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Created on : Thursday, July 07, 2005, 08:53:12 am
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Do you have a positive or negative self image? Share your struggles and tips with us.
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sunshine80
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April 27, 2006, 11:33 am PDT

That is a beautiful poem

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While the world turns around
I am in the middle
Feet on the ground
But head somewhere beyond
Heart first unbound
Unwilling to commit
Myself to the page
Intense in a feeling
Someplace next to rage
In a past stretching out
To the -enth degree
In a future where there will be
Only me...

Blue

I used to write all of the time, but I don't anymore.  I do blame the pens, though, because the thoughts are there in my head, the pen just won't record them.  No clue why.  Thanks for writing! 

Smile! 

~Sunshine~ 
 
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April 27, 2006, 11:38 am PDT

Algebra Sucks!!!!!

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no the only thing with my schedule that is a problem is algebra well ok so not the only but that is the biggest problem of my classes............. there has also been a lot of cram time........... so yeah anyway...........  i didn't put my jacket on when i was in a rush.......  i snapped at  teacher really bad and then i appologized but he is really laid back and acted as if it were nothing at all and would not say i forgive you and i needed to hear that...........  oh well that is over with now......... i laid out and that was really good!!  i enjoyed it ............  that made me feel better for a while..............  hmmmmm yeah i don't know............  you know i think my expectations of myself are high well that is what others say but i think they are realistic i could be wrong but i think they are

That is the only class that I truly dislike!  I am thinking "I only really care what x equals if it is something important, and if it is something significant then and only then am I going to expend my prescious brain cells to figure it out!  Otherwise it is about as worthwhile as thumb twiddling." 

Sorry you had such a hard time! 

Smile! 

~Sunshine~   
 
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May 5, 2006, 9:41 am PDT

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sorry it's been sjo long i have been way busy
 
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May 5, 2006, 11:39 am PDT

That's Cool!

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sorry it's been sjo long i have been way busy
It's nice to see that you are back.
 
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May 6, 2006, 9:40 am PDT

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It's nice to see that you are back.
thanks!!  i had so much work and other things going on iwth schcool and i finished my classes.........  i have choir tour next week and then i go home
 
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May 8, 2006, 2:58 pm PDT

I am so happy for you

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thanks!!  i had so much work and other things going on iwth schcool and i finished my classes.........  i have choir tour next week and then i go home

Congrats on finishing your classes!  Good Luck on the choir tour.  I have my surgery on my teeth in a few days, so I am cramming a lot of housework into a few days.  I may not be back until next week.  I hope everything goes well! 

Sunshine 

  
 
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May 8, 2006, 3:24 pm PDT

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I have always had a self image, has anyone with this image realized to themselves, the amount of attention you in-cure as a result of this awareness? I talk alot, and because I am so much about me, I tend to say things more than needs to be said, therefore I feel this is a way to get attention, and it seems to come about habitually. Is this common with anyone else? This particular thing, for me is not a good type of attention, it seems as if the judgmental people come out, and why am I okay with continuing to do so if I dislike the people it attracts? QandA's?  
 
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May 8, 2006, 4:42 pm PDT

I am a little confused

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I have always had a self image, has anyone with this image realized to themselves, the amount of attention you in-cure as a result of this awareness? I talk alot, and because I am so much about me, I tend to say things more than needs to be said, therefore I feel this is a way to get attention, and it seems to come about habitually. Is this common with anyone else? This particular thing, for me is not a good type of attention, it seems as if the judgmental people come out, and why am I okay with continuing to do so if I dislike the people it attracts? QandA's?  

Do you have a good self-image or a poor self-image?  I am not sure, do you talk a lot about yourself, or just ramble on about "stuff"?  If it is such a habit, then maybe it could be a defensive or maladaptive coping mechanism?  I have a lot of social anxiety, and when I am on a date, if I get nervous I talk about exes.  This is really bad, but I always seem to do it.  I get the payoff of getting the space I need, instead of setting a boundaries, like ending the date.  It does not really get me anywhere good though.  What payoff are you getting from doing this?
 
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May 8, 2006, 5:44 pm PDT

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Do you have a good self-image or a poor self-image?  I am not sure, do you talk a lot about yourself, or just ramble on about "stuff"?  If it is such a habit, then maybe it could be a defensive or maladaptive coping mechanism?  I have a lot of social anxiety, and when I am on a date, if I get nervous I talk about exes.  This is really bad, but I always seem to do it.  I get the payoff of getting the space I need, instead of setting a boundaries, like ending the date.  It does not really get me anywhere good though.  What payoff are you getting from doing this?
Yes, my self images is good, it hadn't always been that way, but I managed to put it where I want it, however, I am a little embarrassed to address this, although you seem curious and helpful. I make a lot of inappropriate sexual comments, such as nothing to do with the current situation, so of coarse, I get the rolled eye's from women and the results from  men I was subconsciously expecting. EXCEPT, I am married and I tend to do this uncontrollably in front of my husband, it does embarrass him as well. What do I do to catch my tung before it gets me in trouble, and yes I would miss the attention, but, he is too important to me to think anything other than a correction!
 
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May 9, 2006, 6:24 am PDT

Just a guess

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Yes, my self images is good, it hadn't always been that way, but I managed to put it where I want it, however, I am a little embarrassed to address this, although you seem curious and helpful. I make a lot of inappropriate sexual comments, such as nothing to do with the current situation, so of coarse, I get the rolled eye's from women and the results from  men I was subconsciously expecting. EXCEPT, I am married and I tend to do this uncontrollably in front of my husband, it does embarrass him as well. What do I do to catch my tung before it gets me in trouble, and yes I would miss the attention, but, he is too important to me to think anything other than a correction!

Maybe you, like me, resort to this because you are uncomfortable in social situations.  I really do suspect underlying issues as to why you put up this "wall".  When I do it, it is to gain control.  I change the subject, therefore I am now in control.  Could this possibly be the case?  You won't face rejection from the men because you are engaging then in a way that you know will make you an instant success (for the time being).  You said that you didn't always have a good self-image.  What circumstances caused you to have a bad self-image?  I am fairly sure that I can help you, I just want to be sure that I do fully understand the situation. 

Sunshine 
 
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