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Created on : Thursday, July 07, 2005, 08:52:50 am
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Is stress ruining your life? Have you discovered great coping strategies or ways to reduce the anxiety of living? Don't be stressed, kick off your shoes and talk with others!

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June 3, 2007, 12:11 pm CDT

Takotsubo???

Quote From: momof31970

Hi all. I am new to these message boards but have experienced something rather interesting these past two weeks. Just wanted to see if anyone else had heard of this or knew of anyone experiencing this. 

I am a 35yr old mom of 3kids, with no family history of heart disease, cholesterol, high blood pressure... you name it we don't have it. A picture of health. Exercise reguraly and eat well. But March 31, I experienced a heart attack called a takotsubo cardiomyapathy...otherwise a "stress induced Heart Attack".  Not much research done on it except that it is mainly in postmenopausal women, ages from 60-80...to say this the least I don't fit in this category. It is just kinda weird, I do have some stresses in my life, but I am seeking help in those areas. Just curious to see what people thought. 

Thanks 

Just was diagnosed with this condition. I had not even heard of it and I am a heart nurse. I like yourself had no previous history of heart disease. All my arteries were clear as a bell.I am a mother of 2. I am only the second such patient that my heart doctor has treated with this condition in the past year. Ironically that patient had recently gone through a major house fire resulting in a total loss as I recently did. Did you experience anything of this nature prior to your diagnosis?

 
June 6, 2007, 2:37 pm CDT

What makes you happy?

Have you learned any happiness tricks from Dr Phil that you apply to your life to improve your days? I would love to hear about your favorite ones: happinessdrphil@yahoo.com

Thank you!
 
June 13, 2007, 5:44 am CDT

Hatred

  Is it okay to have feelings of hatred towards any child even if they did not do anything?  I understand that people will not like everyone, but we all have to get along especially if they will see each other (same sports team).  The child is a good boy, at least I think so, but an adult I know wishes he would just go away.  Her child and the other boy initially had a falling out and her son complained to her, and the mother basically flew off the handle.  I don't care what the initial problem was, which it was nothing, but  I explained all children have misunderstandings between themselves, then they'll say they hate each other, and then the next thing you know, they're friends again.  Well, the mother stated that she did not want her son to even talk to the other boy.  She just kept saying that she hates the boy.  I asked her what caused her to feel this way; the boy has done nothing to her.  She doesn't have to like the boy (9), for the kids get along.  I can not understand it at all.  I've told her to let it go.  I stated that as long as the boy doesn't do drugs, cause problems, and does well in school, that there should be nothing to worry about.  We've had this conversation now for approximately four days.  I am seriously worried about her. She has turned her anger towards me saying that I can not be her friend if I don't understand her feelings.  She is right, I don't understand.  Advice?  I'm worried. 

 
June 15, 2007, 6:45 pm CDT

Stop it .... i think!

Quote From: sunnydai

 Is it wrong for me to not want to sacrifice anymore?  When there is a problem, or whatever, I am the first to sacrifice, ALWAYS!  I always have done this....since I was a little girl.

 Perfect example:  I grew up very poor.  For birthdays and holidays I would get money from family and friends instead of gifts.  I saved that money.  Never spent a dime.  Then, on my eighth birthday, my family came across some even harder times.  We needed a new car so Mom could go to work for us.  Every penny she brought into the home went right back out, plus some.  Needless to say, Mom didn't have a dime to spare for a car.  I sacrificed my money to help my family.  I gave that money to Mom.  After she was done crying, she went and got us a new car with all the money I had never spent.  There are many other things I put myself in the way to take the blow for the sake of my family and never complained.

This brings me to where I am today....at the point of having to sacrifice, yet again.  We are having some problems again that require more sacrifice.  I have always been the one to take on the burdens to save the others.  This time around I am tired and weak.  I'm not strong enough.  I'm at my breaking point.  If I have to sacrifice one more thing, I'm gone....over the edge.  It's not going to be pretty when it happens. 

