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Created on : Thursday, July 07, 2005, 08:53:12 am
Author : dataimport
Do you have a positive or negative self image? Share your struggles and tips with us.

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June 25, 2006, 7:45 am PDT

Im all that and I hate it

Hi I do realise, that my issue isn't normal, in fact someone could call it advantage better start in the beginning. I used to be fat as a kid and I had very low self esteem. the reason I ate was the frustration and suffering I had because i have asperger. More I went out the more I ate. I suffered from human poisoning, and there were no cure in sight. Anyway I ate and ate and ate. I hated myself and I thought this is just the way it is. then a miracle happened. I was unemployed for six months and I stopped gorging my self. One day I just stopped. I lost weight and well here comes my problem. I look hot. No, really hot. 

  

Uhh, I went to our mid-summer party and I got asked out four times on the way. I hit the dance floor and I m not just a dancing queen, I'm the empress, all the other girls look bad compared to me. 

Before I go any further, the is some things you should know 

  

fact. my ears are more sensitive than average humans, and that's why I get pure endorphins from music, just imagine the buzz you get after exercise and multiply with hundred. I like to call it white light, and I can do anything to get it. therefore i don't need drugs or alcohol. ever. 

  

because my sensitive hearing I can choose a breeding partner a lot easier than any NT girl. I choose by vocals and vocals alone. actor Alan Rickman is a good example, I call him ultimate perfection. 

I don't go for altos or tenors. ever. 

  

The way I dance.. you have never seen anything like it. I'm in the same level as christina, beyonce and j-lo. Every man in the club wanted me and all the women hated my guts. I had great time 

when I walked home I got propositioned, followed and someone asked for my hand too. I... its not that I didn't have fun, its that... I didn't like it 

  

Iam twenty six year old virgin, and I finally like myself 

 
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surprised
June 25, 2006, 7:56 am PDT

don't be sorry

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sorry about earlier on messenger.......  it is saturday just incase you wonder what i am talking aabout...........  i have no idea what in the world came over me...........  it's like well you know you were on the other end .........  i'm so sorry!!!!
I am surprised that anyone would apologize for "it" that stuff is normal for me
 

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June 26, 2006, 7:02 am PDT

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I am surprised that anyone would apologize for "it" that stuff is normal for me

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i just don't know what to say or anything bye later ..... something like that anyway 

 
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June 30, 2006, 3:11 pm PDT

Self Image??? hmmm

I struggle with this one believe it or not.......... seems on the "net" my super ego goes to town and there my self image is just fine, grandiose to say the least. In real life, and the quiet of my mind or when I look in a mirror, I would like to just well............ diappear or something.   I hate the way I look ,,, I am heavy and getting old and its killing me to say the least...... so I just avoid looking and stay in the house as much as possible as not to be reminded.   

  

I don't know I guess I definately have some self image problems but I don't know how after 38 years to look in that mirror and be ok with it.  I have tried and sometimes I can do it, but then I see other people and get ill again. 

 
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July 6, 2006, 8:38 am PDT

I need help

I live with a man who about 2-3 times a year uses crack. I HATE it. It so kills my spirit. I become afraid of him. We both live with my daughter who is 27 and her 2 children 10 and 7. I would just leave the house but I dont want to leave him here with them to deal with his demons. Its not there problem, and its not my problem. Where do I get help or intervention?
 
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July 6, 2006, 9:18 am PDT

I guess the question is "Why?"

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I live with a man who about 2-3 times a year uses crack. I HATE it. It so kills my spirit. I become afraid of him. We both live with my daughter who is 27 and her 2 children 10 and 7. I would just leave the house but I dont want to leave him here with them to deal with his demons. Its not there problem, and its not my problem. Where do I get help or intervention?
Why does he feel that he has to use crack?  Does he give you a concrete explanation?  Why do you put up with his drug usage?  Depending on the laws where you live your boyfriend could put your daughter at risk for losing her children by allowing him to be around her children when he is high.  Tell him that if he is going to be intoxicated, he needs to leave.  You should not leave, but he can be high somewhere else or not at all. Have a talk to him when he is not high.  Also, let your daughter in on the plan.  You both need to put your foot down for the sake of you and the children.  Maybe him, too.
 
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hopeful
July 6, 2006, 9:28 am PDT

Look in the mirror

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I struggle with this one believe it or not.......... seems on the "net" my super ego goes to town and there my self image is just fine, grandiose to say the least. In real life, and the quiet of my mind or when I look in a mirror, I would like to just well............ diappear or something.   I hate the way I look ,,, I am heavy and getting old and its killing me to say the least...... so I just avoid looking and stay in the house as much as possible as not to be reminded.   

  

I don't know I guess I definately have some self image problems but I don't know how after 38 years to look in that mirror and be ok with it.  I have tried and sometimes I can do it, but then I see other people and get ill again. 

If you really do not like your hair, try a new hairstyle.  Grab a magazine of haircuts and choose something that you absolutely love or would like to try even if it would be a  gutsy change.  If you feel that you are too heavy, read the Ultimate Weight Loss Solution.  I have not read this one myself but I have heard a great many good things about it.  There are discussion and support groups here on it.  There is also a cookbook!  I don't mean to trivialize your feelings of getting old, but aren't we all?  Every person on this earth is getting old as we speak, every moment of every day.   Get out there, out of that house.  Go to the store, go to thelibrary, go to church.  Staying in the house is just going to compound your feelings of loneliness and isolation.  Take up some new hobbies if you want .  I don't get the impression that you are getting old, but I have a feeling your routines and ideals are.  You have probably outgrown them!! 

Let me know how you are doing OK? 

 
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July 6, 2006, 9:42 am PDT

Question?

My mom has an eatting disoder what do i do? 

 
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July 8, 2006, 9:57 am PDT

check out the eating disorder section

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My mom has an eatting disoder what do i do? 

you may find some excellent advice from people with firsthand experience with this.
 

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July 8, 2006, 1:43 pm PDT

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My mom has an eatting disoder what do i do? 

it's hard to say what to do unless you know the person.  I myself suffer from an eatting disorder and I wonder so much of the time is there anything anyone can do.  Well, I don't know but I do know she needs love and to feel like she truely belongs, affermation and so much more.  I only wish I could tell you the one thing that could help your mom I know this must be hard for you and I am so sorry that you have to go through this pain.  Each person is different, even when there are so many things that seem the same.  Well, be here for you the best we can!!  Again, you have no idea how sorry I am that you have to be put in such a situation.  Don't think she doesn't think about how it hurts you and others because I am sure she does and the pain of that only feeds the eating disorder to continue and for her to need it more. 
 
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