Topic : Coping with Stress

Sunshine,

Thank you very much for your thoughts.  i hope that things start getting better. I know that this is really really taking a toll on Millie.  I do not know if Dr. Phil could help with the understanding of this "forgotten" and "lost" disorder.

I am more concerned for Millie's state of mind than my own.

Eric

rangers_rainbow@msn.com

Millie

gimpynan@msn.com

Everyone : Feel free to email either or both of us if you can shed any light on this topic.

I have a serious question. The other day disturbing news that my daughter (who has been with me primarily for 3 years, age 7 now and lived with me since a horrible seperation/divorce) would live temporary with her not so nice mental and emtional abusive father for the next few months. It's not premenant. Praise God! However, I'm 5 months pregnant and the night I found out I was a wreck. My heart was broken and I was under serious stress.  I had not slept in 2 days prior to the horrific news, not eaten. I tried to eat, I had an awful headache and took 2 tylenol. I threw everything in my stomach including some blood about 1/2 hour later. My husband called my OBGYN and he recommended Benadryl. My husband drove to the store and returned and I took 2 tablets I felt better then dizzy and dozed off. I expierenced the most horrible nightmare about 3am, jumped out of bed, ran to the bathroom as if I was looking for something and my husband said I was uncontrollable and talking fast and loud and I was hysterical and I felt like a zombie however I remember the dream very clearly. I layed back down on the bed fell back asleep and awoke like this again in a matter of an hour.

This nightmare was absoutley horrible. I have no history of mental illness. Could the medication triggered something that caused this horrific nightmare which seemed so real mixed with what I have expierenced from the abuse and anxiety of my ex-husband? I'm very concerned and will never take that medication again. Is it possible that what I expierenced mixed with the stress and anxiety I was already having caused this to happen?  Keep in mind I take no other medications. My body/chemistry is very sensitive to anything that I have taken in the past and I'm going to talk with someone about this.

I have been in a relationship for 1.5yrs with a man who was going through a terrible divorce.  We started out as friends on a online service and took our time and became intimit.  We have been together 6 days a wk for 1.5 yrs.  We have a vacation planned for 1 wk starting on the 7/25.  on 7/13, he broke things off.  Said he didn't love me the way I deserve to be loved.  I will in 50 in sept., he has brought me back to the church, i love everything about him and us and can not get a good answer that satisfies me.  He wants to be friends, only, says we can't go back to the way it was, but he misses me and will not come to the house in fear he would want to stay.  He shows up places I am at and acts like nothing has happened.  Then it throws me for another loop.  Recently been to md for help and meds thanks to a very good friend.  I don't know if I can do this anymore, I am trying so hard to hold onto things, but it is hard.

My father died 2 yrs ago and firmly believed that Dad sent him to me.  Definately a person that I would never have thought that I would be with.  He is a very intelligent man, masters, church going, family oriented and had been married for 16yrs, one day his x just told him she doesn't love him anymore.

He is doing now the same thing to me that she did to him....and I keep telling him that I am not her.  I know I have heard of rebounds, but we are or where like one person, in everyway, we are like one another, except for this.  I just don't understand and don't know how to proceed.  He wants to be friends, I can't do that right now, I am so much in love with him and we talked of such a wonderful future together.  This took me totally by surprize, friends, family, co-workers, just couldn't believe it............and don't..........everyone feels as if their is something else going on and just can not get answers.

Please someone help me, my heart is so broken..........like never before.  Should I try my hardest to be a friend and perhaps that would rekindle things..............am I hoping to much that would happen............do I just stop talking to him...........I see him in church, we sing in a choir together and we have lots of friends together............I don't want to lose it all......I am losing me

It is so critical to take care of our self when we have children or family members that are stressed.

Stress impacts every moment of our life in different ways. I think we can become to absorbed in someones else's emotion and need to separate. We still need to take that time for ourselves.

Tammy you reminded me when I went through a struggle with my son He is fantastic now and the time was difficult. I have never been so afraid or sad and I spent a few hours down at the beach just listening to the waves slap against the shore. I went for  a refreshing walk up and down to the beach for a week and in solitude I found better ways of communicating or handling things rather then being engulfed.

Lately a friend of mine burnt through a lot of stress and I found that I limited the visits and communication so that I would not be over involved just supportive. I felt much better and my friend made his own choices.

I prefer to process on my own and connect with my friends when I have done that. My friends are wonderful and I and they share but we like to keep our minds clear so that we can work and play together. Yet we share but maybe not the intensity of emotions.

It was refreshing to read your post and I just so agree that we need to take care of ourselves.