Is it so wrong for me to put my foot down and say, "NO, I CAN'T DO THIS....I WON'T DO THIS"?  Or am I just being selfish, childish?  Should I just give in and say, "OKAY.  GO AHEAD.  I'LL TAKE CARE OF IT", and suck it up?  Or, should I let someone else take care of this problem?  If anyone out there is reading this.....HELP ME!!!!  PLEASE!!!!  I'm drowning here.
Honestly, i do not know.I am drowning like you.I am 45 and i had a bad childhood,drinking parents and they were rich,rich for drinking i mean.But at school,children laugh about my clothing,there was no money for that.At the age off 15-16,my mother left me to live in Paradise Tenerife for many years,later on she asked my brother to live there too and me but i was still in highschool or college for my licence as a nurse.There i met my husband, a wonderful good husband(25 years i know him and 21 years married).So started working earlier then him because he had to do 1 year military-service.A year like hell but anyway,1 month later we married,i was so happy but i was never accepted by his parents because i was bad for him for not coming from a good home(drinking).Even Seven years later,even after the birth of my 2 children, they still told him:"Come back home to us with the children, she is no good, and i was sitting next to them while saying that,imagine that!" 17 years from the 25 they  tried to get him back and brainwash him.One Christmasevening, i had no intention to go to the party but for my husband,after long discussions,i went with him.That evening was the last time i went. They hurted my youngest son,then 6 years old so much by refusing him some food that he addors*.THAT WAS ONE DROP IN THE BUCKET TOO <<<< So;ething is zrong zith ;y PC sorry i
 
June 17, 2007, 8:17 pm CDT

It is worrisome

Quote From: sschultze

  Is it okay to have feelings of hatred towards any child even if they did not do anything?  I understand that people will not like everyone, but we all have to get along especially if they will see each other (same sports team).  The child is a good boy, at least I think so, but an adult I know wishes he would just go away.  Her child and the other boy initially had a falling out and her son complained to her, and the mother basically flew off the handle.  I don't care what the initial problem was, which it was nothing, but  I explained all children have misunderstandings between themselves, then they'll say they hate each other, and then the next thing you know, they're friends again.  Well, the mother stated that she did not want her son to even talk to the other boy.  She just kept saying that she hates the boy.  I asked her what caused her to feel this way; the boy has done nothing to her.  She doesn't have to like the boy (9), for the kids get along.  I can not understand it at all.  I've told her to let it go.  I stated that as long as the boy doesn't do drugs, cause problems, and does well in school, that there should be nothing to worry about.  We've had this conversation now for approximately four days.  I am seriously worried about her. She has turned her anger towards me saying that I can not be her friend if I don't understand her feelings.  She is right, I don't understand.  Advice?  I'm worried. 

Good Lord, just tell her you are trying to understand her feelings but they don't seem to be very easy to piece together.  I don't get it either?  Try changing the subject with her.  See if maybe "out of sight, out of mind" may help this obviously unhealthy behavior to dissipate.

 
June 17, 2007, 8:31 pm CDT

First off congrats

Quote From: simonecornelia

Honestly, i do not know.I am drowning like you.I am 45 and i had a bad childhood,drinking parents and they were rich,rich for drinking i mean.But at school,children laugh about my clothing,there was no money for that.At the age off 15-16,my mother left me to live in Paradise Tenerife for many years,later on she asked my brother to live there too and me but i was still in highschool or college for my licence as a nurse.There i met my husband, a wonderful good husband(25 years i know him and 21 years married).So started working earlier then him because he had to do 1 year military-service.A year like hell but anyway,1 month later we married,i was so happy but i was never accepted by his parents because i was bad for him for not coming from a good home(drinking).Even Seven years later,even after the birth of my 2 children, they still told him:"Come back home to us with the children, she is no good, and i was sitting next to them while saying that,imagine that!" 17 years from the 25 they  tried to get him back and brainwash him.One Christmasevening, i had no intention to go to the party but for my husband,after long discussions,i went with him.That evening was the last time i went. They hurted my youngest son,then 6 years old so much by refusing him some food that he addors*.THAT WAS ONE DROP IN THE BUCKET TOO <<<< So;ething is zrong zith ;y PC sorry i
you literally rose above your raisin'.  Good for you.  You in-laws are soooo wrong to behave like they do.  Have you seen a therapist for someone to help with the issues of growing up with alcoholic parents?  On the outside everything feels fine but you are drowning on the inside.  That's not good.  The mom is the most important person in the house.  When she hurts the family hurts.  I guarantee that little hidden problems from your childhood make up part of the reason that you are drowning.  Do it for you and your family.
 
