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December 30, 2006, 7:46 pm PST
Unecessary Stress
Quote From: ritehereThis may not make a lot of sense to you unless you watch Dr Phil, or have read any of his books. I think you are letting past events color your present and future. You seem to be seeing the world through defensive lenses, and are stuck with the idea that all of your happiness has to be paid for with some unhappiness or stress. Have you put your thoughts, and reactions to stressful situations to the truth test? For instance, why would enjoying time with your grandson be in any way related to being audited by the IRS? And what truth is there to the idea that any time spent in happiness with your grandson will lead to something bad like a phone call about an injury in the family? What you are doing with these thoughts is paving the way to ruining time with your grandson, or at worst, unconciously arranging for unpleasantness. You both would lose if this were to happen. Dr Phil's SELF MATTERS book is an excellent guide to help you get at the root of any faulty or flawed thinking patterns, and to help you free yourself from the destructive cycle they can create. Please consider picking up a copy and reading it, it can be a life saver. Good luck to you. I think I'm going to read this book as well. I'm very similar to the way she is...I'm CONSTANTLY worried that something bad will happen to ruin anything good that might happen to me. I've been this way since I was a kid, at least somewhat, but I think that it has been so WIRED into my brain, that even if the slightest thing goes wrong, I freak out. It's really bad...sometimes it's worse than others. I've gone to my doctor and tried about 3 different types of medicines. I just recently stopped taking them because at the beginning, they would have the placebo affect on me, and then they would eventually do no good, so I was wasting money. I can NOT figure out what it is, if there is even a name for what it is. I've thought it could be a form of OCD, depression, or anxiety. It depends on what it is that upsets me whether I get depressed about it or anxious. I have gotten to where I dread do anything fun because I'm always afraid something won't be "perfect" and it will be on my mind the whole time and "ruin" it for me. After something is "ruined" in that way, that is all that is on my mind for at least the majority of the next day, depending on how "bad" the situation was. My boyfriend and I know we will end up married one day, and even though we are not engaged yet, I sometimes dread my wedding day, just knowing that something will get messed up and it will ruin one of the most important days of my life. I can't think of a really good example...but tonight I was getting everyone to take pictures of me with my parents, me and my sisters, and me and my boyfriend...and I was almost anxious about doing it because I know that if one little thing is out of place, I will have to keep taking more pictures. I even just now saw that in all the ones with me and my sisters, I'm looking up more at the person taking the pictures and it's REALLY bothering me. I don't know!! ahh...it's really bad and interferes ALOT with my life. I should probably read his book...maybe that will help. I wish Dr. Phil would have private sessions with people, because I think he would be a great counselor, I would just never go on the show!!
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