Topic : Self Image

I am a 34 yr. old mom , I am 5'5' and 133. Post pregnant I weighed 98 pound's and have not been able to get it off. I THINK I LOOK WAY OVER WEIGHT AND I HATE TO LOOK AT MYSELF IN THE MIRROR OR IN THE SHOWER. I get disgusted everytime I do look. My hip's and stomach have so much fat. And I get depressed. I do how-ever like my hair and my 3 tatto's.

 

Anyone else feel this way.

I am not over weight i am nor skinny,I am somewhere in the middle. But when I look in the mirrow that is not what I see. I see a person who eeven at 98 pound's thought I was over weight. And now at 133 I see even more to hate. I do not like useing hate because it is such a strong word. But I DO I HATE MY BODY. I HATE A SELF IMAGE PROBLEM AND I  know it. There is nothing I like about my melf,except for my tattoo's.   mORE TO COME.

 Have a great weekend every-1 :)

 

Try Trader Joes or a health food store like Whole Food's. And let me know if you find it .. Becaause I am really good at finding stuff like that.

 

kailynsmama@yahoo.com

I am really shocked that there are not more people out there that are ok with who they are.  That is really sad.  For those of you who are not happy with yourself I don't have alot of advice since it would mostly seem hollow to you anyway.  Just try taking it day by day and at least find 5 things you like about yourself every day before you allow yourself to hate one thing.  Acceptance is key.  Accept who you are.  We are not all suppose to be the same so when you see someone that you think is prettier or skinnier, just remember, the grass is not always greener on the other side.

Good luck all

I am aging, overweight and struggle with low self-esteem.  I went to Robin's beauty recipes, and tried her "morning drink" recipe.  I vomited almost immediately afterwards and was sick for hours...

 

How can "normal" people compete with celebrity images?  Look at Robin- she is nearly my age I think (58) and she looks about 35!!! How can everyday people compete with people who have the resources and ability to do things we can't? 

 

Just wanting to vent a bit....thanks.

i am 22 years ol and have been diagnosed with anorexia for 7 years now. I am 5'4 ad weigh 86 pounds but have not lost my period yet. im not normal but i dont skip 3 months. i was in the er for malnurtion two weeks ago and my potassium was reallly low along with other levels. I never missed my period for 3 months even when i was down in the 70's(lbs). Does that mean im healthy for my weight? it says all over websites that anorexics lose their period 3 or more months so I kind of think im not or never have been. yes gaining weight is te biggest fear i have. I want to lose 10 more but everyone says i look like skin and bones and i still see fat. Unsure about the 3 month thing. That makes me think im still healthy where im at.

I am 40 years old, and do not know who I am. 

 

I am married to a wonderful man 20 years older than myself and have done nothing but destroy him and our relationship.  We have been together for 7 3/4 years and married for 5 1/2 of them.

The things I have done in the past 2 years especially, are completely unforgiveable.  I don't know why he didn't put me in jail or hasn't killed me or divorced me yet.  He keeps telling me that he still feels love for me, but I don't know how he can still care at all.

 

I am going to get the Self Matters book and workbook this weekend and hope this helps me get back on the right path in life. 

 

When I was younger, I was always talked down to by everyone, even my parents.  My mother passed away 35 years ago this past Monday, September 17th.  I don't know if any of my feelings and actions stem from this loss, but i hope to find out. 

 

I went to a Psychologist for about 1 month when he told me I have Adult ADD.  I bought the book he told me to get, read it from cover to cover 3 times, and still it has not helped.  I really don't believe I have this disorder, but don't have the money to go to another Professional to find out.

 

I was married at 20 and had my son at 21.  I had my daughter at 30, divorced at 33.  I don't have relationship with either my son or daughter, however I do pay my support, as they live with their father.  I am trying to get the amount reduced since my son is 18 and graduated from high school now, but I am not having any luck here either.

 

I feel as though I never do anything right and make stupid choices in life.  Now that I have such a wonderful person in my life, I am on the verge of losing him too.  I would not be where I am today if it weren't for my current husband.  He has taught me so much, yet I can't seem to apply the "lessons learned" to my everyday life.  I find fault with everyone else in the world, but fail to see what I do wrong.  I can talk about what needs to be done and I KNOW what I need to do, however, for some reason, I can't put it into play.

 

Someone HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I have even involved my husband's 2 daughters and their families in our problems, as we had to borrow money to pay for a lawyer to file Bankruptcy, due to my stupidity with Credit Cards, and I really don't know if I can ever face them again either.

 

PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!  I'M DESPARATE!!!!!!!

 

 

I remeber feeling the same way in high school -- never skinny enough, never pretty enough, chest not big enough, etc.

 

Come to think of it, I still feel that way.  I feel as though I will never measure up, no matter what.

 

I, too, have gone up several sizes, and back down again.  I am 5'6" and currently weigh 150 lbs.  This is down about 25 lbs since March.  I still have way too much fat and flab around my belly, hips and thighs, but I'm not giving up.  My target for myself, depending on how I look, is 125 - 130 lbs.  When I get there, I get there.  I'm not in a hurry, but I want to do this healthy.

 

I don't know if I will ever get over the feeling of low self - esteem and poor self - image, but I sure am going to put up one hell of a fight!

 

Don't y ou give up either!!

You've said it...How do we compete.  The answer is that you're not suppose to.  You're suppose to be the best "YOU" that you can be.  You're not going to be the best Robin.  She's already taken the job.  And truly, no offense to Robin but normal people just don't have the time in their day to do all things neccessary to look like her.  I'm guessing she works out, may have a personal trainer, probably gets facials and manicures and has someone to do her hair, make up and wardrobe for when she's in public.  We mere mortals can not afford all that luxury therefore shouldn't even try to compete or compare ourselves to such a world.   It's ok to look up to a celebrity or admire them but don't try being like them.  It's setting yourself up for failure.  Besides, there aren't many celebs out there anymore worth looking up to.  Find something that you like about you and build on that.

Honey, there is NOTHING healthy about an 86 lb 5'4" person.  So your periods haven't quit.  SO WHAT.  That is just one of many POSSIBLE things that can happen to your body.  Not everything happens to everyone.  I'm sure you are just skin and bones that your friends and family tell you that you are.  You may think that you see fat but it's actually just protruding bones and more than likely sagging skin.  You may not have 10 more lbs to lose.  You might just be dead by then.  I really really hope for your sake that you are getting some professional help.  Your state of mind sounds very scary.  I wish you well.