June 20, 2007, 8:02 pm CDT

Hi all, this is my first participation in this board

Hi all, I just found this board and I'm so embarrassed because it's my first time telling others how stressed I am. I'll be 27 next month, and through all my live so far I'm just a student: 4 year to have the BA and 5 years to get the MA, next year will be hopefully the last year.

 

I'm so stressed it messed up my whole life, psyche, Health, and social life. It is so bad that my family caught me mouthing my inner thoughts in anger and frustrating as if I'm talking to myself. And since I'm the youngest, the single, and the only one who is not working, you can easily see that nobody take my stress seriously.

 

I'm so sick of studying and spending the whole day on the chair in front of desk, books, and lap top. I feel that I let my family in charge of my future, and now I look back and realize, it is not worth it!

 

Getting these words off my chest is painful yet somehow relaxing. I want to thank Dr. Phil and every body for creating this board.

 

Mona

 

 

 

 

 
June 21, 2007, 8:01 am CDT

Alcoholic parents......

Quote From: sunshine80

you literally rose above your raisin'.  Good for you.  You in-laws are soooo wrong to behave like they do.  Have you seen a therapist for someone to help with the issues of growing up with alcoholic parents?  On the outside everything feels fine but you are drowning on the inside.  That's not good.  The mom is the most important person in the house.  When she hurts the family hurts.  I guarantee that little hidden problems from your childhood make up part of the reason that you are drowning.  Do it for you and your family.
Yes, i have been in therapy for that and abuse. I am done and over that a long time ago. But now i am not drowning from that. I f you look on the board messages (Living with chronicle pain), you will find me there more.But last time my PC refused to type more,because i wanted to answer your question "Can i say NO to asked help from others".Sorry, my English writing.I have (had) the same problem.When somebody asks for help, i can not say no but then they go too far.My home becomes their home.They come and go when it pleases them,eat my food, get their soft-drinks,beer or wine by themselves out of my refrigeratire* like it is the normal way of doing.It has been 2 months i have my labtop and they come and use it like it is from them. And i was (is) sick of it!!!!!!! So, now we solved the problem this way: 1. We all have our GSM now and mine is the head-phone,the matriarch-phone, so everybody must phone me now to ask when yhey MAY come and WHY. 2. If i am going to bed, they have to go,no more staying over on the coach,eating in the morning,take their shower and leave the rest for me.3. No more getting their soft-drinks or whatever themselfs and staying out of my kooler. 4. If they do not respect the new rules....OUT,friend or no friend!!!! Because these are NO friends at all, they want to pass their time and it don't cost them anything,no drinks,no heating,no light,no food. Since we have been doing that, i am winning over 300 dollar a month. And another thing is, i am very sick for the moment, flare-ups from my auto-imunediseases and guess what....nobody comes to clean my house or doing my laundry.....So yes, you can say and must say NO if you have to without feeling guilty.Now, i am depressed of having the pains but i will survive. But i do understand that some people here are feeling so down,they could leave this world, but please DO NOT! I have a sentence i always keep repeating to myself and it is : I HAVE SURVIVED YESTERDAY, SO I WILL TODAY BECAUSE THE SUN IS COMING UP TOO TOMORROW, IF I LIKE IT OR NOT. It was a sentence from an old man, he told me that when i was abouth 20 years old, i am 45 now.I still live because of him and those wise words.Sincerely,simonecornelia PS Keep in mind,dear friends,everything passes, and then you will look back and say, i have been through harder times than this.Love you all
 
June 21, 2007, 2:16 pm CDT

Coping with Stress

I have been an epileptic since I was a Toddler.  Since then, I have had been suggested to get a full lobotomy when I was 18.  "NOT"!

