Topic : Self Image

The David Oliver search turned up nothing...  Darn.  Still searching for a job I can do with my limitations.  Do you have anything else on this?  

Hubby is totally non-cooperative.  The last time I told him to leave he said, "No!".  He has a destructive streak and knows how to pick locks so that isn't much of an option.    

We had a short conversation today and I told him I wanted to find a way to earn enough to get off Medicaid.  He asked why and I told him that if I have to stay on it they will take everything when I pass away.  He said, "So what?"  He doesn't even care.  He once said that when I die he has a friend that will just shoot him and that will be that.  He has no care or concern about the future and no intention of working except for the little bit he makes to buy his gas and soda-pop and whatever.  He does occaionally bring home fast food for a meal and will even cook on occasion.  That and taking care of the yard.  His total contribution to the marriage.  His total contribution to life!  How sad.    

He already has a microwave, built-in vac, television, heater and air conditioner in his "hut".  The fridge won't fit!  LOL  At least I can still laugh about this ridiculous situation...  

I need something other than just the name David Oliver.  In the search mode I can find the D.O. photographer, blog writer, flautist, writer but not a thing on jobs or anything job related.   

As for the central-vac, it was being thrown away because it didn't work.  He brought it home and repaired it.  Same with lawnmowers, snowblowers, light fixtures, plumbing fixtures and the like.  He gets by on very little.  Rarely does he ever ask me for money because he knows I struggle to keep the bills paid.  I won't pay his bills and haven't for years.  He filed bankruptsy almost 7 years ago, got a few credit cards, ran them up to the limits and wouldn't make any payments.  The last dentist he went to to get a tooth pulled hasn't been paid and his teeth are falling apart.  I just do't know what it would take to get this man to act like a MAN!  He acts like a homeless bum but with a roof over his head and regular meals.  It doesn't make any sense at all to me.  And he claims he loves me???  Refuses to get out or do anything more than what he's doing!   

Sorry to trouble you with this, I guess I just have to vent a little.  You have been so kind to just put up with what I'm saying and to continue to respond.  I really appreciate it.  Thank you. 

Go to one or both of these sites because I found the links on these sites.   Sometimes a person just needs to talk so don't worry about troubling me or any of that.  Check out these sites.   I am sensing some other type of trouble, and getting info on esp. bipolar will help you in the right direction.  I think that there may be more to this than meets the eye with your hubby's trouble.  Having a suicide planned for when you die and running up bills on credit cards that he can't or won't pay, neglecting his health and not working are some symptoms of bipolar.  I am no expert except from the bipolar school of hard knocks, but perhaps you might read something useful.  It can't hurt.  I know that I may be playing devil's advocate, but it may be worth your while to assume that there is a medical reason for his behavior.  It certainly is not normal to live the way that he does.   As with any mental illness, with treatment he could resume a fairly normal life similar to what he lived before.   I could not hold a job for more than two weeks before I was treated and now I have a solid 2and a half year work history.  I know that this is a bit off the wall, just a thought.