Topic : Self Image

I have been married to Steve for 10 years of my life. He never did treated me right. I did everything for him. He never did anything for me. He cheated on me four times since we was married. He got arrested in August 2005 for sexual assult on a woman. He pleaded guilty on a 4th degree mensmador. We got our two children took away from us due to our house was danger to them. Also due to sexual abuse on our daughter. I think that steve did touch my daughter not the other person. I am getting a divorce from steve, but it has been 4 months that i haven't got my divorce yet. Do you think that Steve should have custody of my children? Because he is fighting me with divorce and full custody of my two children.

I remember when I was in high school I didn't have a very good self image.  I was always concerned with some part of me being to big or to small.  Now that I have two kids and have gone up  a few sizes, I think I have a better self image now.  I know I'm not perfect, but who is?  I think somehow having kids and getting used to a "new body"  helped me get over my insecurities.  There were so many things on my body I couldn't fix after having kids, I  had to except myself the way I am.

I was in a situation like yours except that I am still married after 3 years apart.  No, actually 4 now.  Long story.  Ok, child protective services said that your house was a danger to them.  Was this Because of Steve?   How sympathetic do you think a judge will be to a sex offender, esp when it was one his children!  I think he is going to tell Steve to either have no visits or very supervised visits.  Can you tell me more about your situation, like, did you leave him or are you still with him at home, did he leave?

((((((HUGS)))))))

Sunshine 

I AM 26 YEARS OLD AND I WEIGH ABOUT 160LBS.  RECENTLY MY BOYFRIEND OF 8 YEARS HAS BEEN CALLING ME FAT AND TELLING ME THAT IF GAIN MUCH MORE WEIGHT THAT HE WILL NOT BE ATTRACTED TO ME ANYMORE AND WILL PROBABLY HAVE TO LEAVE.  WE HAVE A BEAUTIFUL HOUSE TOGETHER AND TO DOGS THAT ARE LIKE ME CHILDREN AND IT IS HARD TO IMAGINE LIFE WITHOUT ALL THAT AND IT SCARES ME TO START ALL OVER.  I LOVE HIM VERY MUCH AND WOULD LIKE TO SPEND THE REST OF MY LIFE WITH HIM BUT I CAN'T HANDLE ALL THE NAME CALLING.  I AM VERY CONFUSED, PLEASE HELP!!!

APRIL

Hi,

I'm 27 years old and I've been overweight most of my life. I recently lost 55 pounds and I'm still trying to lose more. Everyone continues to tell me how great I look...but I still can't stop thinking and acting like "the fat girl." What I mean by that is not looking people in the eye, never talking to men because I figure they won't want to date the fatty, things like that. How can I change this mode of thinking? I want to change this mode of thinking so I can finally start dating and have a real life. I want to see a pretty, sexy woman in the mirror because I've worked pretty hard to lose this weight. I've always struggled with my weight but struggling with changing my mode of thinking is even harder.

Does anyone have any suggestions? Maybe some books I can read?

Thanks in advance.

Hi, I used to be a model with very vibrant eyes and a very good self-image of myself, but now that I am almost 40 years old. I feel like I have changed so much that I am embarrassed for people that I have not seen in a long time to see me.

I look really totally different than I used to. I used to be so pretty, I look OK now, but I feel like I look weird. My eyes do not look the same at all and I just feel like people think I'm weird now.

I hope and pray that people do not think that, but then I look at photos of me now or even in the mirror and I just feel like I look weird. I don't want to look this way, but I have changed the older I have gotten. Please help me deal with these feelings. Thank you.