 

I had a right occipital lobectomy in 1989. I was 28 yrs old. That helped for 1 1/2 yrs. Then my seizures started back up.  I had received a vagal nerve stimulator just 5 yrs ago. I received my first seizure response dog in 2004.

 

I went to see a "Specialist" about a new drug study. While getting tested for approval, I was told my seizures were non epileptic type seizures. And then in one full breath said" You do not have epileptic type seizures, never had, never will & don't even consider it!"

 

This dr. told me I use my SZ dogas a crutch and i should return him to the school! "NOT"

 

He then told my neurolgist to start taking me off my meds. That was in June of 2005.  In Dec of that year, I had a 3 - 4 hour true epileptic seizure.  My wife, Millie, was told I probably won't make it through the night.  They, The ER physicans were able to stop them by either placing me on a ventilator 3x's or placing me in a coma, 3x's too.

 

Both Millie and myself are very confused about all this.  My Sz resp. dog, does detect the pseudo types.  But knows something is wrong.

 

Our hole life was turned upside by this one dr.  My whole left side of my body is affected more and more after every event.  Alot of damage to my left side is done.  Phys Therapy and occupational does help for that time. but results get set back after every seizure occurance.

 

My neurolgist placed me back on my AED's. But the damage is already done. And I could not find one single attorney to take my case. because it's seizure oriented and not a slam dunk win.

 

Millie & I need some assistance with answers and support.

 

Thank you for listening.

 

I had tried searching for an attorney but was turned away everytime. My 2 yr. time frame expired the beginning of June. We will continue on.

 
June 21, 2007, 2:19 pm CDT

Pseudo Seizures ( Non Epileptic)

I have been an epileptic since I was a Toddler.  Since then, I have had been suggested to get a full lobotomy when I was 18.  "NOT"!

 

I had a right occipital lobectomy in 1989. I was 28 yrs old. That helped for 1 1/2 yrs. Then my seizures started back up.  I had received a vagal nerve stimulator just 5 yrs ago. I received my first seizure response dog in 2004.

 

I went to see a "Specialist" about a new drug study. While getting tested for approval, I was told my seizures were non epileptic type seizures. And then in one full breath said" You do not have epileptic type seizures, never had, never will & don't even consider it!"

 

This dr. told me I use my SZ dogas a crutch and i should return him to the school! "NOT"

 

He then told my neurolgist to start taking me off my meds. That was in June of 2005.  In Dec of that year, I had a 3 - 4 hour true epileptic seizure.  My wife, Millie, was told I probably won't make it through the night.  They, The ER physicans were able to stop them by either placing me on a ventilator 3x's or placing me in a coma, 3x's too.

 

Both Millie and myself are very confused about all this.  My Sz resp. dog, does detect the pseudo types.  But knows something is wrong.

 

Our hole life was turned upside by this one dr.  My whole left side of my body is affected more and more after every event.  Alot of damage to my left side is done.  Phys Therapy and occupational does help for that time. but results get set back after every seizure occurance.

 

My neurolgist placed me back on my AED's. But the damage is already done. And I could not find one single attorney to take my case. because it's seizure oriented and not a slam dunk win.

 

Millie & I need some assistance with answers and support.

 

Thank you for listening.

 

I had tried searching for an attorney but have been turned away by all. My 2 yr. time frme is now expired.

 

Anyone intersted in helping us cope and or understand, email:

rangers_rainbow@msn.com

 

 

 
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