After many years of envy, jealousy, wanting revenge on beautiful people, I have come to the conclusion that it was my fears that was keeping me in this state of comparisons. I have found that the more I work on improving my life, my looks, etc. the less competitive I felt about others. We have to learn to accept ourselves, and do everything in our power to make our lives successful and productive and also like the person we see when we look in the mirror. to me, if I can like what I see, then I really don't care about what someone else looks like, or has. It becomes insignificant to an extent.
And it is trued, all people suffer. It is a part of life. Beauty, money, power, do not protect from life. People die. Natural disasters happen. Children get sick. Parents dies. Rejection happens. Disappointments are daily, just like in our lives. No one is exempt from life suffering. I think what we see is an air of narcissim in many people. People who are really good looking, rich, etc. have come to believe that they are better then others, which separates them, which makes them lonely in many instances. They too have to work on these grandioise thinking, because they feel everything should just come to them, they are also disappointed because they too are surrounded by shallow people. It can be very unsettling not to have at least one good relationship....to be able to trust just one person enough to know that they like you for who you are, not what you look like or what you have. People like this attract people that are weak and insecure. Its a double edged sword.
Back to self image. I think it is insane how much emphasis is placed on advertising to tell us what we need, want, got to have. I now try to stay out of malls where I will spend money foolishly, watch only selective shows on t.v. so as not to influence negative messages of "I am less then if I don't look like this, or have that, or talk like this, or drive this car, or wear these shoes, or have blue contacts when my eyes are really a deep brown"....the media tries to tell us that who we are, is not good enough. So, my suggestion is to stop allowing advertising to run your show. Stop looking around at people with an envy if they are beautiful and get all the attention, but observe what it is doing to you, how it is affecting you, how you are allowing it to affect your happiness.
I think we should all strive to be healthy. Kimi
