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hisjewel

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October 10, 2006, 7:06 am PDT

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I am 15 years old and i am a diebetic,and i can't lose wait even know i need to.I am always walking and i try not eating alot but i get depressed and so i eat and eat when i get like that.and i hate the way my body looks and i just hate myself and i don't know how to lose wait if i keep eating because i am most of the time stressed out and depressed.So please someone help me.Please give me advice.
My first advice is before it's to late stop not eating.......  does that make sense LOL!!  I mean don't keep going where you don't eat.....  before you can't stop!!   right now you think oh i just wanna lose a little weight this is innocent i'm not going to keep doing it, it won't hurt me.... besides i have days i eat a lot......  please don't!!!  it's not as innocent as you think.....  and yes you do get depressed and stressed out and it is good that you see that so in seeing it please don't do it!!  i know that it may not be so easy to just not do it but ........  well yeah.........  do you like you?
 
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October 13, 2006, 10:54 am PDT

Self esteem?

Hi I am new here.

Maybe this sounds familiar, pleasing everybody, but forgeting yourself in the proces? I would do anything to make sure the admosphere is nice. I rarely do anything for myself and don't think i'm pretty...Due to pestering in my past I hope no one sees me. And this doesn't sound to good huh...in other words, my self-image is blown to smithereens and i haven't the faintest how to reclaim it back. (NOTE - ordered the book Self First...)

Maybe someone could relate to my situation???
 
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October 13, 2006, 2:45 pm PDT

help!

I didn't know where esle to post this?!

 

I'm 29 and when my "time of month" comes rolling around, I go beserk! I mean beserk!!!!!!! I have no control over nothing. I alway's thougt that women alway's used that as an excuse to be bitchy, but the older I get and the more I read on this pms thing the more I can understand my body and it's not just an excuse.

 

But, I can't control myself, I'll eat anything and everything(I'm not overweight, I workout, and eat healthy otherwise), I cry for nothing, yell for nothing, think I'm fat and butt ugly, I won't even go out, I'm impatiente, I'm mean, I' m depressed, you name it I have it!! I even left my husband once a month before I realized it was pms! now thats f----d up!! (took me a while to realize it to)

 

Even if I know it's that I still can't control it, I don't need the pill, as my husband say's I'm "fixed", I don't know what to do?

 

As soon as it starts I'm fine and back to my old self again, but it's a long week1/2, let me tell ya!

 

anybody out there with an idea!? anything!
 
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October 14, 2006, 11:51 am PDT

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I didn't know where esle to post this?!

 

I'm 29 and when my "time of month" comes rolling around, I go beserk! I mean beserk!!!!!!! I have no control over nothing. I alway's thougt that women alway's used that as an excuse to be bitchy, but the older I get and the more I read on this pms thing the more I can understand my body and it's not just an excuse.

 

But, I can't control myself, I'll eat anything and everything(I'm not overweight, I workout, and eat healthy otherwise), I cry for nothing, yell for nothing, think I'm fat and butt ugly, I won't even go out, I'm impatiente, I'm mean, I' m depressed, you name it I have it!! I even left my husband once a month before I realized it was pms! now thats f----d up!! (took me a while to realize it to)

 

Even if I know it's that I still can't control it, I don't need the pill, as my husband say's I'm "fixed", I don't know what to do?

 

As soon as it starts I'm fine and back to my old self again, but it's a long week1/2, let me tell ya!

 

anybody out there with an idea!? anything!

When I read your story, I thought, stress...Because I am like that too around that time. Then again, maybe  it is a medical hormonal disorder? I don't use 'the pill' but maybe your body can't handle the differences  and then you react like that?

PS: about the eating frenzie? same here, bitchy? sounds like me. It's like this, for weeks your nice, the rest, make 'em suffer...it's a great way to vent....if he loves you to bits, all is okay. If not, then he has to walk around you for awhile...hahahaha.

Good luck!
 
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October 16, 2006, 6:24 pm PDT

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Hi I am new here.

