Topic : Coping with Stress

I am in high school. It is my last year when school starts. I get very stressed out easily in school because some of the teachers it seems like they give 20,000 things to do a day in 1 class and we have 4 classes a day 1 hour and 30 minutes long for 9 weeks. Well yeah but in that 1 hour and half that most of the time your teacher talks and then you don't get time to ask the teacher questions so then when you don't get how to do the assignment it stresses me out. When I bring homework home I don't like to cause I don't know if I will be able to figure out how to do it and I might get stressed out so it stinks. I get stressed out easily. I have talked to my dean bout this and he told me to not let it get to me but it does. Anyway hopefully I won't be as stressed out this year!!! Well if anyone has ideas please let me know!!!

First, I want to start out by saying that when it comes to self-esteem I know precisely how you feel.  I too have low self-esteem and it's been a good majority of my life I"ve felt this way but I hit an all time low when I did tip the scales at over 200 pounds.  This in no way defines who someone is on the inside and people around you (home or work) shouldn't be making fun of  you.  Ask for your husbands support and possibly ask him to exercise with you.  It sounds like the trainer blew you off.  I find that insulting and you should talk to the manager there about this behaviour, but I'm glad you are still going.  Keep it up.  You will feel better for it and in time the exercise will begin to show.  Don't let anyone get you down.

 

As for your co-worker, again her and the old co-worker's insults were childish and unwarranted.  I personally would talk to her but that's just me.  If you are too shy or too hurt or ashamed to do so, why not try a different approach.  Start a conversation with her (you did say you work closely together) and mention you started up a membership at a gym.  Ask if she'd like to work out with you and that a buddy system exercising is one of the most powerful ways to keep someone going and that you'd appreciate her support as a valued co-worker.  Maybe then she'll know that you already realize you need to lose weight, is in the process of losing the weight and be more supportive rather than put you down.  And this will also keep your working relationship with her from getting to the point you two cannot work with eachother.

 

To your daydreams of your husbands snuggling, if your self-esteem, etc. is preventing you from doing so, then maybe some sort of counselling would benefit.  At least this way you can get to the bottom of why you feel the way you do.  Ask your husband to come with you on occasion so he can also gain some insight into the person he loves and is married to.

 

I do wish you luck in all you do.  And I just want to say that I'm proud of you and your willingness to go to the gym despite your self-esteem.  You are one of the reasons why the rest of us with low self-esteem keeps trying, because we see others doing so also. 

I work with a 26-year-old man who has autism.  However, his father enables him all the time and is negative about everything! 

 

Every solution I have gets shot down and he keeps saying that his son won't live past forty.  He knows that his son gets violent if he doesn't get the long ride that he wants and asks me to do it.  "I'll pay you for the gas."

 

I always refuse because I used to put over a thousand miles a week doing this job.  I now do less than three hundred.  I am now on my THIRD car in eight years.

 

HE JUST DOESN'T GET IT-DOESN'T CARE.

 

His son doesn't act as dysfunctional when he's not around.  It's when he's there that he mutilates himself, cries and the like.

 

Worse yet, the idiot is against stem cell research because he values the unborn more than his son, who would benefit from it.

 

WHA???

 I too have the exact same problem but worse i just had another baby and im consisting worrying and much more, i am going to try myself getting to the gym even the 2 free weeks at Club that they have going. I found the more i stayed home the more my shoulders hurt and stomnach and much more, you have many people whom can relate, put your faith in God as i am doing otherwise i think i would go bananas myself!

Hello everyone!

 

Well I am a 24 yr old mother of a son who is developmentally delayed, not enough money in our (my husband & I) pockets, and just out and out stress. I had quit work when my son was born to be  a stay at home mother but now that we've moved, I need my job back!!! Well I've went and applied with the same company so maybe I'll get it! Well now with my son being developmentally delayed that has just added more stress to our lives...I just don't know how to handle this. Any tips? I know we can make it, I just have to have faith but before we make it, I think we're both gonna stress out way too bad!!!

Thanks for any and all help.

MLG

Ok...so I have been having some very anxious feelings about a ton of stuff.  So here goes.  I dislike my job.  Everything about it is negative.  The music...the other employees...the entire atmosphere.  It is a bowling alley....that should be fun...but the GM decided to make a butt load of changes without inquiring any info on the way that it affects people that work for her.  I have had thoughts that include a flame thrower...but that probably isn't the good way to handle things...no. 

