cold but it don't help i shiver for about 2hrs after i get off work i just want to know how to cope better i find myself getting mad and yelling over everything i try not to but i don't have any control

Your story is like so many... I don't say that to minimize but to let you know that you have people in the world who could understand you.  Why I do not have the same issues you have I do experience the huge stress that medical and emotional trouble can cause.  The best encurragement I can give is what I am doing for myself.  I got real with the Lord, I started to face my fear instead of avoiding they and started on medication therapy.  But one of the best things I did was being to find a true support group of people who were experiencing they things I am.  I really encurrage you to explore those ideas... and good luck to you. 

Stacy in Indiana 

In your community there should be several services that can help you provide a Christmas for your children.  Good places to start are the CASA program, Red Cross and Salvation Army.  You can also call any organization that deals with youth... even your local juvenile probation office and they could give you more ideas about what your community can proved.  Best of luck to you....

your welcome.......I know its easier to say those things then to live them Believe me i have lived some real stressful things in my life. And its been the bible and prayer that helped. Along with helping myself. Hang in there.... And know others care......

Thank you so much it really is nice to know there are people out there that even just take the time to listen and say everything will be ok. At least I realize now that putting my son in a special needs home was the right thing for me to do for his sake and mine and even though I have gone back to school for a career in the medical field, there is still alot of issues that need dealing with that i need help to over come. The Biggest thing I fear right now is us losing our apartment. We live in government housing and because my fiance moving in with me to help me out  they raised my rent so now we find ourselfs struggling again. With no way out. it wont belong now before his raise but soon we will be making to much money to live in the apartment we are in. I cant see paying 527.00 month for a 2 bedroom apartment when we can pay 500. for a house. Im only starting  my 3rd qaurtter in school and have a long way to go before i can get a decent paying job.  It also doesnt help I have a stack of hospital bills from when the government took away my medicaid. My fiance is going to try and get me on his insurance. Just seems like more things piling against me. But I know somewhere is a light  at the end of the tunnel. Thanks to some of Dr.Phils shows they have helped me in alot of ways. I watch him every day religiously