Maybe this sounds familiar, pleasing everybody, but forgeting yourself in the proces? I would do anything to make sure the admosphere is nice. I rarely do anything for myself and don't think i'm pretty...Due to pestering in my past I hope no one sees me. And this doesn't sound to good huh...in other words, my self-image is blown to smithereens and i haven't the faintest how to reclaim it back. (NOTE - ordered the book Self First...)

Maybe someone could relate to my situation???
yes i have done that my whole life taken care of others never knowing anything different thinking that was what i was for and that others were my responsibility and if something happened wrong with them it was my fault or i should have been able to do something about it.......
 
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October 18, 2006, 12:43 pm PDT

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yes i have done that my whole life taken care of others never knowing anything different thinking that was what i was for and that others were my responsibility and if something happened wrong with them it was my fault or i should have been able to do something about it.......
fact is, somtimes you get pushed into that situation. Take mine. Dad had 2 strokes, needed help, mom left (divorced) him and there  was me - 17 years old, trying to cope. And i did *padds shoulders*. But that still doesn't help the  situation. The book has not come yet, but i heard the audio file (yes, been naughty...), and have trying to make a list with things 'I' want. I am sure he (phil) is speaking the truth and that it will be life changing.

hugz....

we can do it!!!! *peptalk to myself and you*
 
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October 18, 2006, 12:47 pm PDT

looing at my self through dads' eyes

I know that I have a negative attitude about myself.  I have been told by my therapist that I see my self through my dad's abusive eyes.  And that I need to see myself through through God's loving eyes.  A God who see's no faults.  A God who made me just right.  But after 40 some years of abuse it's hard for me to do that.  I keep trying but it's always 1 step forward and 2 steps back.   I have people in my life tell me that I am a wonderful person and I even had a good friend take me into my bathroom, stand me infront of the mirror and point out the good in me.  This poor self esteem is a battle for me.  I wouldn't wish this on any one.  And yes I know DR. Phil I am giving my dead father the power and I need to take it back.
 
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October 18, 2006, 2:14 pm PDT

Ditto

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Why are you stressed?

 

BTW

 

I never look at myself and think WOW.......

 

 

Today I look at myself completely differently in the mirror.

 That happens to me all the time but mostly the later although now that I am free of a really bad relationship the former happens more and more as I regain "ME".
 
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October 18, 2006, 7:15 pm PDT

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fact is, somtimes you get pushed into that situation. Take mine. Dad had 2 strokes, needed help, mom left (divorced) him and there  was me - 17 years old, trying to cope. And i did *padds shoulders*. But that still doesn't help the  situation. The book has not come yet, but i heard the audio file (yes, been naughty...), and have trying to make a list with things 'I' want. I am sure he (phil) is speaking the truth and that it will be life changing.

hugz....

we can do it!!!! *peptalk to myself and you*
yeah we do get pushed into it..... only i never had a chance to get pushed i thought it was normal it was like that from the time i was in infant......  although it got worse as i got older but still while i was a kid.........  hmmm anyway...... yes we can do it!!  we have to do it!!  sighs.........  i went with my mom to the store the other day and picked her clothes out for here LOL!!  that's just a little thing that's not much at all but haaaaa yeah...........
 
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October 19, 2006, 6:40 am PDT

i can't put myself first

i am a 37 yr. old mother of two and wife. all my life i wanted a boy and a girl, and on my first date with my husband i knew i wanted him in my life 4ever,  my dreams came true and we will be married 18 years on oct.22. all my prayers were answered so i have always given to my family and my wants and needs have always come last. i don't buy myself anything bcuz i feel so guilty bcuz i feel like my kids or my husband need things more. i was always a happy go lucky person but that is fadeing and my self image sucks. i don't have any real cothes i am losing my hair due to stress and almost 4 years ago i had gastric bypass surgery thinking it would help me feel better about myself, boy was i wrong. my body is oddly shaped and my self esteem is in the dumps and i am losing the fight with my son who is adhd and bi-polar so i don't have the energy to do anything with my self, all i do is cry and wonder why my husband stays with me when i know he could do better and am i a embarresment to my kids. i just wonder if i will ever be happy again physicaly or spiritually.
 
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