So then there is the constant of my step kids.  I love them...but there is some animosity...I don't know if it is me or them...all of the time.  My youngest is a depressed 10 year old who is way (in my eyes) overweight.  Their mom is overweight and depressed as well...so this doesn't help out the situation.  So "Mary" comes to see us whenever it is convenient and she won't talk to us about what she needs or wants or anything...she just sits there.  Blah....yep that is our Mary.  I have tried to talk to her.  Her dad has tried to talk to her...everything was going good until the wedding in June.  So that is having a negative effect on her...but my husband and I have been together for 3 years now...I am confused...Then there is the older one..."Susie".  She is going off to college and I am very proud of her...but her and her dad used to be very close.  My husband had a terrible relationship with his ex-wife and they turned to each other.  They were the best of friends...then here I come...We, my husband and I, are the best of friends now and she resents that...but now I feel like she is trying to cut us apart...She tries to keep some hidden life with her dad only.  She doesn't talk to me at all...And then I get very anxious about it.  I know i shouldn't....but I do worry that My husband will have that need to have her as a weird partner...nothing bad...but I am loving being his best friend...and I have jealous, anxious issues every time i hear her name...oh I know that this should not be like this and I know a lot of it comes from me...What should I do...This stuff affect everything...I really think that maybe I am just a jealous person...how do I over come that?  What can I do to get rid of my anxiety?  I am shaking now writing about it...and it really sucks.  I want to let all of this stuff go...I feel like screaming all of the time.  Any suggestions?

Thanks...Leah 

You said you just moved...was that to a different city..state...are you near family?  I know that when I moved away from everything I knew it was very stressful...but try to find some people near you that are positive and may have similar challenges they face...It might be the way to help.  Good luck in all that you do try and remember...you know you can make it...so make it.  Relax a little and let things run.  If you know that you are going to get really stressed and your husband is to then talk about it and don't let it get the two of you down...

Hope you have a great day...

Leah

Hi,

 

I am writing today to find out if any one has gone off thier blood pressure meds and started using natrual remedies?

 

I have been on Bp meds for about a year and a half.  Even with meds my bp is still high. or what the dr consider high. I have a host of other problems that I am working on.  Such as:  Hormone problems, which have brought on, weight problems, cholesteral problems.  I have found out through doing a ton of research that my hormone imbalance has basically caused all of this.  I went to a doctor that deals in hormone problems to get some help.  The last time I had a regular doctor visit.  My docotr was so intent on having me get a colonoscopy ( over 50) that she missed everyone of my other symptoms and would not discuss my hormone problems, because her focus was the colon thing.  Not long after that I needed to get my medical reports for some health insurance I was signing up for and the report was just horrible.  In short what it said, was that I am Fat, lazy and stupid and don't do anything to take care of myself.   Now, I went to the pharmacy the other day to refill my meds and I was told that they had expired.  I was supposed to have meds for a year and it has only been 6 months.  I am so upset with my regular doctor that I can't bring myself to go back and let her have another shot at telling me I am fat, lazy and stupid.  In my research I have found several things I can do to lower my bp naturally.  I have been working on my weight very dilagently, changed my diet ( I have given up....pop, coffee, potatoes, bread etc.)I am handling my stress better and I want to get my bp and cholesteral down and not be on meds any more.  I am so tired of feelling like a failure, because everytime I go to a doctor, there is a million things wrong.  It has been a very long time, since I walked out of a doctors office with a clean bill of health.  I just hate all of this.  I feel it's time to take care of me, to do the things I feel are right.  If any one has tried something like this or has taken a more natural approach, I would love to hear your stories.  Any advice would be appreciated.  If anyone is inclined to be judgemental, please just pass this one by.

NORMA

I'll admit that being a high school student isn't what it was.

The baby boomers have freaked out and have put too much responsibility on you because they wouldn't accept ANY responsibility.

One thing you might do is try to take as many elective classes as you can.  This is the time you should discover what your strengths are and what you really like to do.  The more elective courses you take in high school, the better idea you have of what you want to major in if you want to go to college-assuming college is for you, in the first place.  Remember that college isn't for everyone, so try not to stress out over that.

Two more things you might want to consider: study LESS and approach the test LIKE YOU JUST DON'T CARE!  You'll be amazed how high you'll end up scoring on the test when you approach the occassion with an apathetic attitude.  It works so well, you'll freak!

It did for me.